give up or stay martyr.... girls and guys, drop an advice, thanks..

[sugarcakes_babe]

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so, what if makakita siyag lain?? alkansi ko diba? well, i guess mao nay g.ingon, malas2 lang ang peg..haayy

[SUEper.braces]

ati, first question, why is marriage of great importance to you? (pangutana raman ni akoa ati, ay lang kalain ha)
second, let me quote you on this "nya unsaon paglove nga dli gani ko secure sa akong status, sa among status" what made you say this? (pangutana raman ni akoa ati, ay lang kalain ha)
lastly, a friendly advice, not all married woman are happy, secured, satisfied, beloved, and has faithful husbands. I guess my point ati is, be happy your partner decides to stay with you, is happy with you, and is faithful to you (let's hope he really is). Ayaw lang siya i-pressure na magminyu mo ati, kay marriage is not the key to ultimate happiness of a married woman. Basin mao pa hinuon nay rason na mamayi imong partner. Nah, yataps ka. I guess ang dapat nimo buhaton (for yourself) is feel good about having a partner around (because I tell you, I don't have one. bulahan lang ko kay maka-afford akong parents ug buhi nako ug sakong baby coz i dont have a partner to depend on), feel blessed that he decides to be with you for 3 long years now, and counting (because mine ati left me after a year and six months of staying together and went off with another woman), don't account your happiness and security of your partnership to marriage (because I was once married and I regretted to ever getting married, annulment is my ultimate goal now, or mu-file ko sa court ug presumptive death to escape this god-damned status). Well, this is just my advice ati... Marriage is not and will never be the answers to your sentiments. Imong happiness,security, and self-worth di na siya ma-satisfy whether ma-minyu mo or what not. Ikaw ray maka-hatag sa imong kaugaingon ug happiness, security and self-worth. Dont bother listening to fools who despise you for being married. Unless ug milyonaryo imong partner ati, i strongly urge you to marry him at once. Otherwise, be happy you are not. If I were in your situation ati, mas pilion nako na di maminyu basta lang naa koy partner nga tarong, kanang gimahal ko ug among anak, wa mamayi, kaysa magminyu nya konsimisyon ra akong gidangtan. Okay, ay na ka-sad diha... mas ganahan ko naa sa imong posisyon karon, take care. Bow.

[naglibog.nako]

so, what if makakita siyag lain?? alkansi ko diba? well, i guess mao nay g.ingon, malas2 lang ang peg..haayy

kong maka kita siyag lain, meaning dili siya para nimo, but if you work on yourself right now, im sure by that time.. happy rapud ka... vs. sa maka kita siyag lain... with your current mindset... pagka gubot jud sa imong utok ana...


kanang love2x di na siya kwentahay, imo na gi hatag kai daghan kag subra nga gugma sa imong kasing2x nga ga awas awas.. mao na kong di nimo love imo self.. maka feel jud kag ka-kapoy feel nimo nga wa ka tigai sa equivalent love nga imong gi hatag... mao na imong gi tawag nga "alkansi"... tungod na kai gamay raka og love sa imong self

[SUEper.braces]

so, what if makakita siyag lain?? alkansi ko diba? well, i guess mao nay g.ingon, malas2 lang ang peg..haayy

ayaw lang gud pag-think ug in-ani TS gud.. nigawas nasad imong insecurities ayy. di baya nahan mga boys in-ana TS. be confident lang gud na he's with you kay he's wants to.. as for yourself, do you have work TS? or business? pagtigom, and I tell you it's not your loss if he leaves you, it's his... dont make pabaya of yourself TS ha? if he stays or not, dapat you're a whole person.. be strong. if he stays good, if he leaves buang siya (sorry TS ha)

[sugarcakes_babe]

ati, first question, why is marriage of great importance to you? (pangutana raman ni akoa ati, ay lang kalain ha)
second, let me quote you on this "nya unsaon paglove nga dli gani ko secure sa akong status, sa among status" what made you say this? (pangutana raman ni akoa ati, ay lang kalain ha)
lastly, a friendly advice, not all married woman are happy, secured, satisfied, beloved, and has faithful husbands. I guess my point ati is, be happy your partner decides to stay with you, is happy with you, and is faithful to you (let's hope he really is). Ayaw lang siya i-pressure na magminyu mo ati, kay marriage is not the key to ultimate happiness of a married woman. Basin mao pa hinuon nay rason na mamayi imong partner. Nah, yataps ka. I guess ang dapat nimo buhaton (for yourself) is feel good about having a partner around (because I tell you, I don't have one. bulahan lang ko kay maka-afford akong parents ug buhi nako ug sakong baby coz i dont have a partner to depend on), feel blessed that he decides to be with you for 3 long years now, and counting (because mine ati left me after a year and six months of staying together and went off with another woman), don't account your happiness and security of your partnership to marriage (because I was once married and I regretted to ever getting married, annulment is my ultimate goal now, or mu-file ko sa court ug presumptive death to escape this god-damned status). Well, this is just my advice ati... Marriage is not and will never be the answers to your sentiments. Imong happiness,security, and self-worth di na siya ma-satisfy whether ma-minyu mo or what not. Ikaw ray maka-hatag sa imong kaugaingon ug happiness, security and self-worth. Dont bother listening to fools who despise you for being married. Unless ug milyonaryo imong partner ati, i strongly urge you to marry him at once. Otherwise, be happy you are not. If I were in your situation ati, mas pilion nako na di maminyu basta lang naa koy partner nga tarong, kanang gimahal ko ug among anak, wa mamayi, kaysa magminyu nya konsimisyon ra akong gidangtan. Okay, ay na ka-sad diha... mas ganahan ko naa sa imong posisyon karon, take care. Bow.

loved it... two thumbs up. u know im not getting these kind of advices from my family nor friends, tho give almost the same but, they are more on diverting my attentions, emotions, u know they'd rather not take it seriously or rather stick for the dignity and for the baby....... im thankful i still have my fellow istoryans...

[MaInEvEnT]

Wa man kaha cya nag kuwang sa iyang responsibilities nimo ug sa inyong anak? I'm not saying dli important ang kasal pero sahay dpende naman sad na sa couple.. nya ug imong buwagan? unsa man imo status ana? unya pa supporta japun mo sa inyong anak niya nga imo man cya byaan? klaruha usa na ug huna2x.. pero when you say magpaka martyr ka, kana unta to wala cya klaro, ga binuang ba kaha cya ninyo ug wa ga supporta nya nag agwanta lang japun ka niya, that's being a martyr and kanang sitwasyona, angay jud na byaan ang laki ana.. if iyang gi barugan iyang responsibilities ninyo and tarong cya nimo ug sa inyong anak pero wa lang mo nagpa kasal, I don't see anything na maka ingon ka nagpaka martyr ka... hope this helps.

[innocence]

Hi Miss TS,
Ang ako makatambag nimo,Sutaa usa imong bana basi sa iyang binuhatan og mga lihok.Kay kung imo na siya pogson nga magpakasal mo useles ra gihapon after sa kasal ninyo.Kahibaw naka unsa ang mahitabo.

PRAY ALWAYS SA GOD!

[_hizuka_]

heheheh maningning man sud ka aning mga pangutanaha @Hizuka ba hehehe, well lemme go ahead sa mga anwers..
1. first reason, we agreed to have it on dec.2011, so ahead of time tigum daw mi, pero pila naka bonuses niagi niya till the last bonus is ang 13th month, wala as in wala gani xa ni.open up about saving some pennies for the said wedding, then nahuman nlng ang 2011, way nahitabo. second, this time ako na xa gi hatagan ultimatum, nga if no wedding will happen this 2012, better buwag nlang mi, lain sad kayg puyo.puyo.on lang ko niya, at least, professional bya ko, masters degree holder of a said course, registerd pajud, dli lang nako i.mention ang kurso basin naay makaila na nako hehehe.... so we agreed oct2012, and as the said date is fast approaching, i couldnt see any preparations from him, not even any savings effort since siya may nag.dala sa among budgetting... til september came, nangumusta ko niya, oy kumusta naman atong plano, next month naman, ana xa, walay kwarta...lisud makasave... naminghoy nlng ko, and days after, nitawag pud akong kuya nga i.postpone ang kasal kay sila sa daw, getting married pud d i sila that december, and niana pud ko, ok go ahead, d nasd mi madayon... so next year npud mi.... may or june of 2013, at least this time, kuyog najud mi adto sa city health, process sa requirements makita na nako ang willingness niya, nya voice out jud sad xa nga lami man d i ang feeling nga getting married namo.... til ring nalay kuwang, nanganvass nami sa sm, tag 15-20k gyud sad, faet... pero naa bya siyay budget, 20k lang nuon.... til nadiscourage napud xa kay bati kaau ang mga ring nga 15-20k, since everyday kuno na sul.ubon, ang mga nindot kay pwerting mahala man pud oy, tag 40-60k, niana napud siya, tigum sa lagi tag dako2 para matinuod akong dream wedding nga bongga, nya naminghoy napud ko, and he then kept on telling me nga , malipayon raman ta ba in.ani....til nadiscourage napud ko.....and few weeks after napud my mother approach me nga sila ni papa pakasal pud, so i.postpone sa daw amoa...haay.... pero my mother suddenly died because of heart attack this june.... samot dili mi pwede pakasal kay sukob.... so last plan kay next yr july2014, after my mother's first death anniversary....

2. ma.obyus naman pud ta ani oy hehe, basta both of us are now 25+, im ahead 1yr heheh, pero far from 30 pa...

3.regular employee xa sa isa ka well established ug dako nga call center dri cebu, 2yrs na xa dha, dako nag sweldo, ako housewife..kay way klarong katabang... pero makakita ramig tarong nga helper, sutoy jud kog pangaply....

4. two years mi nag.uyab before nabuntis...

aw taasa oi,... pero miga, murag naay pagkatapulan na imong partner,..
ani nalang, para masure inyong kasal unya para dili pud niya magasto ikaw gunit sa iyang giipon para sa kasal,. kay murag tapulan na klase na ang lalake pina go with the flow tirada na, walay force hehe....

kung dili mosugot eexplain sa iyaha kung ngano ikaw mogunit... kung dili jud gihapon aw klaro na, wa nay plano makigminyo nimo,.. gikuyugan lang ka sa cityhealth para lang malahi nasad ang outcome sa pagpostpone, klaro na sa pattern..

[tee_dee]

hi TS. it might not apply to all but i believe in general, if ang laki ganahan og willing mudala sa iya responsibilidad sa inyua sa imong anak, iya kang pakaslan. kung wa pa siyay ipon, maningkamot na siya og mu.set og deadline kung when. i'm speaking from my experience. though unplanned, gipanindigan jud ko sa akong hubby. naningkamot siya maka.kwarta para makasal mi bisan civil lang. respetar pud sa akong parents labi na akong mama nga ni.demand jud. well, kanya kanya man sad ng batasan sa laki. but i believe as human, laki or bae, if naa ka value sa usa ka tao or butang, mangita ka paagi para mu.take care ana.

[sugarcakes_babe]

hi TS. it might not apply to all but i believe in general, if ang laki ganahan og willing mudala sa iya responsibilidad sa inyua sa imong anak, iya kang pakaslan. kung wa pa siyay ipon, maningkamot na siya og mu.set og deadline kung when. i'm speaking from my experience. though unplanned, gipanindigan jud ko sa akong hubby. naningkamot siya maka.kwarta para makasal mi bisan civil lang. respetar pud sa akong parents labi na akong mama nga ni.demand jud. well, kanya kanya man sad ng batasan sa laki. but i believe as human, laki or bae, if naa ka value sa usa ka tao or butang, mangita ka paagi para mu.take care ana.

....wala rapud ni.demand akong parents nga magpakasal mi, kay lagi from the exp sa akong mga kuya, i got three kuyas, two of them got separated and had problems dealing with annulment, since klaro na kaau nagbinuang sila, todo tnt ang show nila sa mga asawa, kay u know ang bigamy naghuwat sa korte... haay.... pero honestly my parents asked me back then when our daughter is still months old pa lang nga why wala pami magpakasal, and i think they already smelled something fishy bout my bf's behaviour ug nganong wa pami makasal, nigawas nalang ang bata, cguro pride nalang ila, wa nalang namugos ug gi.kebs sa akong parents and all they told me was, ah mas better way kasal para kung naay magbinuang buwag and go ahead start my profession, d bya pud lalim akong kurso guys maong, deep inside super dismayed sila of what happened to me, i guess my parents are just praying cguro that we'd rather separate ways, pero sa ako ra nang huna2, they don't actually entertain my bf that much.. haaayyy... as of now, im preparing myself for that big day nga makigbuwag najud ko niya ug bongga, like apply ko work, rent an apt, bring my daughter with me, and say goodbye to everything what we had, tan.awn nato naa bay buhaton ang kugtong, lech! so hopefully before na nako buhaton, maka.propose na xa hahaha we'll for sure not.... and im stickin' to that decision... bahala na nang gugma2, anyway, my daughter will surely understand our situation in the long run, kesa naman pud , kuyog lagi mis iyang papa, pero cge pud ug away kay wa koy peace of mind...