ROLE PLAYING: Hiding Your True Identity

[Ultimate Dreamer]

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Have you ever felt unaccepted? Have you ever felt being ignored? Have you ever felt being neglected and rejected even with your own family?

That's the reason why I'm wearing my mask at our own home.
That feeling of being unaccepted because your parents think that you are a disgrace to your family.
Not even knowing that you've already done all the things that you know to make them proud. You've sacrificed your own happiness for the sake of pleasing the people around you. Well this all about, gender preference. As we all know individuals who tend to classify themselves to the unique world of the unique people.
Last week, while scrolling through my News Feed in Facebook, I wondered why so many friends of mine posted to the timeline my friend also. I've met that guy through an event. He was so handsome and we were in the same age. Well, I'm 18 years young. Going back, the posts that I've read from his timeline were mostly "Pag sure oy! Namiya man ka bai, Batia nimog batasan oy. Others kaayo ka da! R.I.P." Then I just knew that he died from a car accident. Instantly!!! And I was so shocked! After reading those kind of words, I asked myself, if I die tonight, am I happy? Am I fulfilled? Am I READY? Ug sa walay pagduha-duha nikalit lang ug tulo ang luha sa akong mga mata. Am I ready to cast this mask that I am wearing for a very long period of time? My parents already knew my true identity but they said that its better for me to keep it. I loved my parents so much and I don't want to hurt them. If their happiness means forgetting my own happiness....well I'd rather go shopping! Kidding. Malipayon kaayo ko nga pagkataw pero kung akong mama ug papa sultian ambot lang. I really need your thoughts and opinions ka istorya. Thank you!

[Wynna]

I myself had been hiding my true identity for 26 years, only when somebody very close to me directly revealed to my family what's behind the silhouette. Though, I never had the chance to personally come out to them but I then later realized that it was perhaps a bridge of becoming my true self. TS, I feel you. I understand what you're going through. but I tell you, you're still young, you don't have to rush things... I tried to be in denial before because I was afraid of being unaccepted in this society especially to my family. Being deprived of becoming who we are and what we want is indeed heart wrecking. Sometimes, we also have to understand that living a life isn't all about living it the way we wanted it to be. We sometimes have to compromise to make other people happy even it would mean giving up our own happiness. I am certain that this is all just temporary, ... just give it time, give them time. Criticisms, rejection or worst being disowned are all part of it.., but I believe it all boils down to acceptance

btw, if you don't mind.. are you the straight-natured kind of gay? or any plans of transitioning?

cheers

[jerkric]

oh i love role playing...if you know what i mean...

[Ultimate Dreamer]

Wynna Thanks! Greatly appreciated! Thank you

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Jerkric I dunno what you mean.

[larisse]

ts,

i know we live in a society where it is "important" that we consider what other people feel and think even if it pertains to our own feelings and happiness, but i'd say in your case that you come out because you feel like it's the right time - you are really comfortable in showing everybody your true self. hiding can be exhausting, not exhausting in the physical sense but kapoy sigeg pretend.

sakto si @Wynna, it all boils down to acceptance - naay makadawat nimo ug naa sad jud pud dili basin ang question ron is andam ba ka sa possibility sa rejection sa mga tawo na nag-expect ka nga mo-accept nimo?

let this coming out be your christmas gift to yourself - that is, if ready na ka

goodluck and merry christmas @Ultimate Dreamer

[Zeratul_]

oh i love role playing...if you know what i mean...

unsa imong ganahan boss? kanang pina nurse/doctor nga cosplay? or student/teacher attire?

anyway on TS: then come-out in the closet, this is not 1980's anymore.. Everyone's accepting it, "even teenagers now were accepting early pregnancy due because of their idols who got into relationshits and stuff"(sarcasm).

[jerkric]

OT: ^Prisoner ko boss nya ang chic kai Police i-interogate ko.

[diablo85]

show them what you got TS...
shodi tagotago...
accepted nana karon sa society unlike before nga bunogon pa....

[Ghadz]

show the world who you are............

[slabs17]

kani nga thread padong ni mahimong @farmboy


ngano itago paman ang identity...kung wala kay itago free ka sa tanan, if they cant accept you, there is somebody always accept you, maybe you wont see it but he is there...just saying

matud pa sa lyrics sa kantang "lights and shades" Be Proud to wear the color that you call your own