Ask me any question about relationships

[Soul Doctor]

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we don't talk about our past, I know nothing about his past and vice versa. When we were going and dating we agreed not to talk about our past relationship. Only limited stuffs we both know from our past relationships like... I am his third and the last girlfriend,his gf before me, died in a car accident. And he only knows I only have 1 bf before and thats for 5 years.

So I don't know how to open up with him now, to communicate better.

Maybe you are not of the same intellectual levels.
No intention of offending you.

There are couples who are not intellectually compatible.
They get attracted with the external characteristics--
maybe he look sexy but
inside his head, he is not that sexy.
You have a hard time understanding each other.
Because you have different level of thinking.
This could be your problem.

[Soul Doctor]

Question. Why is the philippines overpopulated because of pre maritial ***.? Isnt it against the bible that we shouldnt have a *** life until we give your partners a offering like our body...
confused?

Premarital *** leads to a lot of problems, including over population.
Married people also contributed to the over-population problem.

You read the bible too much thats what gets you confused.

[Soul Doctor]

Hi doc,

I had a "casual encounter" with a 13 year old who dresses like an 18 year old.

Am i going to hell?

No, but you're going to jail if you do that again.

[haiasi]

doc, without the laws of man and religion, is it universal natural law for human to be monogamous?

[Soul Doctor]

doc, without the laws of man and religion, is it universal natural law for human to be monogamous?

if we are talking about humans
--then we are ideally designed to be monogamous.

Socially, a pair of man and woman is an important factor for a stable family.

Any other combination creates instability in the family.

I used to live in Mindanao, where we have a house there.
And the village we lived in has lot of Muslim families.
One family lives 2 houses away from us.
The husband has two wives. the first wife has a 14 year-old son.
The second wife has a baby.
There are times that this 14 year old boy chases the second wife with a "sundang".

[jlodarl]

Maybe you are not of the same intellectual levels.
No intention of offending you.

There are couples who are not intellectually compatible.
They get attracted with the external characteristics--
maybe he look sexy but
inside his head, he is not that sexy.
You have a hard time understanding each other.
Because you have different level of thinking.
This could be your problem.

thank you Soul_Doctor! I believe you're right and thank you for enlightening me, now I know.
Karon pa ko naka relaize na mao jud na exactly happening between us.
He's just a simple guy, family oriented, loving, kind, good family provider.
Nothing so much about him though unlike me
Im the one who talk a lot over something and everything.

hahayz... lisod.. I don't know unsaon... but will try and maybe we'll talk about it.

[YM24]

unsaon mag nmu pag solve sa problema about sa karibal sa gugma?

[Fern]

This is because you keep judging her.

We guys always get out of the relationship still clueless of the cause of the problem.
Unlike girls, they want to talk about their problems with us.
We dont want to hear that.
So we often fail to recognize or identify the problem.
We end up blaming them.

Doc... sa amung relationship...wala gyud ko nag binuang. ki devote a nako akong time sa iya....
but one time... murag wala na cya clear nga communication sa ako (thats 9 months after me nag ka uyab)...mu balibad na cya sa kung mu hagad na ko ug suroy or outing. ... until i called her on her cellphone and then i "purposely" instigated a little quarrel para slip iyang tongue... ni dako samot amung away until...

then.. she told me samtang uyab pa mi... naa na cyay other guy pa aside sa ako ... and she said nga ki sugut ko niya because she thinks im a good and innocent guy.. and told me to date someone else.

(i think her reason was so shallow...dili gyu ni mao ang reason)

sakit akong dughan paka hear ani doc... i cant sleep ato nga time... her words bothered me for a week.. after that i stopped communication... and forget her... (but hell i cant erase her number in my phonebook and also iyang friendster....i tried to pero dili ko ka press sa "ok")

a year after (that karon nga month)...3 ago she called me i did not answer her call (murag 6 times na cya nig sige ug call)... she even called my mom's office number to try to get a hold of me..

until one time...nga ni tubag ko sa landline...thinking it could be one of those jobs i applied...

it was her... she said she wanted to talk to me... cya na ni hagdad ug suroy.. and etc.

i was speechless... i tried to respond back... "ok ok ok " ra akong mga response.. until i hanged up the phone..... and i just dont know how to handle that situation...ganahan unta ko mu say ug bad words... pero i just hanged up...

mao gyud ni ang story nako doc.... mao nang naka get over ko ato nga time because i let my hate take control of me...

Im not a open woman hater gyud... infact i have great work relationship with my female colleauges..( for work politics reasons... but deep inside i have dark feelings sa ila).

i just realize that i need to move on na.... after i kornily saw a "couple sa SM..together.." ..but hadlok lang ko doc.....

[Sol_Itaire]

^sorry to hear that bro. yeah, sh*t happens.

[YM24]

nganung inig buwag ninyo mura akong nabantayan ang laki man gud masakitan..