To call or not to call???

[natividad]

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kong mag away mu sa imung GF to call or not to call??

[mariox]

depende kun kinza sad-an... kun siya, never.. unza tah ulipon??

[spoil]

mao! hahahahaha

[Serene]

To call, siyempre. To do the initiative doesn't mean that it's your fault. In every situation, it always takes two to tango. It means that you are mature enough to face the issues head on. Besides, it's not important anymore to pinpoint who's right instead of what's right. I always believe that it's better to go all out because you can move on without regrets if the relationship fails.

[mariox]

I always believe that it's better to go all out because you can move on without regrets if the relationship fails.

giving everything is like losing everything if all fails... and it will be a very hard transition to go through... being "ulipon" is not a bad thing as long as d girl is also "ulipon" to you... be practical...

not all d tym people lyk to dance tango and you dont even know it... if you get my drift...

[Serene]

^To each his own. My advice is based on experience.

My husband and i separated...coz we married young and so many other issues. But the main thing was, i was afraid of getting hurt so i protected myself by "keeping" a lot of myself. So it goes for years : he gives and gives and i took and took...until such time he can't give me anything of himself anymore coz he's depleted already. I figured that if i keep something to myself...then i wouldn't get hurt if the relationship fails.

But i was wrong. He's able to move on much 'coz he's given 100% of himself. He didn't feel the guilt that's killing me 'coz he gave his everything to make us work. As for me, it took me awhile to move on 'coz i've been blaming myself for the breakdown of our marriage. There's a lot of "what-ifs" and "what-could-have-beens" in my mind and i know that even if i will finally heal, i will be forever haunted by this mistake.

Pain is inevitable in life. No matter how much we try to avoid it by protecting ourselves in whatever means we can find, it's unavoidable as death itself. Everything is always a risk. I learned that i have to give 100% in everything. We can't predict the outcome but we will feel good because we did everything we can. Otherwise, we'll feel haunted by guilts and the idea that it's our fault that we failed 'coz we didn't try hard enough. People may take advantage of that, and so what. In the end, we can leave without the burden on our shoulders.

[mariox]

you got a point based on your experience, but mine's d complete opposite of yours... i was like your huzband who gave up everything....

im also married and were separated (not legally) for a year now... karn pako nagregret y i gave everything... to her...

sa amo breakup, guba ako lyf including my job... it took me months to recover. i dunno where she s now, n i dont have plans to think about it... there are better things to do.. better things i should have done. i lost 5 years because she was only my world... i thought she was my life...

lastly.. i ddnt mean to flame something up... just makin my point...

[lady_kanti]

opposite jud mong duha..hehehhe...

[lady_kanti]

for me, it doesnt matter kung kinsa ang mo una ug call, im the one who always do the first call sa amo away

[shaxyra]

...sauna paugat jud kaayo ko... nothing beats my pride even if it was my fault.. then just realized how stubborn i was and twas already too late to make it up... well, my next relationship went pretty well.. he was older than me and we compromise a lot.. when we have a fight.. though we rarely do, either of us usually calls.. pero feel nako ako pirmi mocall.. ako man pirmi naay sala.. haha.. la mi away mo last overnight.. maresolve jud sya at the end of the day.. so sad... it ended... mutually we parted ways.. maybe because we still have a lot of things we left behind.. constant though amo communication.... as friends...

Pain is inevitable in life. No matter how much we try to avoid it by protecting ourselves in whatever means we can find, it's unavoidable as death itself. Everything is always a risk. I learned that i have to give 100% in everything. We can't predict the outcome but we will feel good because we did everything we can. Otherwise, we'll feel haunted by guilts and the idea that it's our fault that we failed 'coz we didn't try hard enough. People may take advantage of that, and so what. In the end, we can leave without the burden on our shoulders.

i think.. i was also scared of getting hurt that's why i didn't give everything... i gave up my pride though... nevertheless, bottom line is a fight can never be resolved in silence...