Tired to trust again

[care_bear]

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Hi guys! I just want to get your opinions about a story that I am about to tell u.

I had a boyfriend (so wala na, homana) and ni last mi almost two years and we got separated because of some petty reason (dili nlng nko isulti ky mabaw jud ra) and iyahay namig life. He had his rltnshps after me and so did I. It's been 5-6 years already nga wala nami contact, and then on the 6th year nagkakita mi balik. He visited me at my place. And I was quite shocked that he suddenly showed up after years of not seeing each other. I asked him how was he, and he said, I just came back from Manila. I'm glad. I told him, why? I get to see u again, he replied and I said, ok, so what's keeping u busy now? I came to visit u all (friends, exes -maybe! LOL) and I said, OK. Wala kay dala dha? (I meant presents ba ky we're friends after all). Wala lagi ky naa gamay mga prob sa work, family gamay. Ok. Then from there on he often visited me, and ihatud2 ko sa ako giworkan. And nadugay nahibong ko ngano nisagunson syag pakita and ngpaka good kunohay nko. He said, I missed you. Wala ka mingawa nko? Ako ingnan, miss pod pero we're friends, right? I mean friends miss each other also. I didn't want to put a label ky bcn nag assume rko. But that time I just broke up with my BF. But honestly wla ko kbaw kng sya jud ako na miss or c ex BF nko. I did miss the feeling of caring for someone nga gi love ka. He was there by my side when I was confused and down with my recent rltnship and na ganahan ko balik niya. I dnt know if sya ang like jud nko or the feeling lang nga replacement sa recent rltnshp. Nadugay cgeg koug ky na ganahan njud ko blik niya ky I felt comforted and belonged. Whereas when I was with my recent rltnshp ky ako lng cgeg effort, I felt tired and sick nga cge lng ako gukod niya kng mag away or naa mi misunderstandings. Then just to be honest ni ex nko I felt I was a princess and naa sya sa times nga down ko. And there came a time nagbalik jud mi, though I know mu balik sya sa Manila. And I was damn hoping nga bcn kng kami balik mo work-out nami. One time naa na happen namo and mao rajud gihapon as planned nibalik sya and kalit ka cut amu commu. I did find ways to contact him but wala ra. And I decided to cut off all means of commu. I was more frustrated than hurt because I did hope that we could still work on it but still failed. I was thinking that may be wala pajud niabot ang person nga for me jud. And 3-4 years later we saw each other again. I wasn't thinking of anything already pra dili na masakitan. But after we parted ways wla najud mi contact ato. I did give him chances nga mo explain but he acted as if nothing happened. So when I saw him deadma nalng ky kapoy. Naa ko own probs pra e-resolve so wla ko time mag care na sa past nga wla gni niya gi care ug explain. And he confessed, he was waiting for me bck then, he waited for me to ask questions and I waited for him to explain. We both waited for each other's actions but wla rjud. And now we're fixing things up. But I dnt know if we should still try it out again. And here's another thing. The time when he went back to Manila, he was all along waiting for me to contact him or tell him that I was pregnant. And when he came to visit me he was hoping that some young kid would open the gate for him and would confirm that he really has a child with me. He was thinking I kept the child from him or naa ko other guy nga gipaangkon sa bata bisag sya ang dad. I LOLed to everything he told me. Ka ingn ko nayabag njud ning tawhana! He must be very frustrated to hear the news nga wala ko na pregnant. And now I dnt knw already kng reasonable magbalik mi or dili na.

Please respect my thread.

[Passport]

Hi guys! I just want to get your opinions about a story that I am about to tell u.

I had a boyfriend (so wala na, homana) and ni last mi almost two years and we got separated because of some petty reason (dili nlng nko isulti ky mabaw jud ra) and iyahay namig life. He had his rltnshps after me and so did I. It's been 5-6 years already nga wala nami contact, and then on the 6th year nagkakita mi balik. He visited me at my place. And I was quite shocked that he suddenly showed up after years of not seeing each other. I asked him how was he, and he said, I just came back from Manila. I'm glad. I told him, why? I get to see u again, he replied and I said, ok, so what's keeping u busy now? I came to visit u all (friends, exes -maybe! LOL) and I said, OK. Wala kay dala dha? (I meant presents ba ky we're friends after all). Wala lagi ky naa gamay mga prob sa work, family gamay. Ok. Then from there on he often visited me, and ihatud2 ko sa ako giworkan. And nadugay nahibong ko ngano nisagunson syag pakita and ngpaka good kunohay nko. He said, I missed you. Wala ka mingawa nko? Ako ingnan, miss pod pero we're friends, right? I mean friends miss each other also. I didn't want to put a label ky bcn nag assume rko. But that time I just broke up with my BF. But honestly wla ko kbaw kng sya jud ako na miss or c ex BF nko. I did miss the feeling of caring for someone nga gi love ka. He was there by my side when I was confused and down with my recent rltnship and na ganahan ko balik niya. I dnt know if sya ang like jud nko or the feeling lang nga replacement sa recent rltnshp. Nadugay cgeg koug ky na ganahan njud ko blik niya ky I felt comforted and belonged. Whereas when I was with my recent rltnshp ky ako lng cgeg effort, I felt tired and sick nga cge lng ako gukod niya kng mag away or naa mi misunderstandings. Then just to be honest ni ex nko I felt I was a princess and naa sya sa times nga down ko. And there came a time nagbalik jud mi, though I know mu balik sya sa Manila. And I was damn hoping nga bcn kng kami balik mo work-out nami. One time naa na happen namo and mao rajud gihapon as planned nibalik sya and kalit ka cut amu commu. I did find ways to contact him but wala ra. And I decided to cut off all means of commu. I was more frustrated than hurt because I did hope that we could still work on it but still failed. I was thinking that may be wala pajud niabot ang person nga for me jud. And 3-4 years later we saw each other again. I wasn't thinking of anything already pra dili na masakitan. But after we parted ways wla najud mi contact ato. I did give him chances nga mo explain but he acted as if nothing happened. So when I saw him deadma nalng ky kapoy. Naa ko own probs pra e-resolve so wla ko time mag care na sa past nga wla gni niya gi care ug explain. And he confessed, he was waiting for me bck then, he waited for me to ask questions and I waited for him to explain. We both waited for each other's actions but wla rjud. And now we're fixing things up. But I dnt know if we should still try it out again. And here's another thing. The time when he went back to Manila, he was all along waiting for me to contact him or tell him that I was pregnant. And when he came to visit me he was hoping that some young kid would open the gate for him and would confirm that he really has a child with me. He was thinking I kept the child from him or naa ko other guy nga gipaangkon sa bata bisag sya ang dad. I LOLed to everything he told me. Ka ingn ko nayabag njud ning tawhana! He must be very frustrated to hear the news nga wala ko na pregnant. And now I dnt knw already kng reasonable magbalik mi or dili na. Please respect my thread.

have you considered the times he just left without a word?

I asked because someone who is really into a real relationship will never do that.. kung love gyud.

[care_bear]

have you considered the times he just left without a word?

I asked because someone who is really into a real relationship will never do that.. kung love gyud.

Sa ako na observe niya dili sya tig tell ug probs about family jud. Add kto tyma probs iya family dghan and nahibaw-an nko sa amo common friends lang. And I feel hurt pod the fact he keeps all probs to himself. But yeah It was so unfair nga wala sya feel nko naninguha nga mo contact pag balik niya Manila. And ingn niya krn (danghagon jud sya noon daan) nahabilin sa taxi..etc... ambot lisud tuohan but gi try nko mag positive thinking. I dnt knw pod kng ngano. Then the time I gave him a time to explained but wla but he said how can he explained kng gi blocked nko sya online. Ikaw bro unsa kha?

[Passport]

Sa ako na observe niya dili sya tig tell ug probs about family jud. Add kto tyma probs iya family dghan and nahibaw-an nko sa amo common friends lang. And I feel hurt pod the fact he keeps all probs to himself. But yeah It was so unfair nga wala sya feel nko naninguha nga mo contact pag balik niya Manila. And ingn niya krn (danghagon jud sya noon daan) nahabilin sa taxi..etc... ambot lisud tuohan but gi try nko mag positive thinking. I dnt knw pod kng ngano. Then the time I gave him a time to explained but wla but he said how can he explained kng gi blocked nko sya online. Ikaw bro unsa kha?

Lisod man .. kay all we know is what we read based sa imo post.. pero.. ambot. You know him well I guess... ask your heart. Para nako lang.. I can not justify other problems ngano wala sya nisulti nimo. The more pa man gani unta sya mosulti.. kay.. in a deep relationship like that.. you were part of him and vice versa... (past tense lang nako ha)...

[care_bear]

Lisod man .. kay all we know is what we read based sa imo post.. pero.. ambot. You know him well I guess... ask your heart. Para nako lang.. I can not justify other problems ngano wala sya nisulti nimo. The more pa man gani unta sya mosulti.. kay.. in a deep relationship like that.. you were part of him and vice versa... (past tense lang nako ha)...

I dnt know either. Actually mas sakit nga dili sya musulti nko pero sa bestfriends musulti. I am confused to why his head runs like that. Karon gnhan sya balik. Dri na daw sya balik Cebu. I told him imo fam sa Manila, sila ra ddto? Ikw, will u be fine here? He said, I'll be fine. Pero I want to fix things bet. us. And I sed, r u sure? R u sure dri nka? R u sure u want to be with me agen? U knw me, I dnt sugar coat words, if I'm hurt I tell u, if I'm sad u feel it too. If I'm in agony u see through me. I dnt hide things from u and i dnt understand why u hide things like fam probs from me. I am in no position to decide regarding your family probs but u knw I'm here but u just won't tell me. He keeps everything about them (fam) but things about his exes iya jud ipang tell nko. I dnt knw unsa iya intention ana. He asked me sa time ngano wla dw ko BF if I was waiting for him to come back, I told him..I was waiting.. waiting for someone in general not particularly. Bcn nag assume rka ikaw. I throw bck his ques. then ingn sya i dnt understand why wla ka kta lain nga in terms of looks u r good. In terms of attitude you're greater.

Nag ask ko krn ky of course ganahan ko niya ky comfortable nko kaayo but i'm doubtful kng real sya this time.
His fam knows me, so with my family as well. We spent times together with the family. I know his friends and vice versa. Murag everything around us is fine but kami ang shaky. When we were studying my family even told me after u graduate kng kamu pa u can settle down already. Ingn ana ka ok jud but things have changed.

[C'thulhu]

The question TS, is; do you really love the guy or do you love the feeling to be loved, comfortable, cared for and in love...

Naa man gud times na we tend to interchange both... labi na comfortable na ta sa person involved...

[Wynna]

been there, done that. nihatag kog 3 chances, after wala na jud. Kapoy man na, walay backbone, og walay panindigan. Inig balik niya ako pay gitagaan og ultimatum? kapal muks! hahahaha bitaw, dili na worth it TS. If nahimo na niya og kausa, mahimo pa na niya og balik bisan kanus-a. so DO NOT TRUST!

[burgersteak]

Hi guys! I just want to get your opinions about a story that I am about to tell u.

I had a boyfriend (so wala na, homana) and ni last mi almost two years and we got separated because of some petty reason (dili nlng nko isulti ky mabaw jud ra) and iyahay namig life. He had his rltnshps after me and so did I. It's been 5-6 years already nga wala nami contact, and then on the 6th year nagkakita mi balik. He visited me at my place. And I was quite shocked that he suddenly showed up after years of not seeing each other. I asked him how was he, and he said, I just came back from Manila. I'm glad. I told him, why? I get to see u again, he replied and I said, ok, so what's keeping u busy now? I came to visit u all (friends, exes -maybe! LOL) and I said, OK. Wala kay dala dha? (I meant presents ba ky we're friends after all). Wala lagi ky naa gamay mga prob sa work, family gamay. Ok. Then from there on he often visited me, and ihatud2 ko sa ako giworkan. And nadugay nahibong ko ngano nisagunson syag pakita and ngpaka good kunohay nko. He said, I missed you. Wala ka mingawa nko? Ako ingnan, miss pod pero we're friends, right? I mean friends miss each other also. I didn't want to put a label ky bcn nag assume rko. But that time I just broke up with my BF. But honestly wla ko kbaw kng sya jud ako na miss or c ex BF nko. I did miss the feeling of caring for someone nga gi love ka. He was there by my side when I was confused and down with my recent rltnship and na ganahan ko balik niya. I dnt know if sya ang like jud nko or the feeling lang nga replacement sa recent rltnshp. Nadugay cgeg koug ky na ganahan njud ko blik niya ky I felt comforted and belonged. Whereas when I was with my recent rltnshp ky ako lng cgeg effort, I felt tired and sick nga cge lng ako gukod niya kng mag away or naa mi misunderstandings. Then just to be honest ni ex nko I felt I was a princess and naa sya sa times nga down ko. And there came a time nagbalik jud mi, though I know mu balik sya sa Manila. And I was damn hoping nga bcn kng kami balik mo work-out nami. One time naa na happen namo and mao rajud gihapon as planned nibalik sya and kalit ka cut amu commu. I did find ways to contact him but wala ra. And I decided to cut off all means of commu. I was more frustrated than hurt because I did hope that we could still work on it but still failed. I was thinking that may be wala pajud niabot ang person nga for me jud. And 3-4 years later we saw each other again. I wasn't thinking of anything already pra dili na masakitan. But after we parted ways wla najud mi contact ato. I did give him chances nga mo explain but he acted as if nothing happened. So when I saw him deadma nalng ky kapoy. Naa ko own probs pra e-resolve so wla ko time mag care na sa past nga wla gni niya gi care ug explain. And he confessed, he was waiting for me bck then, he waited for me to ask questions and I waited for him to explain. We both waited for each other's actions but wla rjud. And now we're fixing things up. But I dnt know if we should still try it out again. And here's another thing. The time when he went back to Manila, he was all along waiting for me to contact him or tell him that I was pregnant. And when he came to visit me he was hoping that some young kid would open the gate for him and would confirm that he really has a child with me. He was thinking I kept the child from him or naa ko other guy nga gipaangkon sa bata bisag sya ang dad. I LOLed to everything he told me. Ka ingn ko nayabag njud ning tawhana! He must be very frustrated to hear the news nga wala ko na pregnant. And now I dnt knw already kng reasonable magbalik mi or dili na. Please respect my thread.

If he loves you dle siya mobiya without saying anything. You gave him a chance but he blew it. Ayaw na.

OT: Sakit ako mata nagbasa TS. Hehe.

[C'thulhu]

Sakto jud na c ma'am @Wynna, if he's done it before, what's stopping him from doing it again...

[FredieMercury]

been there, done that. nihatag kog 3 chances, after wala na jud. Kapoy man na, walay backbone, og walay panindigan. Inig balik niya ako pay gitagaan og ultimatum? kapal muks! hahahaha bitaw, dili na worth it TS. If nahimo na niya og kausa, mahimo pa na niya og balik bisan kanus-a. so DO NOT TRUST!

sakto btaw ayaw pag gamit ug TRUST kay dali ra na mabuslot pag DUREX lang...lol jok

btaw TS patambag ni papa joe ky maau to motambag anang problemaha para malandagan imu huna huna bah..