
Originally Posted by
palanggako123
Here are some warning signs that can alert you to whether you or your partner may get 'stuck' and develop an unhealthy relationship:
* Seeks instant intimacy: A person who develops an immediate sense of attachment and belonging without really knowing anything about the other person and pressures the new partner for an exclusive commitment has unhealthy dependence needs.
* Clingy: Considers intensity of need for each other as proof of love. Wants you alone for himself / herself. At the extreme, tries to isolate you from friends and families with constant demands of attention.
* Excessively possessive: Trust issues - extreme inquisitiveness about the partners activity and whom they talked to, jealousy and controlling behaviors like keeping the money or car, demanding he / she ask permission for activities.
* Unrealistic expectations: Expects you to be perfect in meeting his / her every needs or becomes disappointed and angry.
* Lacks a sense of responsibility: Blames others for problems and mistakes. Makes the other person responsible for his / her feelings - instead of saying "I am angry", he / she says "You make me angry".
* Hypersensitive: Feels insulted, hurt or angry at perceived slights or criticism when realistically there wasn't any.
* Cruelty to animals and children: Often very impatient with normal children / animal behavior, punishes them brutally, may tease them until they cry.
* Verbal abuse: Constantly criticizes and / or says blatantly cruel, hurtful things, demeaning and attacking your self-esteem when you fail to meet some expectation.
* Rigid roles: Expects you to conform to his / her idea of how a wife / husband should be without a mutual consensus.
* Threats of violence: Intimidation of threats of physical violence directed at self or the partner; often later dismissed as temper.