"ITS COMPLICATED" scenario...

[Decoy888]

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First off, im a long time istorya member, but for very obvious reasons, im making this new account...
im not here to gain acceptance nor support.. Im here to simply get this off my chest and hopefully gain some intelligent mature insights, as well as perspectives on how i can possibly climb up the hole ive dug myself into..

Everything started when i dated this girl... We went on an exclusive dating arrangement but no commitments were ever made... This lasted for a year...
Not sure if its love (the word is for kids) but we definitely had chemistry...
Moving forward, i got married to another girl... My wife is coming from a family of same stature as mine...
shes your typical perfect housewife whos loyal, kind, and someone i can truly say, who will be there when "the chips are down"... But like any other girl, she doesnt have everything... We lack chemistry... I ended up marrying her as my fam was pressuring me and i guess it was the "logical" thing to do at my age...

Just this year, a business opportunity came-up.. And as my "special friend" and i were still in good terms, i made her as my business partner... With the business acumen of never mixing business with pleasure, i broke this simple rule and went on with my personal motives...
So far, business is doing good with her managing things and me as a simple investor...

Right now, she has a bf but we dont talk about our respective partners when were together to discuss business matters...but sometimes i do steal a kiss and she clings to my arms when its just the both of us...
About a month ago, we booked roundtrip tickets to an out of the country destination scheduled a few months from now... It wasnt planned as we were just surfing the net when we came across the package tour offers and i booked them on the spot... Were now startin to see each other a little bit more and im fallin for her all over again...

Im not sure if she loves me but i do know she has apprehensions given my marital status.. My conscience is eating me as i know soon, people will know... My female bestfriend told me its bad for business and if i still have the audacity to still ask her out, then i should remove myself from the family business (something i can live with)...

I cant abandon my wife for she has done nothing wrong... Not to mention if i did, shes leaving with half (no pre-nup)...
moreover, i dont have the courage to face my fam and in-laws if il pursue this foolishness... But i cant also simple cut-off my friend for shes a business partner, and aside from the investment i poured-in, it was me who established the contacts for our suppliers and clients... I promised both suppliers and clients and i intend to keep them...

On the reason that we only live once, id like to pursue my heart and not on what other people think... Call me a selfish ass or whatever.. But im at a point wherein im tired of conforming on what is practical...

[m_a_r_k_u_z]

maayu pud ni imong love story TS dah....dghan man nitorok mga ingon ani dri....

[THE KID]

in the first place..wala unta ka ngpakasal og dali2...tsk tsk tsk....anyway basa lang kos comment sa uban ngari

[Rakizta]

tinuod jud complicated jud ni pero musamot ni ka complicated if you wont settle the issue nga sayo pa

[brian joshua]

ka nindot ra ana ah, duha kabuok imo asawa.
tagsa ra na mahitabo sa catholic masses.

[kageron]

why would you abandon someone when in the first place you didn't leave?
Now a days relationship is business

[beyee]

Come to think of it bro, either way, you leave your wife or your business partner
you're still gonna end up LOSING A LOT OF MOOLAH.

That's just only the beginning of your BAD KARMA.

Sad to say, that's the bitter pill of playing with fire, you end up getting burned.

[noy]

First off, im a long time istorya member, but for very obvious reasons, im making this new account...
im not here to gain acceptance nor support.. Im here to simply get this off my chest and hopefully gain some intelligent mature insights, as well as perspectives on how i can possibly climb up the hole ive dug myself into..

Everything started when i dated this girl... We went on an exclusive dating arrangement but no commitments were ever made... This lasted for a year...
Not sure if its love (the word is for kids) but we definitely had chemistry...
Moving forward, i got married to another girl... My wife is coming from a family of same stature as mine...
shes your typical perfect housewife whos loyal, kind, and someone i can truly say, who will be there when "the chips are down"... But like any other girl, she doesnt have everything... We lack chemistry... I ended up marrying her as my fam was pressuring me and i guess it was the "logical" thing to do at my age...

Just this year, a business opportunity came-up.. And as my "special friend" and i were still in good terms, i made her as my business partner... With the business acumen of never mixing business with pleasure, i broke this simple rule and went on with my personal motives...
So far, business is doing good with her managing things and me as a simple investor...

Right now, she has a bf but we dont talk about our respective partners when were together to discuss business matters...but sometimes i do steal a kiss and she clings to my arms when its just the both of us...
About a month ago, we booked roundtrip tickets to an out of the country destination scheduled a few months from now... It wasnt planned as we were just surfing the net when we came across the package tour offers and i booked them on the spot... Were now startin to see each other a little bit more and im fallin for her all over again...

Im not sure if she loves me but i do know she has apprehensions given my marital status.. My conscience is eating me as i know soon, people will know... My female bestfriend told me its bad for business and if i still have the audacity to still ask her out, then i should remove myself from the family business (something i can live with)...

I cant abandon my wife for she has done nothing wrong... Not to mention if i did, shes leaving with half (no pre-nup)...
moreover, i dont have the courage to face my fam and in-laws if il pursue this foolishness... But i cant also simple cut-off my friend for shes a business partner, and aside from the investment i poured-in, it was me who established the contacts for our suppliers and clients... I promised both suppliers and clients and i intend to keep them...

On the reason that we only live once, id like to pursue my heart and not on what other people think... Call me a selfish ass or whatever.. But im at a point wherein im tired of conforming on what is practical...

no disrespect TS ha, but i'm pretty sure you know what to do.. you should follow what your conscience suggests.
i believe you already know the difference between right and wrong.
so stop whatever you're doing that isn't right for you before it's TOO LATE.

Unless you think fooling behind your wife's back, and your "special friend's" BF is good for you then that's another story..
IMAGINE how you would feel if you were in their place...or someone you love might experience the same thing.. sister? your daughter perhaps? or imung brother? or your parents..

Just because some things make us feel good, it doesn't make them right..

just curious though, how is marrying someone you don't love became a Logical act?
considering age and family pressure as your basis?

[Passport]

First off, im a long time istorya member, but for very obvious reasons, im making this new account...
im not here to gain acceptance nor support.. Im here to simply get this off my chest and hopefully gain some intelligent mature insights, as well as perspectives on how i can possibly climb up the hole ive dug myself into..

Everything started when i dated this girl... We went on an exclusive dating arrangement but no commitments were ever made... This lasted for a year...
Not sure if its love (the word is for kids) but we definitely had chemistry...
Moving forward, i got married to another girl... My wife is coming from a family of same stature as mine...
shes your typical perfect housewife whos loyal, kind, and someone i can truly say, who will be there when "the chips are down"... But like any other girl, she doesnt have everything... We lack chemistry... I ended up marrying her as my fam was pressuring me and i guess it was the "logical" thing to do at my age...

Just this year, a business opportunity came-up.. And as my "special friend" and i were still in good terms, i made her as my business partner... With the business acumen of never mixing business with pleasure, i broke this simple rule and went on with my personal motives...
So far, business is doing good with her managing things and me as a simple investor...

Right now, she has a bf but we dont talk about our respective partners when were together to discuss business matters...but sometimes i do steal a kiss and she clings to my arms when its just the both of us...
About a month ago, we booked roundtrip tickets to an out of the country destination scheduled a few months from now... It wasnt planned as we were just surfing the net when we came across the package tour offers and i booked them on the spot... Were now startin to see each other a little bit more and im fallin for her all over again...

Im not sure if she loves me but i do know she has apprehensions given my marital status.. My conscience is eating me as i know soon, people will know... My female bestfriend told me its bad for business and if i still have the audacity to still ask her out, then i should remove myself from the family business (something i can live with)...

I cant abandon my wife for she has done nothing wrong... Not to mention if i did, shes leaving with half (no pre-nup)...
moreover, i dont have the courage to face my fam and in-laws if il pursue this foolishness... But i cant also simple cut-off my friend for shes a business partner, and aside from the investment i poured-in, it was me who established the contacts for our suppliers and clients... I promised both suppliers and clients and i intend to keep them...

On the reason that we only live once, id like to pursue my heart and not on what other people think... Call me a selfish ass or whatever.. But im at a point wherein im tired of conforming on what is practical...

How about taking a bit of your precious time to read this boss...

I have been happily married for 15 years to a wonderful man who is handsome, responsible, and a very loving person. I am only in my late 30s but have achieved so much in life. What more can I ask for? Guess I’m just crazy to put myself in a complicated situation.

Before I met my husband, I was in a long-distance relationship with a Filipino based abroad. I thought he was “the one,” but we ended our relationship without formal closure. In 2009, I got reconnected with him through Facebook, and found out that he’s already married and has a child. He apologized to me for what happened to us, I forgave him, and we eventually became friends. The constant communication went on for two years.

In 2011, he came home to Manila and apologized to me again, in person. We saw each other a couple of times during his two-week vacation, and things just happened so fast… unexpectedly. We agreed there’ll be no strings attached—no expectations and no demands.

We don’t say “I love you,” celebrate anniversaries, or make any plans for a life together. But we agreed to see each other every two years. When he came home this year, we talked about breaking up, but couldn’t… not at this time. But we both know this can’t go on forever.
We can’t explain our kind of relationship. We can’t call it “love,” as we both love our respective partners. We can’t call it “lust” either as we only see each other every two years. What do you think is this?

—Apple


You want a name for this “thing” you are having? How about “friends with benefits,” to borrow the title of a recent Hollywood movie starring Ashton Kutcher.

You’re proclaiming there’s no love or lust involved, because you both love your respective spouses. Yet you have professed to maintain this ritual, this scheduled sexual encounter every two years!

Truth be told, your case is not unique, nor is it shocking. That exact scenario has already been dramatized in a movie decades ago called “Same Time Next Year” starring Maggie Smith. Your thing with this guy is just a rehash, a repetition of what’s happening between couples who still like each other enough to meet every so often for ***. Yet, they are not that wholly committed to go the whole nine yards to leave or even compromise their happily settled married lives. Nobody is inconvenienced with these dalliances, technically.

These “meetings” look just like a vacation for two people like yourselves, to get over the hump of marital boredom or undefined stress, and enjoy that kick of adrenaline high for a week or two. It’s like having Christmas, or Thanksgiving, twice—every time you meet.

You two will always have fun together because you will never be burdened by the mundane, the unexciting chores of mortgage payments, grocery shopping, or toilet repairs—you know, the minutiae of everyday living. Your only worries are fun-related, like where to meet, what to eat, or what gifts to give each other, a slice of fairy tale every two years.

Enjoy it while you can because life is in constant flux. Affairs, or whatever you call it, have that tendency to cool off. This friendship with benefits is rooted on shifting sands. There’s really not much concrete to support and anchor yourselves in.

[spartan301]

Looks like a big gamble on yur part... Wat if yur frend wud chose her bf over u??
Yur hand is weak... Play it wen yuv got an ace on yur so called frend...