a couple's financial woe

[spike412]

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1. ayaw na ibilin imong anak.
2. don't marry him.
3. ask him what his priorities are if dili ka nauna ato then, move on.

[Ronn926]

girl....
ayaw gyud intwn psalig niya.. lisod kaau ana. i know from experience. financially, ikaw ray mgsupporta sa imong anak.
ayaw gyud intwn na ibilin imong anak if mklarga ka, himuon ra unya ka milking cow niya og sa iyang pamilya. krn palng na u nid him, d cya khatag. iyang family na dapat musabot kay buntis ka, wa rmn gani ngparaya sa gastoson unta... f ibilin nimo imong baby, basin ang kwarta d kaabot sa imong anak...
hay, kpaet nimo girl. same ta sa akong naagian before. mas swerti lng ko kay kaya sa akong sweldo ang gasto sa akong pregnancy, f di pa, abot nlng...

gudluck sa imong pregnancy. n think twice about staying wd that guy. krn pa lng na minimal pa gasto anang bata, d cya ka suporta. unsa nlng kha mg-raise anang bataa na mas gato pa. dapat gyud iprioritize niya ang pgsuporta sa inyong anak...

[blaise]

hello guys, salamat sa inyong mga replies. im slowly picking up sa inyong mga ideas para matimbang2 sad nako unsay akong angay buhaton kay dmd kon puro na lang love ang ipalabi, i disregard na ang atong reasoning. naa napod koy laing question, would it be right if ako ni i open up sa akong bf? right now wa siya kahibaw nga maoy akong na feel, although i think he already has an idea nga mao gyuy akong nabatian coz at times he apologizes that he has done nothing to support us financially and is "working his way to deserve us." at least, nakahuna huna siya lol.

if i should open this up, unsaon nako pag-ingon nga makasabot siya og sakto without creating a crack sa among relationship?

kay murag lain sad kaayo kon mudiretso kog ingon niya "undangi nag suporta imong pamilya unya ari na sa amo imohang financial nga suporta" lol and of course I can't approach his family and tell them di na mangayo niya og kwarta. luoy sya, luoy pod gihapon mi. technically since puhon kami na iyang pamilya nga priority dapat sa amoa na ang income diba. pero i don't see myself as luoy, i see myself as blessed gihapon. im even gearing myself to become a single parent, self-sustaining sa akoang kaugalingon og sa akong baby kay di ko ganahan ma stress nga wa syay ikahatag sa amoa. with regards to us getting married, ambot lang kung angay pa ba. coz love is not a reason enough to get married. i'd rather enjoy my time and pour all my energy caring for my son than worry kung kanus-a ko makadawat og sustento niya. Right now im deciding gyud and getting prepared in case di nako madala akong baby ig larga nako (coz he might need a new set of applications) para ig makalarga ko ang akoang baby sure nga naa sa safe hands. although with regards to finances maglisod gyud kog trust sa bisan kinsa lang. coz i even have relatives who milk us with money and what's my guarantee nga di nila tipiron akong anak sa akong remittances. but i will have to sacrifice for a while lang gyud while i wait nga makuha nako akong baby. whew thank you very much for all your support guys!

[spike412]

there is nothing wrong with being honest... lay down everything from him from what you want and feel then, ask him what he thinks. He'll definitely tell you what he wants and from there you can decide knowing what his priorities are from his response.

[elvishtattoo]

TS, tell it to his face, straight forward nga wala syay nahimo / natabang sa imong pag buntis ( except sa sperm donation ). matter of fact, he is the reason nga nag kunsomisyon ka karon, which is NOT DAPAT because you are pregnant. Talk to him about how yoy feel para ma ease imong problems.

Here is my suggestion: Focus on your pregnancy for now. Ayaw sa hunahuna anang kasal ninyo kay murag hanap pas panas. To be perfectly honest, I think you and your baby will be better off without him IF dili siya mag usab ug priorities. Lisud mag single mother pero mas lisud kung naa kay bana pero walay ikatabang / ika buhi ninyo. Mag cge lang mo ug away.

[salbahis]

1.) YES, you can demand bisan dili mo kasal - ambot kaha kung naa ba sad kay makuha niya

child support? kung married mo pwede ka mo file ana sa court kung dili gani, dili ka force ug child support coz any child born out of weblock is considered illegitimate... ang dawaton ra sa korte is legitimate....

[elvishtattoo]

child support? kung married mo pwede ka mo file ana sa court kung dili gani, dili ka force ug child support coz any child born out of weblock is considered illegitimate... ang dawaton ra sa korte is legitimate....

Articles 195 and 196 of the Family Code enumerate the persons who are under obligation to support each other, thus: (1) The spouses; (2) Legitimate ascendants and descendants; (3) Parents and their legitimate children and the legitimate and illegitimate children of the latter; (4) Parents and their illegitimate children and the legitimate and illegitimate children of the latter; (5) Legitimate brothers and sisters, whether of full or half-blood; and (6) Brothers and sisters not legitimately related, whether of the full or half-blood, except only when the need for support of the brother or sister, being of age, is due to a cause imputable to the claimant’s fault or negligence.

[digitalsuperman]

financial woe indeed. wala nay lain solusyon ana inyo problem than to earn more money.

[digitalsuperman]

child support? kung married mo pwede ka mo file ana sa court kung dili gani, dili ka force ug child support coz any child born out of weblock is considered illegitimate... ang dawaton ra sa korte is legitimate....

actually under the revised family code. ang rights for both illegitimate and legitimate child are the same. so long as the mother can prove he's the father. mas dali if ang laki mao nipirma sa BC sa bata.

but theres a big but. depends gihapon na sa income sa lalaki. ingon ang poster nga breadwinner siya and he has also his own family to support.then the child support will depende kung pila ang mahabilin. for one.dili sila married.so the primary family of the guy is his parents. so second priority ra sila. pwedi ra siya mo duol sa Family Court naa raman na sa capitol to get more advice on this matter.but mind you.dugay au ang process ani. and to think mularga na siya sa gawas. i would suggest talking things over. then see from there what he can do.

[LeeLeePot]

pde mureply in continuation pud? ehhehehe....


if he loves you, he has to sacrifice his family. to think nga dli nmn responsibility nia nga ibuhi iyang pamilya. nagwonder lan ko nganung patugatuga ug buntis ang lalake unya d man diay kaya musuporta?!