"ITS COMPLICATED" scenario...

[pohpay]

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My conscience is eating me as i know soon, people will know..

I cant abandon my wife for she has done nothing wrong... Not to mention if i did, shes leaving with half (no pre-nup)...
moreover, i dont have the courage to face my fam and in-laws if il pursue this foolishness...

then do the right thing.

[jbass]

oh.. its complicated, pero para nako maka guba jud na sa business anang kalakiha

[Decoy888]

no offense bai ha,this is also meant to be a joke...i hope you'd take it as such..
but i think that fung-sui thing isn't much of a help 'cause it actaully caused you a lot more STRESS instead of a FORTUNE( not necessarily financial) hehehe...

None taken... Fung siu plays a big part in our tradition... its basically one of the determining factors in every stuff we do.. compatability is part of it... Lots of traditional Fil-Chinese couples here are married cuz of good fung-siu...

@Decoy888,
3. Stick with your wife and go on living like "normal" and see your "friend" on the side assuming if she also agrees to this arrangement. Keyword here is to be discreet. Just make sure to wipe your mouth after eating.

Now depending on your moral compass, usually "normal" people will only choose either 1 or 2. If you want to live an exciting life, as you mentioned you only live once, choice number 3 can give you that. Of course nothing is for free and nothing lasts forever. Time will come that you will slip up and make mistakes, and if you play your cards right, hopefully your wife will understand you and your actions.

So far have two friends who took choice number 3, both are still married to their wives after 30 years...

Thats the trouble here, cuz Cebu is too small... sooner or later everybody will know... We ate once at Anzani, a friend of mine saw me... We also ate once at Chibori - another friend was also there... despite our efforts to just have a simple dinner with-out the fuss of the crowd, eyes are everywhere... I really wish I could tell my friends but that would mean exposing my friend, so this forum is my only outlet...

using another pseudonym ain't practical...try exposing yourself TS to prove your being a non-conformist...YOLO you say, then why hide here in forums

Anonymity is my only asset here... THis isnt just about me... like I said above, I cant tell my friends for it could hurt my friends reputation... right now, we're just treading the waters carefully...

YOLO nalng jud ka TS, either way mag basol man ka.... kai imo naman gi sugdan......

nya base sa imong gi sulti... mura mag di ka gusto mo undang...

Part of me wants to... But I cant let the business die... Not because of money, but because I dont want to be the laughing stock of the Fil-Chinese community as the guy who opened shop and folded just a few months after... Theres also our employees that were considering... We cant just fire them... THey're good working assets of ours...


This will be my last post... thank you for your time and all the interesting insights...

[MaInEvEnT]

Just be careful, what goes around might be coming around real soon...

[silent-kill]

just weigh your options, TS... create plan A, B, C. sooner or later you will get caught, before that happens you need to be ready with the consequences, of your choice.

Maybe you need to disconnect from everyone first, and for the first time in your life; think for yourself.. free from other people's influence.... ask yourself, what you really want to achieve. As what you have said, you have Doug a deep hole. you could either go back the way you came from, stay in the hole, or dig deeper until you emerge from the other side

good luck.

[Scott Bernard]

Kick your business partner TS... let her understand why it is necessary to do it.

Anyway... if dili ka maka let go ani, you are preparing for your future demise...

[MaInEvEnT]

here's my story:
i was once married but that didnt last long so i am a single dad. i have a 'friend'(just like TS) whom i liked for so long and became my gf now. we had this agreement of no commitment thing but just on the side lang. i did considered it at first, but as u know kanang magkadugay mahulog mn jd atong feelings labi na if ang other party who first instilled the rules magpakita pd ug motive nga okay na jd mi bah, even mentioning of things we're going to go or do together in the future, etc..in the end, i became sweeter to her(dont get me wrong, i was serious with i felt with her it was just at first menos2 lang kay basin it myt scare her off, but i love her, i really do) and thought that everything is going well(and made me so happy)..then suddenly...

after being with her more than 2weeks ago, and the last time we talked over the phone happily was like last week, she suddenly turned cold. as in the way sya mutext nko murag wala nay spark or wala nay unod bah. so after 3 days of being treated like that, i was left with no choice but to call her up and ask her what's up? and now she said nasakal na daw sya nako and all, dili na daw sya happy. ag ako sad mura ko ug naningning, i mean WTF we were so damn okay a few days ago and never nag away then this?? then gawas dayon iya storya nga i was being too serious with her and that she realized she cant be with someone who have attachment(my kid - w/c is very unfair) as in na shock lang ko bah ngano kalit ingana. just to clarify lang, me being so sweet and caring for her is my only way of showing my love to her FOR NOW - because i am based abroad. di man nko madawat guys, i so damn love her man gd. my friends here advised that maybe she's just stressed with work sa atoa and that they dont believe she dont love me cos she is the one who pays for her fare going abroad just to be with me.

now im confused. what should i do? ur thoughts, comments and advise i will take them all in. payr!

Mao ni gi ingon ni Bamboo nga "O kay bilis naman mag laho ng pag-ibig mo sinta, daig mo pa ang isang kisapmata..."

[yvonne6]

@Passport thanks, it's not voluntary starvation but more like ive lost appetite over this.

here's my story:
i was once married but that didnt last long so i am a single dad. i have a 'friend'(just like TS) whom i liked for so long and became my gf now. we had this agreement of no commitment thing but just on the side lang. i did considered it at first, but as u know kanang magkadugay mahulog mn jd atong feelings labi na if ang other party who first instilled the rules magpakita pd ug motive nga okay na jd mi bah, even mentioning of things we're going to go or do together in the future, etc..in the end, i became sweeter to her(dont get me wrong, i was serious with i felt with her it was just at first menos2 lang kay basin it myt scare her off, but i love her, i really do) and thought that everything is going well(and made me so happy)..then suddenly...

after being with her more than 2weeks ago, and the last time we talked over the phone happily was like last week, she suddenly turned cold. as in the way sya mutext nko murag wala nay spark or wala nay unod bah. so after 3 days of being treated like that, i was left with no choice but to call her up and ask her what's up? and now she said nasakal na daw sya nako and all, dili na daw sya happy. ag ako sad mura ko ug naningning, i mean WTF we were so damn okay a few days ago and never nag away then this?? then gawas dayon iya storya nga i was being too serious with her and that she realized she cant be with someone who have attachment(my kid - w/c is very unfair) as in na shock lang ko bah ngano kalit ingana. just to clarify lang, me being so sweet and caring for her is my only way of showing my love to her FOR NOW - because i am based abroad. di man nko madawat guys, i so damn love her man gd. my friends here advised that maybe she's just stressed with work sa atoa and that they dont believe she dont love me cos she is the one who pays for her fare going abroad just to be with me.

now im confused. what should i do? ur thoughts, comments and advise i will take them all in. payr!

here's what i think it is:

for the meantime, the girl is enjoying the attention that you are giving her but its not something she sees for her future. enjoying the moment lang sa or kung unsa ang naa sa pagka karon. there are women who really didnt want to become instant step moms just like there are men who are scared to be responsible for other man's kid. she is not completely being honest with you and its convenient to just say, nasakal na siya. you are probably seeing more than meets the eye ts. be practical na lang, unya na pag super inlove ug kauban na nimo ang taw sa dugay na panahon. ingon ana ldr, na ambot...para nako, daghan man ganig issue ang duol, kana pa ba kahang lagyo. besides, dont try to end your life para lang ana. naay tinuoray mag mahal nimo nga dili i break imong heart, imong anak brother. dont be too selfish

[sakuragi_10]

here's what i think it is:

for the meantime, the girl is enjoying the attention that you are giving her but its not something she sees for her future. enjoying the moment lang sa or kung unsa ang naa sa pagka karon. there are women who really didnt want to become instant step moms just like there are men who are scared to be responsible for other man's kid. she is not completely being honest with you and its convenient to just say, nasakal na siya. you are probably seeing more than meets the eye ts. be practical na lang, unya na pag super inlove ug kauban na nimo ang taw sa dugay na panahon. ingon ana ldr, na ambot...para nako, daghan man ganig issue ang duol, kana pa ba kahang lagyo. besides, dont try to end your life para lang ana. naay tinuoray mag mahal nimo nga dili i break imong heart, imong anak brother. dont be too selfish

yah point taken miss, it's my bad. but my love i have for my kid is of different level compared mn pd sa love nimu sa imong hinigugma na tawo; im not saying that naay mas labaw or what, there's no gauge or comparison, for me they're two different levels. but i shouldnt hav tried to end my life, thats very stupid of me.

[_hizuka_]

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