a couple's financial woe

[bowee]

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@TS...

Sorry to burst your bubble.. but, do you think leaving an unclosed problem here and going to Australia would ultimately solve all your financial worries??

Mind you, mas samot pa kalabad imong problema if tua ka sa gwas.. It isnt all that sweet icing on the cake mind you.. (if nilarga naka).. living and working abroad isnt all that glamour and it intakes a whole lot of sacrifices and pains...

D lalim manarbaho sa lain nasud baya mam.. You will know what I mean when your there na....

Going on your perrenial monetary problems here... I know its too late blaming you for all of this, but one thing I can say to all those lang nga nagplano pa.. to those couples who think they know it all na in starting a family and stuff.. bisag wala pa diay sulod ang kaban or wala pay naipon nga savings.. YOU BETTER THINK TWICE in having a baby jud. Bringing a baby in this world will totally change both of your lives, you and your partner.. It ain't easy and will never easy, especially if nagsunod ninyo ang kakuwang sa kwarta or kawad.on... Better think a million times of bringing a person in this world, if and if kuwang mo sa bala...

Ang pasalig nga magtinabangay mong duha sa ngadto ngadto kay kutob ra jud na sa sulti ug pasalig.. In reality.. mao ra na kutob, sa pasalig. When reality bites hits back at you totally.. Mag wish jud mo ngano nahimo to ninyong duha nan karon naa nay lain tao inyong inyong e.consider napud.

@TS.

You can't blame your partner's family for being demanding on him kay in reality, he is.. as you said the breadwinner of his family and his sisters (or brothers) are not yet fully capable of earning and sustaining the entire family sad. His family is their pillar of strength and source of income, so bsag asa pa mo muadto, you can better expect that his family will always be a shadow on your family sad. Mag sunod sunod na ninyo, mangayo or mamarayg ba ug unsa man gani ilang pangayo.on.


Regarding asking for financial support on his part.. I'm not a lawyer but I don't think you can demand a monetary support on him because you saw man sad unsa kalooy iyang situation karon. Nag kugi tawn cya kutob sa iyang mahimo ma sustenahan nya imong panginahanglan ug panginahanglan pud sa iyang family.


So... Unsa akong ma advice jud nimo?? Ask financial things to your parents or relatives. If pwde sa mananabang man ka modool aron ma tipid ka, then buhata. As long as you can deliver that baby of yours to this world, the next best thing you would do after is to FIND A JOB HERE. Wagtanga sa na imong pangandoy mularga ka.. Ngano kay ikaw ra pohon mag rigor sa imong kaugalingon if makalarga naka nga imong gbyaan imong anak dire, g.pa amuma nimo sa lain unya ikaw toa ka sa gawas kay nag kayod ka pangitag kwarta. Maghilak ang mga gabii ug adlaw mangandoy ka maka galam ka sa imong baby kung tua naka sa gawas.. Mind you.. masakit ka na nuon madugay didto ug d ka maka focus pagtarong sa imong work.

Better find a job here sa, if mudako na na inyong baby.. ask him unsay inyong plano ninyong duha and let him decide sad. Not you only. If unsa man gani iyang decision, weight on it. If you think dili makasapar iyang sweldo sa inyong panginahanglan na (naa na ang baby), so find a high paying job to augment your living sad. Kamong duha magtinabangay. I'm sure you can land a high paying job here in Cebu because judging from the words you typed, you are smart and a learned educated individual.

If the job abroad is still there 4-5 years from now and if anang tyma murag stable na gamay inyong financial situations, then anha naka mag entertain on the thoughts of going abroad.

Imho lang.. Good luck.. Don't forget in all your deepest woes and problems to pray and ask HIS guidance. Walay impossible NIYA if you entrust all your worries and pains to HIM.

[yencortes]

TS lisod jud tuod imu situation karon. Just do a heart to heart talk kamo duha.. regarding sa inyong saituation karon, sa inyong priorities and your future. 2013 pa mn kha ka mularga TS, tn.awa lng between sa time na manganak nka and before ka mularga on how your boyfriend will support you and your child. if u deem na di gihapon xa ka sustento ninyo, i suggest adto na imu baby sa imo parents ibiin. mas maayo nalang kung sa parents kaysa sa relatives. also TS, lisod jud if wa kay enough money for delivery kay crisis na bya jud ron. bsta TS, ingna lng imu partner na since naa nmna jud xa lain buhion nga family, kamo na ang i prioritize niya.

and regarding sa family sa guy, pwede ra mn xa muhatag ug small percentage sa iyang sweldo sa iya family but mostly dapat sa imo jud na ug sa inyong baby. i really hope, everything turns out well jud TS.

[luke0917]

sis, love yourself and the baby more than you love your BF. mao na ako na learn pud. I am a single mom. paningkamot nlng ug imo para sa bata ayaw na cya hunahunaa always kay ma stress raka ug samot ana. alangan if muana cya na wla na cyay pliti, ikaw japon muhatag nya naa baya ka dako gastohan inig panganak puhon pud. adto cya mangayo sa iyang mama.

gudluck sa imong pagpanganak pohon sis and Congratulations!

[reginakrys]

1. Do i have the right to demand financial assistance from him even when were not married? If yes, to what extent?

yes, i think so.. labi nag niangkon cya nga cya ang father.. just make sure he signs the BC of the child kay i think sufficient proof na na nga ni acknowledge cya sa iyang paternity..

2. If finances and material provision are the only challenges, angay ba gihapon sya pakaslan knowing d sya og wa sya ka support namo?

sa imong situation, what i can gather is that his salary CAN sustain your family, it's just that the money is going somewhere else.. so ang question here is kinsa iyang i-prioritize.. IMO, kamo na dapat kay kamo naman ang immediate family.. it's not his primary obligation nga mu-sustain sa iyang siblings, it's his parents'.. ngano diay walay work iyang mom?

3. Will it be wise nga ibilin nko sya sa akong bf?

if you ask me, wala pa naka-prove imong bf nga he will prioritize your family above everything else, so i think it would be better to leave the baby with your blood relatives..

[spike412]

child support? kung married mo pwede ka mo file ana sa court kung dili gani, dili ka force ug child support coz any child born out of weblock is considered illegitimate... ang dawaton ra sa korte is legitimate....

revised family code man tingali states na ang illegitimate and legitimate child are now equal when it comes to rights.