need parental/friendly advice

[one]

---

Guys,

Mangayo ta ko advice, comments or suggestions about ani situation nako..

3 years name sa ako bf, both 24 and are already working..
Both our parents already knew about us, nakameet the parents and some family members namo both sides.

Last month, nihawa akong kaapartment so I have to look for a new apartment.
after a month pangita, wala pd ko kita kabalhinan ky pilian mn sad kog puy anan gud, di ko mosettle daun unless comfortable nako..
Nisuggest akong bf na adto nlng daw ko sa iya gpuy an since xa ra mn usa den comfortable sad iya place. Gkapoy napd ko pangita so nisugot ko na mobalhin nlng ko sa iya place.

Karon ky nana ko sa iya place but wa pa kahibaw akong parents or igsuon ani.. Plano ko motug an nila but wa ko kadare ky mahadlok ko malain sila nako..
Medjo conservative pa jd akong parents..T.T

Though ako pd to ghuna2x daan before ko nibalhin, ang problema lng nako ky wa jd ko kasulti nila.
Niattempt kog open up sa ako papa once but wa ko kasulti jd ky murag lain mn ang xa, opening pa lng..

Di pa mn sad me nahan magminyo sa akong bf, di me gusto magdali2x tingaleg magmahay me..
For now, decide me na we stay together but marriage would be in the next 5 yrs pa.
Parehas pd me huna2x sa akong bf,nahan pa motravel na way hassle, night out panagsa, so di pa jd me magminyo.


Kahibaw na ang parents sa akong bf sa among situation ron, ang ako lng parents and family wala..

Unsaon mana nako pagsulti sa ila in a nice way as much as possible? Nahn ko na mosulti nila, wa ko maanad na magtago2x gud..

Hope maenlighten ko ninyo..Lamat daan,

[jofer]

one ang imo ni papa.so di na jud ka mangita lain apartment? joke bitaw ts.pangita lain oi.pwede sd imo sila ingnon sa tinood.daghan kaau consequences ana inyo buhat ron.pwede ka mamabdos nya wala pa man kaha mo plano.

[jack_bauer]

sis, before ka mo sulti sa imo parents regarding the situation.. Pila namo ka months ng live together? if its just 3 or 4, give it some time.. maybe latter on, you'll realized something..

i was once in your situation though ako ang laki, ng ipon mi sa akong (ex)gf, right after 2mos ni sulti dayon mi sa among both parents, ok rman sila.. ni atubang man sd ko sa iya parents.. ni sabot ra pd sila.. kay almost exactly ninyo 24 pd mi that time..

to make the story short, after almost a year mi ng ipon, we separated ways.. prior to that, we are bf/gf for about 3yrs..

what i wanted to share is this, dili man lisod pg accept sa imong parents nga nakig ipon nka.. but mas lisod makig bulag kun imong parents nka gusto na sa imong partner.. ehehehe

pwede dili mgka parehas outcome sa atong sitwasyon.. and i hope nga dili mo mg buwag.. pero, just for a while.. give it some time..

[cloudduster]

Actually, geh kapoy kag pangita og kabalhi-nan because naa man kay easy option. You could have found a new place 2-3 months before ni hawa imong housemate unless emergency evacuation to iyang geh buhat. Now, I have no issue with intimacy and *toot* *toot* but ikaw na mismo nag sulti nga conservative imong parents. If you value them, hinay nag pangita og kabalhinan kay medyo lain pud paminawon nga ikaw ang nangi-pon sa balay sa laki

[yvonne6]

this is the most convenient way of knowing the other person better. trust me, lahi ra jud kaau nang mag ipon mo, daghan kag ma uncover. as a parent, naa lang gihapon na natong mga pilipino nga lain kay nakig live in na but at the end of the day, imo manang life, you take care of it make sure lang nga ug mapalpak ka, you are responsible enough to deal with the situation. make sure you are a good daughter to your parents and be good to your siblings kay magkinaunsa, bf mailisan, family, never jud. sila ang always naa para nimo

[J.Abz]

I would suggest you need to find an apartment that you can call your own.. YOu said it for yourself. You like to find a place that you can be comfortable with. Now do you think living with your bf, and knowing his all is a thing you really like? honestly lang? Do you think your guilt can make you sleep at all at night? I don't think you can ever sleep at all right? that is why gani nagpatambag ka dire kay your guilt is eating up inside of you.

I know living together is knowing each other. But there are many many ways of knowing one another WITHOUT necessarily living together jud.

Don't be dependent to your bf because the moment naa moy away... IKAW ANG ALKANSI kay IKAW ANG NANGIPON NIYA.. dili siya. Hope di type imong bf mamoyboy pero if I we're you.. IWAS nalang ka samtang sayo pa.

It's always better to live independently and hassle free. Your bf deep down knows as well that though he is happy seeing you always and say magkita mo ug magsleep mo together... BUT deep down on his mind, he knows also the wrong side of things.. Mauwaw lang na cya mo open nimo pero deep down he has that thoughts as well....

You don't need to open up to your family because they don't deserve any explanations on what your doing... IT'S YOU who should start DOING things rather than just explaining things...

Don't rush things in living out... cause the moment naa na gani away away sa inyong part sa imong bf... TRUST me... it's you who will regret it kay ikaw man ang nangipon nya... It's never easy living out... and like I've said above... there are too many ways of knowing each other without necessarily going to the point of living together...

You'll thank me in the future if you'll follow your instinct more than your guilt...

[Renz8]

Lsud na emo situation TS bsan knsa parents ug mahibaw ma suko jud labi pa kai conservative emo pamilya pangita lng ug lain apt mintras sayo pa arun walay gubot between sa inyo mga pamilya ok ra sa side sa emo BF kai lalaki gud ila apan sa side nmo masuko jud............

[KDThunder]

they are your parents sila nagpadaku nimo, sila nag guide nimo, sila unang ma worried if something happens to you and sila first nimong maduulan kung magkinaunsa..i think naa man jud na silay katungod na makahibaw ug unsay situation nimo ron, ako pa nimo mangita lang ka laing apartment kanang kaugalingon jud nimo.. sakto jud nang ubang gesulti dre daghan man gud possibilities na pwd mahitabo sama anang ma pregnant ka or butang lang nato ma change kalit imong bf nyah naay buhatong dautan nimo pero example rani huh ga base rasad ko sa ubang news na makit an nako na same situation nimo ron in reality pwd sad baya na mahitabo..luoy kaayo imong parents walay kalibutan sa mga nahitabo na nimo, just try to think of this ikaw sa ilang side nyah ikaw nasad ang ma mother nyah in anaon ka sa imong anak unsa imong ma feel? i mean the entire life of our parents spend much time for us para lang ma secure atong future and para sad ma protektahan ta labi na katung gamay pata..sakit man cguro huna-hunaon para nila kung half of our decision di ta mu consult nila..they have right to know kung unsay mga panghitabo sa imong life kanang imong bf kung love jud ka niya musugot rana sa in ana nga way unsa may reason nganong magtago-tago mo? unsa ra d i na inyong situation ron tilaw-tilaw lang unsay feeling sa minyo na? hehe..bitaw kung love jud ninyo ang usat-usa importante makahibaw inyong family both side ninyong duha..

[ondoy]

i like the word "comfortable" hehe...simple rna TS, u made a decision to stay with ur bf then maglisod ka sulti saimo parents? weeeeh

[pink_mio]

ok ra man mo mag live-in...
basta wala lang mahitabo
sa inyoha

safety first...