Kasagaran ba sa bugtong anak lamdag ang kaugmaon?

[Butitor]

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Ako unta ni ipost sa Only child thread pero taas man gud.Bag-o lang mi gaaway sa akong parents kay di sila ganahan mu work ko away from home. Gamay man pod ang offer ba ug ingon papa di siya ka imagine magbayad kog rent nya "sukli" na lang daw ng sweldo. Dayon atong panahona naka prangka pod silang duha ug nisyagit nga "bugtong man kang anak! Secured na imo kaugmaon!"Well mga pensionado man pod sila then ako ga handle sa gamay na farm business namo. Risky kaayo but very profitable business. Nasuya ra man gud kos kadaghanan na mangtrabaho ba dayon magpadala sa pamilya.Unsa inyo ikasulti mga pips. Onlies you are also welcome in this thread.hehe

[emailroy2002]

I got two sister but I am the only man....

I work away from home...

its been 9 years, I got no regrets....

if I have a business of my own given by my parents, then would glad to do it, but will hire people better than me.

[superidol]

dili lng kay "bugtong anak" ka bro, mao nka sulti imong parents a2.. tungod kay naa na bya moy stable nga business unya pensionado npd cla.. possible dili naka mag ka problema financially pohon. .

Ayaw pa dala anang kasuya bro, kay naa sa layo o abroad nag trabaho ang uban nimong kaela.. kay mostly pd sa akong mga kaela nga abroad, mas gus2 bya nta nla dri ra sa pinas mag puyo kuyog ang elang mga minahal sa kinabuhi.. wala pjd koy xperience abroad, pro ang akong pan-lantaw dili gus2 ma layo imong parents nmo, ikaw ra bya elang usa ka anak. Huna2x-a lng jd ug maau bro qng mka agwanta ba ka mag huna2x nga byaan nmo imong parents sa nyo, nag lipay2x ta sa layu pro cla na guol sa kamingaw nmo. .

[silahis]

Ako unta ni ipost sa Only child thread pero taas man gud.Bag-o lang mi gaaway sa akong parents kay di sila ganahan mu work ko away from home. Gamay man pod ang offer ba ug ingon papa di siya ka imagine magbayad kog rent nya "sukli" na lang daw ng sweldo. Dayon atong panahona naka prangka pod silang duha ug nisyagit nga "bugtong man kang anak! Secured na imo kaugmaon!"Well mga pensionado man pod sila then ako ga handle sa gamay na farm business namo. Risky kaayo but very profitable business. Nasuya ra man gud kos kadaghanan na mangtrabaho ba dayon magpadala sa pamilya.Unsa inyo ikasulti mga pips. Onlies you are also welcome in this thread.hehe

have you felt like natuok ka at some point? do you hv that feeling you want to create your own identity and not just be someone who lives on else's bidding? i guess nakaingon ra kag "nasuya ka" for lack of a better word. i don't think it's kasuya the way i see it.

undeniably, your parents jst want what's best for you. no parent would want to see their kids suffer, mao gani nang uban ma spoiled na kau. sure, sakto sila nga secured na imo life ana... but to me, wala kay growth kau as a person ky wa kau ka na exposed sa realities of life... how will you be able to cope up when things get rough? ang ako ba, basin makalitan nya ka when that time comes sa imoha.

as cliche as this may sound, but it's literally fckin tough out there ts. no joke. well, you'll have to go through that yourself for you to actually feel what it's like. the thought nga ni open up ka aning idea implies you are willing to take risks... question is, are you really sure about what you want to do?


you have two options right there, and naa ka sa crossroads right now. naa na nimo asa nga dalan imong gustong agian. if gusto jud ka sa imong planong buhaton, explain to them. pasabta sila. if maka.justify kag klaro sa ila, they might reconsider it.




if i were a parent, i would allow my kid to ride a bike. yes, there's risk nga matumba siya ug mapangos.
will i run to him/her to help out? NO. i'd like to see how my kid would deal with it. i'd like to see how he/she handles the pain. kung mu succeed cya unsaon pagbike ug sakto, then good!
but if dli, i will know. naa ra kos luyo niya if gusto siya mgpatabang.



btw, to answer your question. yes, very secure kaayo. of course, ikaw rang isa. kinsa pa may gahinan sa ilang panahon. ayaw jud pag.rebelde2 ts. hehe. your parents jst love you maong naingana na sila.
but if you want to pursue something nga against sa ila... pasabta sila. just be sure kahibaw jud kas imong gusto, ky if tan.aw nila out of pressure lang ni or for petty reasons ra... they will know. and don't expect any approval kung mao mn gani na. lol!


pila na gani edad nimo, ts? basin isa pud ni sa factor. but i may be wrong.

[Butitor]

@superidol sakto ka bation bya pod ta ka suya uy ang uban tua sa layo enjoy kaayo ila life while at work kinsa gud di ma ulol ana.

@silahis yeah natuok na ko though i can have what i want, LITERALLY, naa mga butang na eventually pangitaon jud nato. Haaaay ang uban colorful na kaayo ug career. My age? Ato ibutang na kos 'quarter life crisis'. Too much pressure grabeh..i wanna get out and build my

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@superidol sakto ka bation bya pod ta ka suya uy ang uban tua sa layo enjoy kaayo ila life while at work kinsa gud di ma ulol ana.

@silahis yeah natuok na ko though i can have what i want, LITERALLY, naa mga butang na eventually pangitaon jud nato. Haaaay ang uban colorful na kaayo ug career. My age? Ato ibutang na kos 'quarter life crisis'. Too much pressure grabeh..i wanna get out and build my dreams.

[silahis]

talk to them again when you hv gathered all your thoughts.
tell them what you personally feel about your life. no filter. as much as possible avoid using sympathy card. that tactic is so ovrused that i can't help do an eyeroll on it. i wouldn't buy that either if someone would use it on me.
just be FIRM enough about what you want.
tiguwang nman diay ka. hehe.

i can imagine it'll NOT be easy to confront them again about it.
but you have to keep your composure if you want to get your point across.
people tend to raise their voice during an argument to display dominance, thinking that it would resolve or dismiss the entire thing. nver settle for that ky you'll never win it jud.


nya, let's say... decidido jd ka. are you ready to lose something you used to hv? basin naay chance nga ithreat ka to disown you. oh yes, naay mga taw nga ingana who would go to that extent... miskan pamilya pa na nimo ang taw.
that's why i nver underestimate anyone... because everyone of us has the capability to do something awful that no one could evr imagine. what hold us back to do bad is our set of morals.
why do think rapists & murderers exist? hehe.

[Ghadz]

maayo ang imo panglantaw sa kinabuhi bro, pero mahingawa lang imo ginikanan nga malayo ka nila kay ikaw raman gud ila anak, dili sila ganahan nga adto ka sa layo nga dili sila ka monitor nimo kung naunsa ka,wala ba ka nasakit. kay ikaw raman usa natingob tanan ila pagmahal ug pagpangga nimo dili sila kaako nga malayo ka nila.
nindot man sad gud nang naa sad tay atoang paningkamot para sad dili masayang ang ilang mga gasto pagpaeskwela. sa akong tan-aw naglibog gyod ka bro unsa imo sundon, may maayo gyod nga timbang-timbangon nimo pag-ayo. labi na kung medyo edad edaran nasad atong ginikanan nya wala sad lain kauban.
kung masabot nimo imo mga ginikanan nga gusto sad ka maningkamot nga mosuway ug barog sa imong kaugalingon tiil, mas maayo bro.

[Butitor]

So unsa man ako isulti nila ani. Pa, di ko mupalayo niyo pero paliti kog helicopter

[joeyx2000]

sobra ra guro ka nila kapinangga bro..sometimes we have to follow our own, so they can learn to undestand. Go away bro hehehe..pero basin naa mahitabo nga dili maau..lisod ra ba ning kamingaw, dili matambalan..pagskype lang mo pirmi bro kung naa naka sa layo para malayo man sila malapit din hehehe

[silahis]

So unsa man ako isulti nila ani. Pa, di ko mupalayo niyo pero paliti kog helicopter

lol. kahibaw kas tubag anang pangutana nimo. han-aya sa na diha. that is, if you are indeed driven to do that.
we know vry little about your personal life.
goodluck!