what would you do if you lose out of control?

[mia_princess]

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....nako'y bro na 17 yrs old na ron..pasaway kaau... to the point na di xa maminaw sa akong parents...or bsag kinsa....nya ang nakabati...kay grabe xa mugasto ug kwarta murag datu..mu.smoke pa jud...nya problema kay wa'y kwarta nya di xa musabot...wala pa jud diri ang among 'rents so i have to take care of him..g.ahak na usahay kay manglabay man gud xa ug gamit kung masuko pati iyahang mga cellphone naguba na, mp4 etc..bsag unsa ray ganahan nya..nag-away na pud me gabi.i kay nangayo xa ug kwarta past 11pm na...hapit na ko matug..ingnan nako xa ugma nalang..di man jud xa kay mangayo jud xa...wala ko nihatag kay double deck man among bed, naa na ko sa taas..i mean hello?gabii.ig daku mangayo pa xa ug kwarta kahibaw na xa na matug ang taw...mao to, lagot au xa g.kuha nya ang akong pillow nya g.labay..nya since wala na xa'y phone, nihuwam xa sa aq.ang phone kay mutawg daw xa sa amuang mama ug papa...g.pahuwam naq..nya wala man nitubag lagot na pud xa g.labay nya aq phone...mao to...walk out nalang ko guba na pud ako phone sakto nalang na maopen..saonz....nya karon, kabasa ko sa iyahang friendster sa shoutout "i'm useless, i should kill myself"...
tinuuron kaha na niya??what should u do if u were in my case? galisod na jud ko...

[Dorothea]

oh my! I feel for you. That is one tough situation. Maybe you need to tell your parents about his behaviour. Or kung dili sya mahadlok sa inyong parents, is there someone in your family he fears and respects? Someone who's an authority figure to him. Mao man pud na nahitabo sa akong brother a few years ago, perteng bugoya. Maayo gani diha mi uncle nga mao ra gyud paminawon sa akong igsuon. I can tell you though that there isn't gonna be an easy solution sa problema bahin sa imong igsuon. You can do everything you can and it wouldn't matter kung siya mismo dili ready mag bag-o. With my brother, we used every tactic we could think of, we did everything we could, pero ning continue gyud tong iyang pagka bugoy for a number of years...until one day, he stopped being a "pasaway". He just grew up, I guess. There's no formula for this kind of problem. Let's just hope that in your brother's case, it's just a phase he's going through, and hopefully grows out of eventually. Oh, and prayer helps a lot too. It might not have a miraculous effect on him but at least, it'll make you calmer so it's easier for you to cope. The best of luck to you.

[mia_princess]

tnx!
i sought help from a psychiatrist..actually, murag free online help ra ....she said the same thing..find a mediator...in his case, di naman gud xa patuo....mangita me ug makapugong niya..i hope he grows up...i mean, he's 17! he should know better kay dili na xa bata..i don't want him to end up a trash like some of our cousins who were like him at that certain stage..i mean, di q ganahan na mu.end up xa ug nothing kay wala na'y panahon ug chance... i mean y'know, matiguang man gud among parents ug mu.retire..unsaon na lang ang iyahang school....
i told my parents about it na...my dad's up to get him..problema kay di man xa patuo sa aqng dad..di xa mahadlok..basin mag.away ra pud sila duha..much more kay akong mama naa sa leyte...unsaonz.....hahai*** gkapoy na jud ko...kay ako ra may kuyog niya diri sa cebu..di man pud xa maminaw sa aqng ig.agaw na maguang namo....
i hope magmata na xa.....soon... sigh***

[boting]

etry daw og search if why na ingon ana cya para makakita ka og solution kay if magsugod ka sa tunga maglisod naman gud ka og pangita og solution basin diay imo makit an ang hinungdan pero d gyud sayon nang imu problema sis...i do hope things will get better as soon as posible

[8sme]

try to ask around through his friends... basin naa cia hang ups sa buhay ... do some research unsa iya gusto... get to know ur brother better. may I ask lang, close mo sa imo bro? basin naa jud n cia blema nya cia mismo wala pud kahibalo mo solve... some teens find it hard to solve their problems, they need attention jud. Some are weak emotionally nya d pa jud open sa friends. It myt get worst kung ang group of friends nya mga war freak pud... try to show ur weaker side on him for him to feel nga ok ra maging weak and to share kung unsa iya blema... Basin naa na cia bestfriends, someone nga confidant nya... d usually talk things over...

[yokam]

Do you know any activities of your brother? One thing is that he could be influenced by some of his peers, basig di maayo ang mga barkada ana. And another thing, maybe you have been spoiling your brother too much. If he asks for something, don't give in. Bahala na masuko siya or mag-away mo. You should do what you think is right. Di raba lalim ang kwarta karong mga panahona, and much worse, you don't know kung asa na niya gamiton kwartaha.

[monrose29]

grabe ana bata-a oi... ako ma tambag ana noh talked with his barkada.. adto ipagawas sa iyang barkada iyang kina iya.. and tell them nga tambagan sya... ma minaw mana sa barkada deli na ma minaw nmo..

[Onins]

hhmmm iya actions mura lagi ug katong bata pa mi na ngshabu shabu.

[mia_princess]

tnx for the replies...
close??kami??we fight alot..over petty things..pero i do think we're close nonetheless....kaya lang, when he's mad or something......mura xa ug wa'y santo...

anyways..hang upsi guess yes.....before..when we were younger, our dad was in politics..so...we were kinda left at home alot with the miads...coz our mom's a doctor..she's also busy....my mom would make it up to us every night or on weekends...pro my dad's not at home most of the time..so it boils down to..he wants our dads attention eversince we were younger.....samot na nuon karon kay layo na mi nila..and he keeps on telling us he hates our dad..kay karon..sa mla naman nagwork ang amuang amahan...'nya naa xa gapuyo sa amuang aunt..di man ganahan ang akong igsuon sa ilahang side kay social kaau...nya murag nagpabuhi ra sila sa amuang dad....
mao na......nya karon.....feeling nako wala pa na karesolve..
anyways just for some update, my dad came over last wk...and my bro and dad haven't spoken to each other since summer i think...mga may ana.....nya....when he came...mura lang ug wa..as in close au sila..murag didto ra ko kaingon na he miss our dad so much....kay kakita ko sa affection na iyahang gipakita kaniya last week....
i told my dad basin mas maayo if they'll live together nalang.....wala man xa nikuyog pa kay classes are still going on.....mas maayo siguro na didto na lang xa magskwela....layo lang sa akoang aunties of course........abang nlng unta sila bapero..i dunno...

meanwhile...since my dad's visit, his mood became better...... good mood na siya eversince.... di nlng nako patungan kay kefoi basin mabuang na pud....

and his friendsmixed..pro bugoy pud most...mao na'y mahadlukan sa amuang 'rents....kay basin unya madala pud... 'nya he got a tattoo pa jud sa arms (temporary ra nuon)...then ang words kay latin ....murag frat something ang style...

[yokam]

Both of you has to have a constant communication with your dad if that's the case. You give your dad some updates kung unsa na ang latest nga ginapangbuhat sa imong bro. And your bro too, so your dad can keep him in check. It's either kuwang siya sa attention sa inyong dad or he just really miss your dad. You have to let your dad know about what kind of friends your bro has. Remember, layo mo sa inyong dad, and most of the time barkada ang kuyog anang imong bro. Madala na pud nya na sa kabuang.