How to win back trust?

[Turagsoy]

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Here is the situation, The guy nakabuntis og certain girl then nagkasila.... Ang girl nay anak sa lain laki in which they broke up already before nagkauyab sila sa guy...While nagbuntis ang girl, the guy kay walay paki alam and gipasagdan ang situation.. The girl didn't react coz basin nakalitan ra ang guy sa situation... Hantod 6 months pregnant.. The guy was forced by the girl's family to take responsibility of the child.. In which he did until nanganak.. The guy decided to live with the girl which is normal... In the long run, murag ang guy wala pa matagbaw pagka sa ulitaw..sigeg laag and sigeg inum while she stays at home... up to the point na sometimes dina mo uli ang guy sa balay nila..Maghuwat tawn ang girl sa panihapon nya way motunga. Nasakpan pajud sa girl ang cellphone sa laki na nay flirty messages from other girls. The girl also hacked the account sa facebook og ym sa guy and confirmed na naa pod mga messages. Napuno ang girl and decided to break up. The guy moved out sa balay but still giving sustento sa baby. After that wala na sila nag communicate sa girl unless for the baby nalang...

Few months has passed (7-8 months) they became good friends and started going out again...From then on, the guy courted the girl so nagkabalik sila. Everything went well kay nagtinarong na ang laki and both of them can gimik na kay dako na ang baby (1 year old) plus nanay yaya gabantay..At some point, mabalik jud ang bisyo sa laki..Mo laag nya wa kibaw ang girl(not the cheating part, kato lang inum2x with barkadas).. at this time nana man work ang girl so dili niya ma check real time kong asa.. Mahibaw an ra sa girl igka kita sa guy kay kwaon man sa work ang girl... The guy did it twice. Napuno napod ang girl she decided to break up again.. This time the guy is very sincere, I mean he tried his best na dili na maguba ilang relationship.. However, there are instances na masipyat ang guy. Understandable ang side sa girl kay tungod sa past..Sincere man pod ang guy kay second chance na and trying to fix ang family...

How can we fix the situation? How can we win the girls trust back? Should the guy give up or insist? Any advise you can give to the guy or girl? Please I need your help guys.. Thanks..

[want2binvolve]

patagbawa nang laki oie... tyg naa bai lain bisyo iya gusto suwayan?... hehe... to win back trust is hard to do, especially if you have given it once or twice for such convincing reconciliations... You can gain trust if you show sincerity but the real thing is if you're up to it till the end... we're looking for permanent trust, not just temporary... if we keep our words and promises true then there would be no problem... but we people are capable of making mistakes, we change our mind very often, easily get tempted which would break everything we promise. It is not always easy to change and gain trust but you have to TRY and TRY and keep it, never break it... Just BE TRUE TO YOUR WORDS.

[reigel99]

sus! gamay nga problema, himoon jud nga dako!!...
kaklaro anang ang lalake dapat seryoso na kay pamilyado nang dako...

musulod lage nga di pa ready...

para sa lalake, be mature... kasal man mo or dili, ikaw ang haligi sa pamilya...
ikaw ang model dapat... ipakita ang imong pagka-lalake...
misulod ka ana nga sitwasyon, so barugi oy nga dili na ka batan-on....
lihok kung unsay angay na lihok sa usa ka amahan...

[storm_in_cloud9]

Well it totally depends on the girl. If she really loves the guy and has the tolerance level of a martyr then she can live and bear with it. If not, then there are lots of fish in the sea. Naay work ang girl so she can support herself, she can ask allotment from the guy for their baby rather than beat herself in misery over the immatureness of the guy. If there is one thing that guys should know about entering a relationship, females are sensitive creatures, they take care of you and are so sweet if guys will treat them with respect and pay attention but if you neglect girls or disrespect them you will be hurting their feelings and that will lead to something else later on. Dako kaayo ug role ang respect, communication ug trust sa relationship.

[musicalsuite]

" A True Man does not make promises, He Commits "

[Klave]

Let's just say the girl right now is punch drunk.
She thinks she has commited enough mistakes and would not wait around for more.
Mao makig break-up dayon when she feels she is being cheated upon or screwed over.

Time to be a man, gahi man gyud ta og ulo, whatever you try to do don't make it a chore.
Don't expect results right away, just start with companionship then if there are improvements good
If there are none, ok...uli sa ka sa inyo ron. The point is she really is in a fragile state,
but she is trying to be strong in her own way. If she thinks you are messing with her, she will show
you she doesn't need a man in her life.

[hunter912]

IMO, u just can't...

trust can be lost only once in ur lifetime..

u see, once lost, you just cant trust that person again, thinking that he'd done it once, he could do it again.. and again.. and again....

[kaZzzPer]

murag naay problema ang guy psychologically. second time na but the same thing happened. unsa diay iyang gusto sa life? immature maybe but i think it's far from that.
i pity the girl, sayang ang time, she could have found another man better than him.

opinion lang ni nako answer sa imong questions. if he really loves her, he must let her go. she deserves to be happy like all girls want in a relationship.
baffling man when you ask if ang guy mo give up or insist, like naay power ang guy to reject? dapat dba ang girl naay power to reject kay problematic man ang guy for her? dba?

if he really wants to be with the girl in his life, mo give up or insist are bad options. think!

trust is difficult to mend. once broken, small chance to regain it back. not unless dumb ang girl (sorry). but i won't even try. maayo ilisan & go away, dako pa cgurog chance mabalik ang trust, imo.

[Scott Bernard]

Advice nako TS... Start again from the bottom... Ug pag binootan na para dili ka ma karma... !

[bowee]

trust doesnt happen overnight...

it has to be earned with Time as its friend....