[waiting] pangutana mo guys! Girls ray mutubag.. (guys question(s))

[ViperRKO]

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Your situation is too risky for my taste personally but love is a gamble but if I am a gambler I would like to have 70-30 chance mine being the upper hand...Anyway, i hope this information will help...I am usually a very cautious girl, my friends would dubbed me as "segurista" and I don't believe in taking a leap with both eyes closed...I need to have one close and one open. However, when I meet my bf...well, sometimes when they say love can truly sweep you off your feet...it happen...and with him, staring just at his eyes, I could say I will jump not knowing where i would land as long as we are together. Nevertheless, those are just part of my assessment during the early stage of our relationship...things change as you go along..you go into deeper thinking and try to introspect the whole situation..in a nutshell, i will not risk a lifetime when all the time which i need to wait for that magical moment to finally choose me over them I am walking on an eggshell...well, I think you need to first find yourself and what you really need in your life.Maybe that is the reason you act like a butterfly, flitting from one flower to another because you are still unsure of what you need nor want. You can't have it all, you know..Forgive me for saying this but when you said you love her i really can't believe it because I think you just want her for your own selfish reasons. Love is not selfish. It is selfless. You think of the other person first before your own. Do you think it will be fair to offer her what you just said?

Thanks for that...but about the last part, ur getting it the wrong way. I have to do this...its not a craving of the flesh or anything like that, like I said, if I could just be one on one with her I would. But I just cant do that right now, its not because of my mind, its not because of my desire for any other girl...I cant let it out here, if you're really interested in what it is, PM me.

[yiennahs]

Confusing and painful stuff...

There's this girl I really like that likes me back too...there's no problem there...we both want each other, the problem is we still cant be together...unless...she gets into an open relationship with me with the certainty that there will be other girls who are gonna "join" her...its too complicated to explain here...but I just cant settle down right now, and I cant NOT have multiple relationships, but trust me if I could just be with her and her alone, I would. It just really hurts both ways this time, not having her would hurt like crap, but I think having her will hurt just as much coz I think she'd be hurt every single day of the relationship. I'm really considering just keeping her as a friend or not doing anything at all. But I'm gonna ask questions first on if we get into a "relationship". So here they are:

1. How would you feel if you are in a relationship with a guy that you really love but you know, and I mean CLEARLY know you're just "one of his girlfriends" instead of THE ONE?

2. And if you were in this situation, being one of his GFs, but you knew sometime in the future that the guy will actually be able to settle down and have just one and that one just might be you, would that be enough solace?

3. How'd you feel if it wasn't you?

4. If he was the best guy you've ever met in your whole life, the guy you'd die for in a heartbeat, the guy you know you'd want to spend the rest of your life with, would you endure being in a multiple relationship with him before you can actually be in a proper relationship? (I'm not saying I am that guy to her, but I will do everything in my power to be that guy to her if I put her in that damn hurtful situation!)

Man its just one hell of a dilemma right now.

1. How would you feel if you are in a relationship with a guy that you really love but you know, and I mean CLEARLY know you're just "one of his girlfriends" instead of THE ONE?
- it's hard to say but i don't wanna risk being hurt every day thinking that i am just an option. I am not worth an option, nobody is. If I were to lower myself for the guy then i am not worthy to be loved. I cannot give love if I have not loved myself.

2. And if you were in this situation, being one of his GFs, but you knew sometime in the future that the guy will actually be able to settle down and have just one and that one just might be you, would that be enough solace?
- i wanna get married too, i have a life to live and my world does not revolve around a guy who doesn't even know how to love. If at this point he is still undecided then much more when we will get married. How can i possibly marry a guy who treats me like that? I love him yes and i wanna grow old with him, but remember this, i can give him the world and the love he needed, but is he worth it? What's the purpose of the love that i can give when he can't reciprocate? In the long run, I will be the one carry the relationship and the tendency is "magsalig ang guy na love naku siya". To the guy, he is not the only one who exists in this world, surely there is someone who can love me much more than he can.

3. How'd you feel if it wasn't you?
- it hurts, a LOT, i've invested time, effort and love. It's like business na wa jud kay nakuha, and you just had bankruptcy.

4. If he was the best guy you've ever met in your whole life, the guy you'd die for in a heartbeat, the guy you know you'd want to spend the rest of your life with, would you endure being in a multiple relationship with him before you can actually be in a proper relationship? (I'm not saying I am that guy to her, but I will do everything in my power to be that guy to her if I put her in that damn hurtful situation!)
- i'm gonna wait until someone can prove me that he isn't the best, i am not perfect and i know the best guy wouldn't hurt me that much

[kai3rebel]

what does it mean if ang girl makig-tinutokay nimo for more dan 2 secs? hahahha

[yiennahs]

what does it mean if ang girl makig-tinutokay nimo for more dan 2 secs? hahahha

it means you have something on your face or she knows you lol

[THE SKULLS]

gikidhatan lagi ko ug babaye, unsa kaha pasabot niya?

[jeanine11280]

gikidhatan lagi ko ug babaye, unsa kaha pasabot niya?

Kapila ka kidhati sa the same girl ha...if kausa ra, napuling ra to oi..hehehe..if kadaghan nya naa xa kuyog basin apil ka sa ila duwa pero la ka kahibalo..murag challenge ba..."kidhati daw, tan-awn nato unsay reaction...hahaha"

[yiennahs]

gikidhatan lagi ko ug babaye, unsa kaha pasabot niya?

pasabot ana kabaw naman ka hahaha
just be sure wa xa mapuling lol

[THE SKULLS]

as in ka-3
kay sa nag atubangay mi, iya ko gikidhatan 1st. tan-aw ko niya then duko ko. then pagtan-aw nako balik niya, gikidhatan na sad ko.
paglingi pa jud nako niya, nilingi sad siya then kidhat na sad.

[THE SKULLS]

pasabot ana kabaw naman ka hahaha
just be sure wa xa mapuling lol

gikulba-an lagi ko kung unsaon pa lang ko niya. please, unsa man jud diay ng kidhat from girls?

ka-3 kidhati,
Kuya-Ig

[yiennahs]

gikulba-an lagi ko kung unsaon pa lang ko niya. please, unsa man jud diay ng kidhat from girls?

ka-3 kidhati,
Kuya-Ig

suwayi ug kidhat, kung mukidhat balik then mau nana ang sign
na padaghanay mog kidhat