Tambagi daw ko..my gf posted a msg to her ex sa facebook.

[reginakrys]

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thanks for all the inputs..we're still in hibernate mode... though i stil cant think clearly my next course of action...i can understand why most girls here would side with my gf... as they say its perfectly fine to chat or send PM to an ex.. anyway past is past na bitaw na.. and i should be thankful wala cya ni underground ug communicate sa iyang ex.. w/o my knowledge.. it's easier when you have that attitude man gud.. trusting that someone and believing that someone are two different entities... i maybe can believe that she is sincere nga wala ra jud to nya.. but trusting her not to PM her ex anymore next time (bisag ingnon pa nako balik nga ayaw) would only put more strain on our very shaky relationship...if i would set rules back again to her.. mugawas na nuon ko as someone who is demanding and overly possessive.. w/c in reality i am not so.. (well maybe gamay lang). I never like to impose rules to someone or somebody.. that would just create more negative actions on that person na nuon and would tantamount to her/him to rebel against your 'so called rules'Im planning to talk to her this weekend.. kaapan man gud.. we had a nasty fight before.. and it ended up her crying, and so naluoy ko balik nya and I just consoled and ask her to stop crying na...I don't want her to use that back again to me.. she might use that as her tool or defense knowing that is my weakest point.. I hate to see a girl crying infront of me man gud... that's wat worries me if magkita mi karon weekend..

this is better.. mas rational ka paminawn dire.. it's good nga you're planning to talk things out with her..

[Herzensbrecher]

thanks for all the inputs..we're still in hibernate mode... though i stil cant think clearly my next course of action...i can understand why most girls here would side with my gf... as they say its perfectly fine to chat or send PM to an ex.. anyway past is past na bitaw na.. and i should be thankful wala cya ni underground ug communicate sa iyang ex.. w/o my knowledge.. it's easier when you have that attitude man gud.. trusting that someone and believing that someone are two different entities... i maybe can believe that she is sincere nga wala ra jud to nya.. but trusting her not to PM her ex anymore next time (bisag ingnon pa nako balik nga ayaw) would only put more strain on our very shaky relationship...if i would set rules back again to her.. mugawas na nuon ko as someone who is demanding and overly possessive.. w/c in reality i am not so.. (well maybe gamay lang). I never like to impose rules to someone or somebody.. that would just create more negative actions on that person na nuon and would tantamount to her/him to rebel against your 'so called rules'Im planning to talk to her this weekend.. kaapan man gud.. we had a nasty fight before.. and it ended up her crying, and so naluoy ko balik nya and I just consoled and ask her to stop crying na...I don't want her to use that back again to me.. she might use that as her tool or defense knowing that is my weakest point.. I hate to see a girl crying infront of me man gud... that's wat worries me if magkita mi karon weekend..

kudos to you bai!

maayo nga rational na imo pang huna2x karon.. that is why our head is above our heart so that reason would govern emotion and not the other way around..

[jeff_bonz59]

thanks to everyone here who shared their thoughts on the matter...Uu

[nardz]

huhuhuhu na touch ko sa story...

am excited sa next episode....

@ TS - i update mi ha?
Magninong ko ninyo

[f3a_champ]

Jeff, think of it this way nalang. Maybe she meant nothing by it. Let's grant her that. But if it really meant nothing to her as she said, and if she really loves you as she said again, then she should just have deleted or cancelled her FB invite to her ex. If you are her present and possibly future, she would do that for you in a heartbeat. She would even promise not to communicate with her ex in any way. If she does not do that, then I am sorry but there is still some unfinished business there whether or not she accepts it or even realizes it. Maybe subconciously she has not yet moved on. In that case, proceed with caution or get away while you still can with minimal hurt. That's my 2 cents worth...

[pretty_jasmine]

well thats good to hear TS... gudluck sa n u..

[yvonne6]

im also a female but even if i know i can keep it from my bf, dili gyud ko mag himo ug something nga malain siya. i wont do anything nga d ko nahan himuon sad sa akong bf nako. u r right, past is past. para wala nay doubt ug gubot, mas maau d na mag establish pa ug communication. d puede nga wala lang ang reason. kung ang taw naay action, there is always a reason for that. ka insensitive sad sa imong gf oi

[cp103]

im also a female but even if i know i can keep it from my bf, dili gyud ko mag himo ug something nga malain siya. i wont do anything nga d ko nahan himuon sad sa akong bf nako. u r right, past is past. para wala nay doubt ug gubot, mas maau d na mag establish pa ug communication. d puede nga wala lang ang reason. kung ang taw naay action, there is always a reason for that. ka insensitive sad sa imong gf oi

@ yvonne:sis, i doubt insensitive ang girl. take note, "girl" bya, and girls are known for being sensitive. It's more like, the girl does not care or has no concern for the TS's feelings, kay she's still has a thing for her ex.

@ TS: before deciding whether to let the situation go, or let her go. Talk to her and tell her what her actions were that hurt you. make her understand y nasakitan ka ad2 iyang gpang.buhat. After that, give her an ultimatum, ask her if kaya ba niya nga dili na mag.establish any form of commu w/ her ex, but remember to not give her the idea nga if dili niya mabuhat nga dili mag.establish ug commu sa iyang ex, w/c btw is masked under the guise of the reason nga "friends", nga imo xa bulagan. kay if tagaan nimo xa ug hint nga imo xang bulagan, of cors, iya jud itubag nga mabuhat niya nga dili na makig.commu sa iyang ex, pero day to mag.tago2x ug commu.

Then if maka.decide na xa, imo na dayun call if you should consider breaking up or not based on her answer. btw, if ever unsa man gni iyang answer, esp if the answer is something you dont expect, then i suggest you dont try to convince her otherwise, coz it would defeat the purpose of having an ultimatum. ^_^

[jeff_bonz59]

@cp103thanks for the insight bai...im really still torn between to suck it in and move on with things.. or move on and suck out all things...it's not easy really to let go of a relationship that's almost 2 years na... talking sometimes relieves one's doubt but just like a glass that has been broken already.. she cannot piece in back the respect and trust I gave to her na.. d na jud nya ma balik pa.. If ever gani mag balik jud mi.. I really can't trust her totally na... there will always be a part of me to doubt her.. whether she is acting her true self or just being honest in all her ways and actions in the future...it left a hole in my being and it marked a scar on my trust to her...

[monrose29]

calling noy monrose tambagi na ang TS basin maghikug na ni...sakit na kaayo iya bout...peace ninyo tanan

hahaha wa ko kabantay aneh dah..

ok...

ma o neh sya gi tawag og delikadesa or respect sa imong partner, kinsa may deli mag selos? natural gyud mag selos ta...unya bitaw kong deli mo react mo ana rapod mo og abi man gud nako og OK ra nmo kay wala ra man ka mo react..pagka toi-toi gyud...

aneh lang bro.. basin immature pa nah imong gf.... anah gyud ng mga babaye patuyang lang sa ilang gibate pero kong kita na gali mag ingon ana dako na ka ayo ng issue para nila...

ma ayo ra ba ka ayo neh sila mo ingon nga prehas lang mo tanan laki..sus ka ma ayo gyud duk-dukon oi kanang e prehas ta sa uban laki bah nga nag pasakit nila...

kong love nmo sya bro maka pasaylo ka..but careful lang basin og na-a gyud nay underground imong gf... ipa feel lang pod niya nga nag selos ka and deli gyud to ma ayo iyang gibuhat....