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[Baijoe]

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Hi doc.

Pls help me. Bali minyo ko. Love nako ako wife. Unya naa koy friend ka officemate nako sa dugay namo nag kaila sa ako friend na inlove ko niya in love sad cya nako pero pareho mi nga minyo. One time ni laag mi sa ako friend unya naay nahitabo namo duha.. Ga lbog ko kng unsaon nani nako pareho nako cla nga love. Mura ni ug kabet nako ako friend. Doc pls help


Baijoe

[histrionic0311]

Love is always measured by the quality of time you spend with each other.
If she does everything to get your trust.
Which includes making you priority over her friends.

yes very correct,

doc, what would indicate if that girl is already showing her true feelings towards him?

i asked this question because she is starting to show her true feelings towards me, but still i can't decipher her feelings...

[Sol_Itaire]

We guys always get out of the relationship still clueless of the cause of the problem.
Unlike girls, they want to talk about their problems with us.
We dont want to hear that.
So we often fail to recognize or identify the problem.
We end up blaming them.

KOREK!

Doc,

When will guys learn to do the opposite of the above?

Sol_Itaire

[Soul Doctor]

Hi doc.

Pls help me. Bali minyo ko. Love nako ako wife. Unya naa koy friend ka officemate nako sa dugay namo nag kaila sa ako friend na inlove ko niya in love sad cya nako pero pareho mi nga minyo. One time ni laag mi sa ako friend unya naay nahitabo namo duha.. Ga lbog ko kng unsaon nani nako pareho nako cla nga love. Mura ni ug kabet nako ako friend. Doc pls help


Baijoe

Ask yourself.
What are doing?
What if this happens to your wife and her officemate (or anyone)?
what do you expect to gain from the relationship?

I know the rush is so overwhelming.
Having an affair is twice as exciting when it comes to s.e.x and romance.
It takes all your boredom away. (but believe me, the consequence is not that pleasant)
You could hurt all those you love ---when they find out.
And she will never trust you again.
Where ever you go she will be calling you
and checking every time of your where abouts.

At the end of the day you still go home to the wife.
And she still goes home to her husband.

Whats worse is, sooner or later, the one you have affair with will learn not to trust you too.

[Soul Doctor]

yes very correct,

doc, what would indicate if that girl is already showing her true feelings towards him?

i asked this question because she is starting to show her true feelings towards me, but still i can't decipher her feelings...

Look for the little gestures bro.

I never courted my wife.
We worked together in our company.
We were both laboratory analysts.
Shes on the day shift I'm on the night shift.

But I noticed that every time I'm around her she takes her glasses off.
So I concluded to myself this girl likes me.
Either she wants me to see her eyes
or she want to have a closer look at me.
Either way she likes me.

Then she borrows things from me,
like music magazines and microphone
which I think she could easily buy.

One time we watched a beauty contest where my sister was one of the contestants
and she said she wanted to watch too, but she does not want to watch alone.
I invited her to watch with me and another lady co-worker.

So when we were inside the sports complex
where the contest was held
I sat on stair-like bleachers with them.
I was sitting right behind the two of them.
The other girl made sandal(sandig) to my tuhod and of course, I did not complain.
Then Jeanette (later became my wife) said her back hurts too.
"Can I please lean back on your knees".
But I sensed that she just wants to have me for herself.
I also noticed her hands were placed at the side of her neck.
In my mind I thought she placed it there for a reason.
So I touched her hand and stroke it lightly.
I did not know that she felt kilig pala.
Then I stroke the back of her neck when no one is looking.

We went home like nothing happened.
The next day I looked at her eyes and she stared back at me.
We never said a thing, but,
I can see her eyes telling me or asking whats your next move?

So I went straight to her and kissed her in the lips!
She said whats wrong with you? (Pakipot ba)
I said " I think I'm going crazy because of you".
And the rest is history.

[histrionic0311]

^^ wow, that was a nice story of you and your wife..

hopefully i can have that same story that you have as well...

hmm, little gestures you say, but what if it would be opposite this time, like me having feelings towards her but she doesn't have a single one, what will i do?

[jlodarl]

This is because you judge each other.
Your level of communication has not reach the highest level.
Your understanding only starts when you stop judging each other.
Something happened in the past
that made your communication a bit harder now.

You have to deal with that first.

we don't talk about our past, I know nothing about his past and vice versa. When we were going and dating we agreed not to talk about our past relationship. Only limited stuffs we both know from our past relationships like... I am his third and the last girlfriend,his gf before me, died in a car accident. And he only knows I only have 1 bf before and thats for 5 years.

So I don't know how to open up with him now, to communicate better.

[mixedjuice]

Question. Why is the philippines overpopulated because of pre maritial ***.? Isnt it against the bible that we shouldnt have a *** life until we give your partners a offering like our body...
confused?

[one try kid]

Hi doc,

I had a "casual encounter" with a 13 year old who dresses like an 18 year old.

Am i going to hell?

[Soul Doctor]

^^ wow, that was a nice story of you and your wife..

hopefully i can have that same story that you have as well...

hmm, little gestures you say, but what if it would be opposite this time, like me having feelings towards her but she doesn't have a single one, what will i do?

Be patient.
Don't rush things.
Make her your best friend first..
You are young.
You have all the time in the world.