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    Default Relationship for four years that ended recently.


    Hi All,

    I have a previous gf who left me last nov 1, we had our fourth anniversary last october. On February 2010 I booked her a flight from Davao to Cebu. Then on April 16, a day before her expected arrival, she is hesitating to come to Cebu, I found out the reason why, she had a new BF way back home. She dated him from June 2009 to April that month (but they did not have any formal break ups. the guy even called me and asked me to give her to him.). i was so hurt and desperate to get her back that time and i was so sad i lurked into alcohol. On May 2010, I went to Davao for the elections. We saw each other, and on the day I am bound back to Cebu (around five hours before my flight) she asked if she could go with me, and so i said yes. (I dunno what happened but it felt like I was hypnotized) We were living in together since that time, I helped her get a work and she was accepted by Stream. At first we were okay, but she met new friends, i went jealous coz one time she went home past 7PM although she was already out by 6Am that Satuday. It happened many times. She was with her officemates, mostly guys. We had arguments, too many to mention but we had it to the point that kept nagging at me. I lost my trust in her since April, and I was trying to gain it. There was a point that my trust for her revived, but one of her friends from Davao came her to work, I adopted him, but I noticed everytime there is a person who tolerate her, she will not folllow me or disregard me at all. I wouldn't get any of her attention anymore. There were attempts that she'd go out of my house to live in a different house. Until the time her friend left she stayed with me and she's been asking me to let her do freely what she wants. But I think you'd agree with me if I say that I don't want her drunk every weekend, hanging out with her friends instead of me. Everytime I planned for outings, date, or surpirse her, she is not around and I'm always left alone. Then on October 2010 another friend of hers came from Manila to work, again, I adopted him and that time we had arguments again and she left. Well, she is really beautiful, intelligent, but she kept saying that she doesn't love me anymore.

    So I am asking you guys, what do you think? did she just used me to get work here in Cebu and once settled she'd leave me alone? I am trying to forget her and avoid texting or calling her, but I always get jealous when I see pictures of her with other guys in FB? Am I too martyr? What do you suggest I do to totally forget her, I mean my friends set me to meet other girls, but I don't find them interesting like her. I just simply loved her.

    Thank you.

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    If you don't mind, can you share her FB account for all of us to see? We just want to prove if she's really beautiful. lol

    Kidding aside, maybe you were holding her too tight that she rebelled and finally lost grip of her feelings for you. But I can also be wrong. Maybe you were really a good BF who loved the wrong girl. Davao and Cebu are very different in terms of lifestyle. Maybe she was stunned with the Cebuanos' exquisite taste for fun and parties (ehem...lol), not to mention, the abundance of good looking people here. ^_^

    In your 4-year relationship, what did you guys do? Sometimes, things become a routine that it becomes boring. Relationships have to maintain a certain level of spark or mystery for it to become interesting to both parties, which is also one of the keys to a lasting relationship.

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    it looks like the 4 year relationship you mentioned above wasn't REALLY about you and her. it's more like you giving her shelter while she has not settled on her own, and you giving shelter to her " friends " who need it when they come here to get those jobs. you NEVER mentioned a moment of BLISS - you and her - making beautiful memories. na emphasize ang her nagging, her going out, her asking for freedom, her spending more time w/ friends instead of you. the four years was all about HER. so my question is - WHERE WERE YOU for the last FOUR YEARS? you wasted 4 PRECIOUS years of your life man. get your act together and find someone who can give importance to who and what YOU are. I don't need to tell you to forget that b*tch, do I?
    Last edited by elvishtattoo; 12-09-2010 at 02:36 AM.

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    hhmmm give her time and space.. and kaw pd.. give urself and ur heart time to rest.. if one day free mong duha and magkabalik mo, well that means kamo jd..... yaw na think kng gigamit ka sa girl or not.. ang impt u did what u think was right.. okiks?

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    for me set her free.... time will come that she will realize what she did to you. i know its not easy for you right now but you have no choice. don't let your self get hurt again. you will find someone who will truly love you.

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    u luv her but she doesnt...oh boi

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    i think wala ka gigamit TS ui para lang maka work siya sa cebu. na happen lang nga nadawat nimo siya pag balik ug imo siya gitabangan. goodboy ra sad siguro kaau ka para niya. pag minaldito sad usahay nyahehe!

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    she said she doesn't love naman kaha?well, y pushing urself to her?unsaon taman ng gwapa og bryt nga wa manai kasing2?...taga.i pud na og pride imong kaugalingon doh.....ga sayon2 ra baya xa og papuyo og laing2 taw sa imong place.wa jud siyay naikog nimo?...mga laki pa jud...usa ramo ka place nya wa jud siyay time nimounsa manang klasiha sa relasyonnya mopauli biya lang xa og wen niya ganahanmura kag gihimo og motel for free.....naa pay daghang babay doh....ayaw na prisohan imong kasing2 sa tinukon nga kahon.........ayaw nana tan awa iyang fb....antosa ang kasakit....maka move on raka.....mao ra..

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    Simply you're in love with her, but she is not into you,
    learn to accept this reality,
    You are still hanging in that world of make believe,
    venture out do not let yourself be suspended in this wasteful time,
    for if you would not, you will keep on standing there all alone.

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    Follow the dictates of your mind and not the dictates of your heart. I know its not easy, but then again, that is the proper thing to do and time will heal you. Let her go, move on and have a life.

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