Tambagi daw ko..my gf posted a msg to her ex sa facebook.

[nardz]

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istoryan imo uyab TS
or ex na nimo?

i pa log in para kabasa sad mi sa iya side hehehehehe

nice baya ni nga story...

avid reader ko ani nga thread hehehhe

am discussing this right now with my GF hehehehe

but awwwwww....di nako sya buwagan oi hehehhehe...
ang ang...love man nako and love ko niya...naa sad mi FB and EXs pareho hehehhe


up up lang ko

[jeff_bonz59]

@nardz..di cya istoryan bai....thanks for the inputs....

[BabyKai]

thanks anyway.. I feel bittered and frustrated...


It might not be again a big deal as some of u would say.. Pero para nako nga sincere nya ug ala gani ko nag entertain sa lain nakong mga girls nga friends kay g.una ra nako cya pirme.. sakit jud...

Im not mad.. Im just down right hurt... u girls doesnt know wen a guy would feel hurt.. Because he keeps it to himself raman..

Pero nako.. im slowly trying to catch the broken pieces again...

Waaaahhh for me ha... emotional ra kaau ka hehehe...
It is such a petty thing for you to break up with your GF right away if mao na toh imong reasons... well maybe it's about compatibility sad... anyhow...

I would send a msg to an ex or look at his facebook especially if dugay na ko wala ka kita niya for the following reasons:
1.) siguro lang ha .. siguro naa pa ko'y feelings niya - hopefully dili ni mao ang intention sa imo gf but if mao ni akong intention.. i will do it BEHIND ur back and I WILL make sure that you won't see me do it :PPPP.. but if wala ko'y feelings na I'd TELL MY BF about it.. tell him .. and see how he reacts
2.) if the guy dumped me before - gusto lang siguro ko makakita siya sa akong FB nga happy na kaau ko.. and if the guy will reply back and say kumusta sad ko.. ill answer "IM COOL.... VERY HAPPY WITH MY CURRENT LOVE LIFE!" o diba! and hoping he now got an ugly girl for dumping me before hahahahaa...
3.) Curiosity - wala lang.. curious lang gyud me usahay.. hahaha.. chismosa kumbaga... nature na gyud sa usa ka babae.. usahay bisan wala na gyud mi feelings sa exx=... ma curious ra man gud me if ni tambok ba siya or what na unsa na kaha siya noh.. and again if he dumped us before... we always want to see his fb or know from him if he now lives a miserable life with a fat and ugly gf... serves him right!
4.) just being plain friendly.. nothing is wrong with that... let bygones be bygones... iv seen a lot of couples wherein they are both comfortable that their partner is friends with their exes ... nothing more nothing less... kani higher level na gyud inu relationship ani kay it means u trust ur partner 100%... I think wala pa moh ani nga stage...

If you are the jealous or the insecure type and cannot take what ur girlfriend did then talk to her.. tell her u are not comfortable with her being friends with her ex in FB and even saying hi to that ex.. if she says it's nothing then believe her... if she does it again.. and dili ka kauyon gyud then break up with her.. it does not mean she is wrong or you are wrong.. it simply means lahi mo ug panan.aw sa things.. and if neither of you will give up his/her belief about that issue or concede then buwag nalang mo kay mag sige mo balik2x ug away anang butanga.. again dili siya sayop.. dili sad ka sayop .. LAHI lang gyud mo ug UTOK duha.. lahi lahi ug mo panan.aw sa butang.

About the part nga mo comment siya ug IMAL s amga lalake mo agi.. mag katawa lang ko.. i do that too.. but jokingly lang... himantayon lang gyud ang mga babae oi.. kung kita mi ug bati i tell my bf.. batia ug nawng o.. or kita ko ug baduy mo ana ko .. baduya o.. kung kita ko ug tambok mo ana ko.. tamboka niya oi.. kita ko ug imla mo ana ko.. hala ka imal o... hahaha maybe ingon ana imo gf.. himantayon lang ... ma notice lang nimo ug maau katohng parts nga mamantay siya ug mga lami hahaha....

bitaw if para niya wala lang toh iyang gipanulti and para nimo big deal na.. tell her about it and if she keeps on doing the same thing... again.. walay sayop ninyong duha... it means LAHI mo ug opinions ug panan.aw sa butang.. either siya ang mo acceptar nga ingon ana ka.. or ikaw mo acceptar nga ingon ana siya... if wala'y mo sabot ninyong duha.. awww mao na gi ingon dead end moh.. maau pa mag buwag...

ikaw unsa man imo palabion.. imong feelings or imong uyab... talk it over.. and if u cant resolve ur issues... then say buh-bye... think HARD gyud before doing anything stupid.. kay basin if u let her go.. mag mahay mahay sad ka.. again she is not wrong... that's just her... you're not wrong .. that's just you... lahi lahi lang gyud mo ug panan.aw sa things... it's about who's willing to compromise na gyud....

[BabyKai]

i think its fine.
in my pt of view.
i occasionally miss my ex, pero missing is just a feeling na pwede nko m-feel with other friends,
its not as strong as missing my bf. ana ba?
Ani ni xa migu, u cant control a person, nor can she control you.
If gnhan kag nothing-with-exes na relationship, then pg.sabot mo ana..
kung d xa, ay pugsa..but then most of the time, musabot mn jd na xa,
like me, mu-open up jd ko kung unsay gusto nkos relationship or unsay wa nko gnahi,
i cant bring a grudge nor want to experience pent-up pain jst because wala mi tarung na exchange of ideas sa akong bf.. because for me.. it takes two to tango, and u learn from each other..as much as u learn from urself.,
ang nkanindot mn gud kung open jd mo bro is controlado ninyo ang dagan sa inyong emotions.
And you understnd each other better (part n pd nis getting to know MORE sa usag-usa..) coz dba? getting to know somebody wont take overnight, it goes along with time...
she's not really anything connected with her x bro,..naa mn jd gd nas dugo sa mga babae ba? na nosy kaau for updates, specially sa ilang exes, just because--- =)

U need not to worry, she's submitted herself to you, and that alone is a reason for you to hold on.^^

@moon .. haha sis... nag reply ko ani nga thread without reading ur post... and after i posted something diha nako naka read sa imo post.. it's funny parehas gyud ta ug thinking... see my post medyo taas2x lang siya lol..

@jeff bonz... see? normal ra ni sa among mga babae.. chixmakon gyud mi..although naa say girl nga dili parehas namo siguro.. mga uhmm possesivon sad siguro nga girls

[nardz]

Waaaahhh for me ha... emotional ra kaau ka hehehe...
It is such a petty thing for you to break up with your GF right away if mao na toh imong reasons... well maybe it's about compatibility sad... anyhow...

I would send a msg to an ex or look at his facebook especially if dugay na ko wala ka kita niya for the following reasons:
1.) siguro lang ha .. siguro naa pa ko'y feelings niya - hopefully dili ni mao ang intention sa imo gf but if mao ni akong intention.. i will do it BEHIND ur back and I WILL make sure that you won't see me do it :PPPP.. but if wala ko'y feelings na I'd TELL MY BF about it.. tell him .. and see how he reacts
2.) if the guy dumped me before - gusto lang siguro ko makakita siya sa akong FB nga happy na kaau ko.. and if the guy will reply back and say kumusta sad ko.. ill answer "IM COOL.... VERY HAPPY WITH MY CURRENT LOVE LIFE!" o diba! and hoping he now got an ugly girl for dumping me before hahahahaa...
3.) Curiosity - wala lang.. curious lang gyud me usahay.. hahaha.. chismosa kumbaga... nature na gyud sa usa ka babae.. usahay bisan wala na gyud mi feelings sa exx=... ma curious ra man gud me if ni tambok ba siya or what na unsa na kaha siya noh.. and again if he dumped us before... we always want to see his fb or know from him if he now lives a miserable life with a fat and ugly gf... serves him right!
4.) just being plain friendly.. nothing is wrong with that... let bygones be bygones... iv seen a lot of couples wherein they are both comfortable that their partner is friends with their exes ... nothing more nothing less... kani higher level na gyud inu relationship ani kay it means u trust ur partner 100%... I think wala pa moh ani nga stage...

If you are the jealous or the insecure type and cannot take what ur girlfriend did then talk to her.. tell her u are not comfortable with her being friends with her ex in FB and even saying hi to that ex.. if she says it's nothing then believe her... if she does it again.. and dili ka kauyon gyud then break up with her.. it does not mean she is wrong or you are wrong.. it simply means lahi mo ug panan.aw sa things.. and if neither of you will give up his/her belief about that issue or concede then buwag nalang mo kay mag sige mo balik2x ug away anang butanga.. again dili siya sayop.. dili sad ka sayop .. LAHI lang gyud mo ug UTOK duha.. lahi lahi ug mo panan.aw sa butang.

About the part nga mo comment siya ug IMAL s amga lalake mo agi.. mag katawa lang ko.. i do that too.. but jokingly lang... himantayon lang gyud ang mga babae oi.. kung kita mi ug bati i tell my bf.. batia ug nawng o.. or kita ko ug baduy mo ana ko .. baduya o.. kung kita ko ug tambok mo ana ko.. tamboka niya oi.. kita ko ug imla mo ana ko.. hala ka imal o... hahaha maybe ingon ana imo gf.. himantayon lang ... ma notice lang nimo ug maau katohng parts nga mamantay siya ug mga lami hahaha....

bitaw if para niya wala lang toh iyang gipanulti and para nimo big deal na.. tell her about it and if she keeps on doing the same thing... again.. walay sayop ninyong duha... it means LAHI mo ug opinions ug panan.aw sa butang.. either siya ang mo acceptar nga ingon ana ka.. or ikaw mo acceptar nga ingon ana siya... if wala'y mo sabot ninyong duha.. awww mao na gi ingon dead end moh.. maau pa mag buwag...

ikaw unsa man imo palabion.. imong feelings or imong uyab... talk it over.. and if u cant resolve ur issues... then say buh-bye... think HARD gyud before doing anything stupid.. kay basin if u let her go.. mag mahay mahay sad ka.. again she is not wrong... that's just her... you're not wrong .. that's just you... lahi lahi lang gyud mo ug panan.aw sa things... it's about who's willing to compromise na gyud....

well said....murag kana man unta japon ako isulti....kapoy lang type
OT - pwede makig friends miss BabyKai? i think nice imo attitude sa relationships

[jeff_bonz59]

@babykai..ana diay na? karon pa ko... you mean naa jud diay babaye nga mga baba-an.. they cant control their emotions for crying out loud ug maka sulti jud ug mga words as such 'IMAL SAWAL..'? well said... lahi lahi jud ug perceptions ang tao ug how they perceive the situation...I didnt say buwag nga buwag na jud... it's just putting the relationship on a hibernate mode...i want her to realize what she did was wrong.. though deep down lisod pasabton jud niya nga sayop iyan gbuhat kay mismo cya d man mo accept nga sayop cya..from a guys point of view.. its a whole ballcourt naman gud when someone esp. your gf sends a personal PM to her ex... makutaw na dayon ang utok ug daghan na kaau gihuna huna on why this and why that...its for me 'normal' to think it that way..., i don't know about your bf.. again lahi2x man ang tao... what works for your bf does not necessarily work on our end sad.. vis-a-vis...thanks for the very nice inputs.. you shared something on me.. that for most part, us guys doesnt know jud.. (at least most of the guy friends i know) nga ing.ana diay mo mga girls sometimes when seeing a good luking dude... (my gf doesnt comment when she sees an ugly face or body.. just on the +side of that person e.g. nice body.. butt, face..etc..)

[BabyKai]

@babykai..ana diay na? karon pa ko... you mean naa jud diay babaye nga mga baba-an.. they cant control their emotions for crying out loud ug maka sulti jud ug mga words as such 'IMAL SAWAL..'? well said... lahi lahi jud ug perceptions ang tao ug how they perceive the situation...I didnt say buwag nga buwag na jud... it's just putting the relationship on a hibernate mode...i want her to realize what she did was wrong.. though deep down lisod pasabton jud niya nga sayop iyan gbuhat kay mismo cya d man mo accept nga sayop cya..from a guys point of view.. its a whole ballcourt naman gud when someone esp. your gf sends a personal PM to her ex... makutaw na dayon ang utok ug daghan na kaau gihuna huna on why this and why that...its for me 'normal' to think it that way..., i don't know about your bf.. again lahi2x man ang tao... what works for your bf does not necessarily work on our end sad.. vis-a-vis...thanks for the very nice inputs.. you shared something on me.. that for most part, us guys doesnt know jud.. (at least most of the guy friends i know) nga ing.ana diay mo mga girls sometimes when seeing a good luking dude... (my gf doesnt comment when she sees an ugly face or body.. just on the +side of that person e.g. nice body.. butt, face..etc..)

Hi Jeff... again as I've mentioned in my post earlier.... dili man ikaw ang sakto dili sad ang girl... but it boils down to her "intention(s)" when she sent that msg to her ex or when she says IMAL to hot looking guys .... but if she says her intentions are not meant to willfully hurt you... then that's fine... but we have to accept the fact that what's okay for me may not be okay for you or vice-versa... (One man's food is another man's poison...) that's what we call INDIVIDUALITY and that's what we always think when my bf and I disagree over some things... we're different people, we think differently, we have different preferences over a lot of things... but we learn to always compromise.. if you love each other... that's what you should do.. if wala man gud mo compromise ninyo then.. diha ang danger.. lagi nag cool off mo so you can let her learn a lesson that she is wrong gyud... but what if iyaha gyud na nature nga vocal kaau siya about things and being KEBS then that's her... because she will keep on doing it again in the future... it's either you accept her or she accepts you... if she gives way to your thinking that what she did was wrong and will never do such again then good for the you... if she doesn't hmm i don't know .. it's up to you if you're willing to give in to her way of thinking...

[amnesia]

yo jeff
i think what you are feeling is natural... Its your right to ask her what that is about.. She should not be too insensitive as to say things like "sawal imal" when she is with you.. The way she is acting around you, its like you're not her bf am so sorry to say but that's how girls act when they are with FRIENDS! Maybe she is overly comfortable with you to the point that she's becoming dense on how you might feel... The best thing to do is to let her really know how you feel... Coz maybe in that way, mkahibaw pud siya sa iyang shortcomings and hopefully she would come to her senses.. And as for her, trying to bridge communication gaps with her ex..... hmm, its definitely something that she has to explain... maybe wala lang jud to for her pero unta she would be discreet and sensitive enough...
pero one thing i could advice though, definitely try to hear her side of the story first

[jeff_bonz59]

@babykai..that's my predicament now.. I can't be the one to always adjust her and her 'showy' attitude... although in her mind she would say there's nothing wrong with it and its just her lang jud...compromise might be the key.. but after all the things she had done.. could i really eat up everything and just move on as if nothing happens..? the pride in me as a guy is crawling inside me throat.. and its very hard to swallow it back again.... on her part.. nothing wrong lagi.. on my part.. its everything -wrong...i don't know exactly for sure jud what would she need to sacrifice or give way as she again told me nga wala ug she had done nothing wrong with the actions she had done....its like torn between the devil and the deep blue sea...

[jeff_bonz59]

@amnesia,thank you for your insightful views on my side sis, I am contemplating on talking to her in person, but the part of her crying on me again to accept her back and to just shove the whole thing down the drain is.. para nako lisod pa isuka... I cant just really just stand up and continue from where i toppled down... i am not the one who did something wrong.. I AM THE ONE WHO GOT HURT and MY PRIDE/EGO got HURT in the process as well...I CANT JUST SAY TO MYSELF.. HEY JEFF.. ITS OK THAT YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS ACTING THAT WAY BECAUSE SHE IS JUST IN HER NORMAL SELF....!... Which is normal for her is really ABNORMAL on my part...