How can I tell to him that I already had a baby? I need ur advise guyz (UPDATES)

[SheilaB]

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Hi Friends... I'm new here.. and I need your advise.. pls. help me with this.

I have this new bf, we dated 3 weeks ago and we go to church every sunday. He said he loves me so much and he wants to introduce me with his parents but one thing he doesn't know is I already had a baby (1 yr. old) with my past bf. He told me too that he wants to meet my parents and mamisita daw cya nako but I'm afraid to tell him my secret basin ma discourage cya nako. I have positive vibes that his feelings will change if I tell him the truth. I love him so much and I don't want to lose him. What should I do?

[dubioz]

Honesty is the best policy. You should have told him before you started dating. I dated single moms before I was married but it didn't work out, NOT because they had a kid, but wala lang mi vibes.

I didn't mind, BUT, I knew all the time. It will also be a good test for him, if he really loves you, he'll be willing to accept you even if you have a child.

[diem]

[color=navy]I think you should tell him as soon as it is possible for you to. This can be a trial of his sincerity of his feelings and words. I also don't think that its best to start relationships on false assumptions. As dubioz posted, Honesty is the best policy. Simply because it is the Right thing to do.

I believe that Love accepts. Being a mother is a part of your identity, of who you are-- if he cannot accept that, that indicates he cannot accept you.

I understand that this guy is important to you, but how about your child? Isn't your baby also important to you too?

[SheilaB]

Honesty is the best policy. You should have told him before you started dating. I dated single moms before I was married but it didn't work out, NOT because they had a kid, but wala lang mi vibes.

I didn't mind, BUT, I knew all the time. It will also be a good test for him, if he really loves you, he'll be willing to accept you even if you have a child.

The first time we met I didn't tell the whole truth 'coz I'm afraid he will not respect me. My friends told me too that I should have told him before we dated. This is really my fault . A difficult situation that I'm facing right now

[daMiro ronaB]

[color=navy]I think you should tell him as soon as it is possible for you to. This can be a trial of his sincerity of his feelings and words. I also don't think that its best to start relationships on false assumptions. As dubioz posted, Honesty is the best policy. Simply because it is the Right thing to do.

I believe that Love accepts. Being a mother is a part of your identity, of who you are-- if he cannot accept that, that indicates he cannot accept you.

I agree, with diems point. Because mao jud na iya ultimate test if he really means that he loves you for love knows no boundaries... ma testingan jd ni xia.

Well i mind set na lng if ever unsa ang outcome sa imo pag-sulti nimo niya sa truth

If he does not accept then...mke a plan ahead para dili au ka masakitan...

like Chris A. said DEAL or No DEAL k :mrgreen:

[diem]

[color=navy]@SheilaB, in regards as to how your tell your boyfriend about your child, I humbly suggest that you tell him in a simple and direct manner. Please prepare for his worst reaction but also hope and pray for the best.

You can begin by simply preparing and practicing what you're going to say to him. You should anticipate his questions like "Why did you tell me only this now?", "Why did you keep this a secret?".

The best place to do this should be in a private place where you can have a slight advantage just in case good comes to bad.

I suggest that you invite him to your home or to your good friend's place to talk and inform him of your motherhood because in the worst case scenario that he leaves angry-- at least he leaves you in a place of comfort and reassurance, with your family and friends.

[SheilaB]

[color=navy]I think you should tell him as soon as it is possible for you to. This can be a trial of his sincerity of his feelings and words. I also don't think that its best to start relationships on false assumptions. As dubioz posted, Honesty is the best policy. Simply because it is the Right thing to do.

I believe that Love accepts. Being a mother is a part of your identity, of who you are-- if he cannot accept that, that indicates he cannot accept you.

I understand that this guy is important to you, but how about your child? Isn't your baby also important to you too?

I knew for the first time we met I should have told him but just like my pasts bf they left me too when I told them I had a baby. So, it means they didn't accept my whole being. I promised to myself I have to focus nalang with my daughter but this guy came into my life. My friends (past highschool classmates) introduces me with him. By that time, I felt like i'm inlove again and this time this is not really a joke. I like him so much and he likes me too. We exchanging sweet txt messages until we dated with each other. I doubt If I will tell him but I don't have a guts 'coz I'm afraid that he will left me just like my pasts bf did.

Yes, I really love my daughter and she is very important to me. She completes me but this time, I love this guy so much

[ajol]

i will volunteer to tell him....

give me his mobile no.

[ajol]

3 weeks is such a short time.

you can still tell him about your daughter....

[SheilaB]

I agree, with diems point. Because mao jud na iya ultimate test if he really means that he loves you for love knows no boundaries... ma testingan jd ni xia.

Well i mind set na lng if ever unsa ang outcome sa imo pag-sulti nimo niya sa truth

If he does not accept then...mke a plan ahead para dili au ka masakitan...

like Chris A. said DEAL or No DEAL k :mrgreen:

waaaaa... this is really a problem I can't accept if he will left me...I know when I will tell him the whole truth this is the possible outcomes either he will left me or change his feelings to me ... and I can't accept that... basin maghikog nalang ko ana :-x