How soon can you start dating again after a break up?

[mashy`sb]

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Is there a rule after a break up? How can you tell that it's not just a rebound relationship?

[luff101]

As soon as possible TS! hahaha

[mashy`sb]

wow, ugma dayon?!

[-]chong<3]

as soon as teh heart is willing..

[beyee]

^^ so true

There's no time frame to consider but your readiness to meet other people.
That means you are strong enough to come out of your shell and be open
in sharing your time with someone new. It doesn't necessarily mean you
have to have a relationship with the next person you date with. It's just that
you're eyeing on possibilities or keeping your options open this time in other
words you're simply window-shopping

From personal experience, it took me eight months to go out again and I've had
no regrets because it was with the right person at the right time. He made me
see that there are still good guys around. It was one of the best experiences I've
had being single

[mashy`sb]

^^ so true

There's no time frame to consider but your readiness to meet other people.
That means you are strong enough to come out of your shell and be open
in sharing your time with someone new. It doesn't necessarily mean you
have to have a relationship with the next person you date with. It's just that
you're eyeing on possibilities or keeping your options open this time in other
words you're simply window-shopping

From personal experience, it took me eight months to go out again and I've had
no regrets because it was with the right person at the right time. He made me
see that there are still good guys around. It was one of the best experiences I've
had being single

good to hear that you found the right person after a break up.

[beyee]

good to hear that you found the right person after a break up.

We only dated for a time but he got married to someone else
I thought he was the one I'll end up with because he was a good guy.

[obelisk]

I think wala dyod "Rule" as long as you are willing to love again for the sake of love and not for the sake na maka recover ka.

[Wynna]

I don't believe in the " 3 month rule" ... pulihan dayon, unsay dugayan hahaha

[NudgeDELTA]

Is there a rule after a break up? How can you tell that it's not just a rebound relationship?

Practically, you can date after a break-up as long as you are physically able. No one is stopping you.

Philosophically the question is, "What went wrong?" and "Why is there a need to date?" If your end goal is to have a meaningful relationship and to settle down with a partner, then you ought to know that there is no time-frame in recovering from a previous relationship. Reasons are in a case-to-case basis, just as no two people are alike and no two relationships are the same. You cannot quantify the degree and integrity of a relationship problem, but you can figure out what went wrong. There are 2 people in a conventional relationship, hence, the problem can stem from either or both of you. It is also important to note that love is an emotion, and emotions are produced by the brain. Therefore, it is a brain problem and you should check if it's still functional.

Then you can ascertain what not to do in the next prospected relationship, and what to look for in the next person. The best person to diagnose and know who you are is you yourself. Comments and advice here are generic. The important thing is you understand that:

1. you failed;
2. you are motivated to try again;
3. you accept that you need help and guidance in bouncing back;
4. you need to pray for that one person to come your way.

Depending on the circumstance, when you're the one being left behind you feel a tremendous amount of pain. Then you feel the need to ease that pain. Human nature would tell you to find another one on the rebound for it. Yet the best and most efficient way to get over someone is to:

1. make yourself busy;
2. go out with friends;
3. be the best you can be (e.g. hobby, career, or education);
4. love your family (because they're the ones who'd be there no matter what);
5. love yourself (because you can't expect to learn someone, if you haven't loved yourself yet).