• Things My Wife Didn't Know


      She made me quote cliches like this: Love is sweeter the 2nd time around.
      She made me so happy when we finally had an official relationship status. I was now a firm believer that love is sweeter the 2nd time around. We were stronger, more mature and appreciated what we had in comparison to our failed relationships. I wanted her to be happy so I gave her simple surprises just because she delights in them. We have dozens of stuffed babies, I baby talk and I didn’t care if others would find it corny. I am happy. She made me pursue my love in photography and made a business out of it. I would like to say that I somehow made a name in the industry and all thanks to her push to make me do that thing I love doing.
      We had a short breakup because of a misunderstanding in Dumaguete. I went out with friends while she was at home. It was there that I realized that I couldn’t live a day without her so I called a good friend, Jayson, to produce an engagement ring. It was the start of a 3-month preparation for the perfect proposal for her—based on her all-time favorite proposal from Monica to Chandler in FRIENDS. She didn’t know during those 3 months and thanks to iSTORYAns belle, pisskhanXXX (who flew all the way from Clark, Pampanga), my siblings, parents, and very close friends. I talked to my family about this plan during one dinner. I said, “Pa, I’m gonna marry Arlyn…I will propose to her.” And my father with a smile said, “I know…” it’s one good feeling to have your parents approve of a lifetime decision. I know I made the right one. The rest of the proposal story is here written by her (click here for story)


      My wife is strong—she does not scream when she sees a flying cockroach.

      I married her twice—once in a simple church wedding and another on a grand wedding with all friends and family. I married her twice because she’s worth it. Heck, I would marry her every day if I can. I could not, for the life of me, imagine my life had it been someone else. Stories, click here—Church wedding and Grand Wedding.


      When you see our stories, it might seem really inspiring but being in it is not a walk in the park. We had so much on our hands to deal with. Recently, our challenges were not your normal, average ones— we transferred houses to be on our own, we lost our 18-day old baby Levi who looked a lot like me (click for story here) and less than 2 months after that, I was recently diagnosed with Acute Myeloid Leukemia and had to go on chemotherapy. Yes, it is that tragic—for others. Ours is not an easy feat. I am recently battling Cancer and yet, I feel strong. I have never been this calm and composed. My wife dedicated blog articles to document this battle of ours-> Lito Inso aka CraSHBURN
      for wifey
      Arlyn "Ara" Inso aka thisbe.ara


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      Comments 178 Comments
      1. geraldfrancis1978's Avatar
        geraldfrancis1978 -
        wow!!!!!!!wow!!!!! and WOW!!!!!
      1. adz's Avatar
        adz -
        This made me cry kudos CraSHBURN and to his wifey...
      1. jofer's Avatar
        jofer -
        very nice and inspiring story sir.get well soon!
      1. chubbyhubby's Avatar
        chubbyhubby -
        Quote Originally Posted by thisbe.ara View Post
        when you made this last night, we both cried. reading it now, i don't know what to say. there are no words pree. i just love you so much. and i am happy to be loved by someone like you.. love you. love you. love you. thank you so much for this and for everything.


        wow... you guys are different... hope that u'll be able to survived whatever challenges in our life...be marked, that in this world, " lawas natong tanan, temporary lang " but never ang " love&memories " mawala... i deeply wish for your fastest recovery bro.... God bless you both!


        P.S.----> looking forward in this forum...
      1. pruce's Avatar
        pruce -
        when two become one, it makes life everyday worthy.
      1. smartmart's Avatar
        smartmart -
        hhhhuWaW! love knows no boundaries!
      1. DIWJHONHOW's Avatar
        DIWJHONHOW -
        Series of trials that comes in your life doesn't mean that GOD has forsaken you, He has chosen both of you because he know you're strong enough to conquer every obstacles in life and so that you both can touch other peoples life thru your life inspiring stories..... we are still and always include you in our prayers.......
      1. missyangrabaya's Avatar
        missyangrabaya -
        Awww. Speechless ako.
      1. shey0811's Avatar
        shey0811 -
        While I was reading this, my mother barges into the room and starts to read, too. She had just lost her husband last December and is currently battling it out with her own loss. Thank you for the kind of inspiration and sense of encouragement you gave my mother through writing this, even more for choosing to love despite the odds...

        Thank you for sharing this story. I know this is very personal yet you made us see through both of you. And thank you for making me believe in true love again...

        God bless you even more! I will keep praying for your quick recovery. Stay strong. God never gives us stones (or rocks) we can't catch!
      1. Scott Bernard's Avatar
        Scott Bernard -
        Bro, I kinda noticed you way back 2002-2003. Did you have a band way back then? My memory is now a bit joggy, and I'm not sure if you were part of the band, Panic in the Sky/No Peace... forgive me if I am gravely mistaken.

        Anyway, as I read your story, it made me realize lots of things. Most of us don't notice the simple things in life including the blessings we hardly don't take a look for a second.

        We are all players in this big chessboard we call life. God might have a purpose why you were given with those challenges. The future might be uncertain for all of us, take note that your story has started a ripple in my life.
      1. jmarie's Avatar
        jmarie -
        i too am greatly touched by your story. thanks for sharing..
      1. addbotroll's Avatar
        addbotroll -
        this is one love story i didn't stop reading until the end...second to The Notebook...

        a line of a deftones song is dedicated to you sir....
        "...in my own summer, the shade is a tool..."
        your wife, sir, is your shade in your life....

        i'm not a "salig-sa-ginoo/prayer" type of guy pero i sure do hope everything will work out fine for you, sir....and of course, your family as well....

        i saw the thread before that you needed some blood and all but i can't donate now (and to the Red Cross which i try to every 3 months back then) since i am already in maintenance meds....

        the only time i get into the front page of istorya.net is when i log out.... i never even logged out of my clone account..... (this account would probably get banned, but heck, it's worth posting here...)

        - kit_cebu
      1. khendi_ramirez's Avatar
        khendi_ramirez -
        I first heared of Lito Inso - "the Famous Photographer" just last year when I made an inquiry for one of my clients. I didn't know till recently that he & wifey is also an Istoryan. I somehow caught myself following their blogs & came to know them better not just as a couple but also as their individual persons.

        Thanks so much Lito & Ara for sharing your touching life story to all of us, you simply showed us how great life can be despite the unexpected battles. You had the option to keep your life private yet you choose to be an inspiration. Stay strong for many fellow-istoryans are praying for you.
      1. Raceir's Avatar
        Raceir -
        very nice..
      1. din428's Avatar
        din428 -
        haist akong luha katagon....
      1. Raceir's Avatar
        Raceir -
        I will tell this story to someone..hihijih
      1. unique's Avatar
        unique -
        very inspiring... thank you for sharing.

        hope it can also inspire others... beyond istorya.net
      1. spike412's Avatar
        spike412 -
        such an inspiring love story...we all have different stories and experiences to tell. your love story is truly inspiring. i'll be sharing this to my husband. thank you for sharing. you have my prayers for your recovery.
      1. thisbe.ara's Avatar
        thisbe.ara -
        hi everyone, lito and i have been reading your comments and we are still so overwhelmed by the rush of support. it balms our hearts that we were able to touch your lives by our story. we apologize for the late response coz we are both preparing for lito's 2nd dose of chemo therapy. so, i'll try to answer on his behalf (again):

        @shey0811: please extend our warmest condolences to your mom. i am sure that she is in great pain for the loss.

        @Scott Bernard: lito says he didn't belong to a band (he wished to belong in one, though! hehe).. thank you for reading.

        and to everyone: thank you. thank you so much for reading. I do maintain a blog so I can update everyone (relatives and friends abroad) regarding Lito's condition. You can drop a prayer as well for healing and well-wishes too, if you may.

        Do know that much as we may have inspired you, all the sincere concern and genuine prayers by people we haven't met yet, people we don't know are so so overwhelming. It is in these things that believers and non-believers, practicing and non-practicing, can feel that there is a God, and He manifests His love and care to random people. Thank you everyone. God bless us all!
      1. thisbe.ara's Avatar
        thisbe.ara -
        Quote Originally Posted by addbotroll View Post
        this is one love story i didn't stop reading until the end...second to The Notebook...
        wow. thanks, such a heart booster. salamat!

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