Long distance relationship.. Is it worth it?

[cheymeows]

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I and my boyfriend have been dating for a year. (Aug 4 2015-present [sept 9 2016]) Weve been through LDR from nov 13 2015-dec 20 2015, jan 2 2016-may 3rd week, aug 27 2016 until present.
My problem is he doesnt listen to the things i say. Well, He listens but he doesnt do them.
Like i told him not to chat girls unless its important but he ends up doing them sooner or later
I told him not to delete messages with other people so i can read them but he does them.
I told him not to go drinking but he did that.
i told him not to hang out with some guys who are no good but he did it.
He just follow what i say for a few weeks then he forgets it after a while and does it.
and it bothers me because i want to make him a good person and a formal one. but he just isnt cooperating. i really am inlove with him but it really bothers me that he upsets me alot. i guess its not worth it anymore but.. Im in USA and i have no friends or anything. Hes all ive got. The only comfort zone i have. I cant break up with him, Id be completely alone. I just dont know what to do.
Sorry for an english post. I know this is a bisaya forum but feel free to speak bisaya (please do. i havent talked to bisaya people for a long time i nearly forgot how to speak bisaya [clearly])

[buknoy24]

You cant change the person who they really are.. what you did is controlling him, let him be doing the things he like.. give him freedom. He's just enjoying himself coz youre too far away from him. IMHO

[flyhigh]

LDR na with my bf for 3 yrs and 4months. Your relationship is still young. Ldr is tough jud. We were like you guys during our first yr that lead us to break up for 3 months. We got back together november of 2014, but still the same, deleting messages, etc. What i did was not telling him what to do and what not to do but instead gave him advices like "you know you have friends that are bad influence and some can be trusted, you can choose to either influence yourself with bad people or be successful coz you chose the good ones. I'd still be beside you." Told him that deleting messages is a form of cheating and if he continues to do that just think of his mother and sisters. He stopped eventually. My bf used to like going out late at night with friends, i just let him be but i see to it that i can monitor him by calling him from time to time just to make sure he's ok. Tell him that he can do everything under the sun but should know his limitations. From what you just posted, you are afraid of being alone. Our 1st yr together was poisonous that i had to do something to get away from him but all his intentions were good, i'd be talking to my friends and we're always on call and he's listening to us. We see each other twice a yr. We lost our 1st baby when i got pregnant due to stress and he denied that it was his baby, i understood him coz he was a graduating student at that time but broke up with him. He said he was sorry that had to happen to me and our baby. He changed. Trust me, he's not all you've got. All relationships will have its ups and downs. And it's up to you to stay or fight and believe in him that he'll change eventually. Make him understand but do not demand. Let him see your worth as a partner and a friend not just the girl who always tells him NO coz that's just what he sees in you, based on my experience. He'll keep doing the same thing if he'll get annoyed or worse he'll break up with you if he feels like he's in a cage with you. Understand him coz that's what us women will always have to do to our partners. But know when to stop if it's hurting you so much already. I told my partner that it's better to be cheated than be the one who cheats. Idk if i'm making a sense nah. Hahaha. Grow together but remember that you 2 are still individual people.

[kRizzY_aMAtZ]

It’s worth it. Knowing someone can love you from a distance, knowing someone’s waiting for you. My husband and I are in LDR too. But I never controlled him; I let him do whatever makes him happy as long as it doesn’t hurt me. But in your case, it hurts you clearly. Try to understand him. Maybe he’s just doing that because he misses you and he don’t want to feel the longing. But if you can’t bear the pain anymore then maybe it’s time to let go. Let him go and most of all, let yourself go.

[THE KID]

ang mas dakung problema kung mo fling siya sa pariha niyang laki.....
you are putting him inside the box maam....

[Venn]

Worth it raman. Trust rajud kailangan ana. The problem really is that you don't really know whats going on on the other side. My ex once accused me of cheating and other stuff while ako kabalo jud ko na wala ko gabinuang. I was staying in Cebu para maka human kog skwela ug engineering sa CIT for 3 years. sa 1st year sige siyag pangaway kai abi niyag naa koi chicks dinhe maski wala and telling me sige daw kog adtog mga bar and stuff... wala siyay salig nako kai naanad siya na always by her side ko and never ko mu-biya. After around 2-3 years nisalig raman pud siya.

Unya pag graduate nako and nibalik ko sa Mindanao ayha pa nuon mi gabulag. Ironic and hahahasula xD

[Scott Bernard]

Hilig jud ni ug initials ang mga istoryans noh...

LDR, FWB, NSA, CS...

[luff101]

trust trust trust.

[THE KID]

hilig jud ni ug initials ang mga istoryans noh...

Ldr, fwb, nsa, cs...

eb, seb....

[Venn]

Hilig jud ni ug initials ang mga istoryans noh...

LDR, FWB, NSA, CS...

CS raman ako nahibaw.an. CS-Go xD