hubby caught cheating!badly need an advice..

[beeprecious101]

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hi fellow istoryans!

I juz would like to share to u guys what happened last tuesday, Oct. 28. Sorry if this is a bit long (so you can have a better understanding).

I have a boyfriend of 4 years na (although we go on and off before), now that we have a baby na, i call him hubby na (force to because according to them he is now my hubby na daw)..

Before that night came, I already have doubts nga he is doing something not good because he was so eager to go back to his home (we are living on the same roof now wth my parents) last Sept. 22, he said he is going to get few shirts left there and then on Sept. 24, he said he is going home again because he is going to sell his account in cabal (an online game). I thought he was going to just get back home sa amu pero nibuntag nlang wla jd sya nauli. That was the first time that he ever did it. Prior to those dates and incidents, nibalik sya sa ila og puyo mga 2 weeks because of a rift with my parents and went back sa amu pag Sept.21 lang.

Ds hubby of mine (kunohai) hilig kaau ni sya mang delete og messages sa inbox, call logs and ang sent items off jud nah! If ako e-on iya sent items, e-off ra pd na nya'g balik. Sept. 23 evening, I check his inbox, saved messages and call logs, halos wlai info kay deleted kasagaran. And so I decided to turn on the sent items of his phone. It was like my first time to evade his fon again after 2 weeks nga wer away so wla guru ni sud sa yang thinking nga basin gi on 2 nako because he was also not there that time that i checked his fon.

So Sept 24 evening came, i checked inbox and call logs, no pertinent info found. I was about to put back his fon inside his bag when i remembered i turned on the sent items so i check it. To my great surprise, I found 2 globe #s nga yang gipang txtsan. One is his ex-gf and one was still a stranger girl to me. The messages he sent were naughty. It is all about seeing each other when and where. I also read a text that goes this way "wen tah s3x balik" and messages like they're on *** over the phone. And there was even a text nga ni-ilove yuo so much sya sa isa ka gurl. I was so disgusted. It was a blast in my senses! I was so shock..i was in deep pain.

I kept calm. When he went upstairs na coz he was taking care of my baby during that time, i slap him super strong. I guess he already has an idea of why I did it. Ako gisampal sa iya ang ya fon tungod sa ako kalagot. I cried! Ako sya gipalayas pero di sya. He said being separated is not a solution daw and we need to be together for my baby's sake. He didn't left that night jd. He asked for forgiveness to which i answered a no because what he did is unacceptable. He said his only fault is they were texting with his ex but with the other girl, it is all for fun. He said what happened was only SOT(s3x on text). I didn't believe in him until now nga i still ask questions about it.

I was ignoring him for 2 nights and just earlier, I hugged him, I don't know for what good reason.
Now, I am so confuse, should I forgive him and give him another chance or should I just end my relationship with him for I can't trust him anymore. Please tell me guys what to do? I am so disturbed.

Thanks!

[rickflag]

Sis kung love pa nimo ang guy sige give him another chance to prove that he's changed. If he still fools around after that then I think he's not worth your time. Bitaw sis, we can just give advises but it's only your decision that matters most.

[Super Bisdak]

hello sis gud evening.

tinood nga lisud ni imong kahimtang. pero ibutang lang sa imong kasing2x ug huna2x nga ang tanang problema dunay kasulbaran, ug pagsulay lang na sa inyong panag-ipon.

akong matambag mao ni:
- ang tanang tawo makasasala, walay hingpit nato (Rom 3:23). pasaylu-a siya ug taga-i lang siya ug kahigayonan.
- kung motuman siya nga magbag-o na siya ug motalikud gikan sa mga butang nga dili makapahimoot nimo nan maayo.
- apan kung sa gihapon subli-on niya ang mao nga sala-ud. ang akong ikasulti, pasaylu-a gihapon siya, ug ayaw pagtigum ug kayugot niya kay dili na makatabang sa inyong pagpuyo. kung makigbulag ka walay makapugong nimo tungod kay dili man pud mo kasado. paniguro lang nga mo-ayuda siya sa pagpadako sa inyong bata.
- labaw sa tanan, i-dala ang tanan sa mga pag-ampo. walay kumo sa nga pag-ampo.

kini ako tambag lang, pero ang desisyon naa ra gyud nimo.

Ang Ginoo magpanalangin nimo.

[rawtattoo]

Ang buyog dili ma buhi or ma kuntinto ug usa ra ka buwak... hehe pero buyog manto taw man imung huby so dapat maka huna-huna siya and siya mna nag naay control sa iyang lawasnong tinguha. SO it's all up to you mam kung dawatun paba nimo. Taw rapud na imung hubby, dili perfecto.

[princess_nyle]

sis, nasakitan gyud ko while nagbasa sa imong gipost. i too can relate in your situation although i did not caught my hubby kunohay pud nga nag cheat nako. but there were also times nga wala na ko niya ulia and he always delets inbos messages, sent items and call logs. we are also under one roof and like you, we also have a baby.

sa imong case kay dili man gyud mobiya ang guy, then i can say nga love gyud pud ka niya. so give him a chance kay its not easy mawala atong partner. stress pa ta bantay bata and stress pa gyud ta emotionally. its not like many times many times na niya gibuhat sa imo, so give him a chance gyud. kay ako abi nako kaya nako mawala akong partner, but when he left me for no reason but i doubt nga naa gyud syay lain, mura kog mayabag.

talk lang gyud mo sa inyong problem karon, forive him though i know sakit gyud kaayo na and malessen na imong trust niya. but then if you love him, fight for him. ayaw sugot nga mapildi ka or mawala sya sa imo.

[ladyscorpz]

all i can say sis, everybody deserves a second chance....pero ayaw intawn pa abta ang time nga iya ka limbungan sa maka daghan..dili napud na sakto...

[cromagnon]

boring man bya na basta asawa na ... pero of curs like d movie: kasal kasalo ....

papa ni judi an: bisan naa lain ang laki usa ra love nila//./.

imagining na ., pusas na cla... they dun like commitment... but of curs they dunt want to hurt u cus ..

its true he loves u , but its a mans genes blue print that his polygamous ...


--- but because , he know na dakong gubot na mag cheat cya, so mayb kutob ra sa *** on chat...


- but even if , naka ehem cya ug lain , doesn mean gi ilisan nka ,. biga ra na iya... kaw ra ang luv...

- he may promise not to do it .. but it all depends ra sad na sa lalake...

- its part of life. ..

[cromagnon]

ur in a hard emotion ., and still u cant think .,, better wait for ur brain to function properly ,,

giv more time to think....

[watitiw]

ka relate jud ko ani...kahilakon ko samtang nag basa...bag-o lang jud nag uli ang maaung kabubut-on namo sa akong bana tungod ra sad sa naay ni text ug nanawag nga girl 11:30p.m pag sunday...what i did was of course called the girl but she didn't picked up the phone so I sent her a message nga di makaon ug iro den the girl explained everything to me that there's nothing special going on between her and my husband...when the incident happened I was so mad that it came to the point that I decided to separate ways but God is good...everything was settled and we're back in each others arms now...and this is all for our son...and ako gi ingnan ako anak nga if ever ma usab pa to I would never forgive his daddy nah and he settled for that...everybody deserves a second chance...

[cheesiee]

di man pd tah perfect sis, makagama man pd tah ug sala once in a while. it could be as bad as it is or worst, or wala lng bah pero bad xia. ikaw dapat ang mu decide, if you love him very much and you picture him being with you for the rest of your lives then give him a second chance. pero sympre ayaw pd over na kng mahimo man sad niya usob imo dyapon pasaylo.on...
as far as i see it, if you guys were meant to separate, it would have been when he got you pregnant, be he stayed right there by yourside and took the responsibilities. so i think he deserves a chance. and he really did stay even though imo xia gpalayas.