Fraternity. Ok or not ok?

[ej___]

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To all the parents here in storya, ok ra ninyo nga puhon inyohang mga bata mo-enter ug fraternity/sorrority?

There are different fraternities now a days in every schools. Dili jud malikayan ug hunahuna nato nga mga ginikanan nga
possibility ni siya.

Usually, ang madungog ug makita sa mga balita when it comes to fraternity is somewhat involving riots, bloodsheds, frat wars, etc..
In short, bati ang gipresent sa media. Specially ang case sa Akrho and Tau Gamma.

With this one, I disallow my kids to join such groups.

I know that there are Fraternities that have good reputations. I don't know lang what good can it do sa ato mga anak puhon. :mrgreen:

Whats your views on this?

[ladyred16]

im not yet a parent... IM not for it and I wouldnt want to my kidz to be in it BUT I highly respect those who belongs to any fraternities who maintain good values...

Fraternities nowadays are given different colors BUT it is fact and a reality that they EXISTED way way back... The Seniors of any fraternities were the good ones... nahaluan ug mga badlungon (new generation) nga wala makasabot sa purpose sa usa ka brotherhood.

I still dont understand why a need nga mgpabunal ka just to "BELONG" in a certain group...

[cuttie_angel]

ok ra man cguro basta naa lng sa lugar. d lng mangita og gubot.

[edgeknife]

ok ra man cguro basta naa lng sa lugar. d lng mangita og gubot.

yup that's right. dili man tanan fraternities dautan. kay kasagaran sa mgat tawo is ang tan-awon ang negative side sa frats. let's try to look for the positive side of the frats.

if i do have a child who wants to join frat, then i have nothing against it as long as he knows what is right or not.

[Onins]

You can somehow teach your child or give him good insight regarding fraternities. At a young age let him read the Baird's manual on fraternities (US Greek Letter fraternities). I can count fraternities here in the Philippines that are recognized though not necessarily affiliated with fraternities in the US with my fingers. And these organizations in the Phils, more often than not, are the ones we call "good" fraternities. The outreach programs in the community as well as academe excellence paraded by their members unfortunately do not make it to the papers. There might be negative write-ups but they are usually isolated cases. You can google up for fraternities in the US and send an email of inquiry if they do have chapters, colonies, or sister organizations in your country.

Fraternities help a lot in the whole social being of a person. It helps him to be motivated, learned, and to develop his/her leadership skills. But I wouldn’t have to say everything here because in our humble fraternity these things are taught in a 10-week pledge program. Enough time to grasp the whole concept of fraternity; enough time to absorb the subjects of leadership, budgeting, and parliamentary procedure; enough time to know your prospective brothers and sisters; and enough time to know good from bad. Don’t allow your son/daughter to enter in a one-day survival organizations, or even one-week orgs. (My apologies sa masagasaan) That’s too short a time to be taught of something beneficial to oneself, besides, you can’t really know a person in that brief time worthy to be called a ‘brother’ or a ‘sister’, can you?

At the end of the day, parents should remember that it’s their responsibility to know where their child is headed to. You should scout if needed to know which organizations he should choose and persuade him not to choose hastily. We should be active parents. Don’t be passive, it might come back to haunt you.

[grlnxtdor16]

im not yet a parent. but i think its okay as long as dili lang e tago2 sa akong children to me about it. i would rather that they be open about it. but it would be better if the fraternity that they are in is a good one that would not promote violence and stuff.

[ej___]

If ever ato ni e-open sa ato mga kids, dili kaha nga ma-curious hinoon sila and ma-convince or ma-encourage?

Or rather we dictate nalang what group nga puede cya mosulod?

I don't know for now. Ambot lagi.

[monrose29]

open up this issue to them when they are at the right age.. enough to understand what is fraternity all about....

[ej___]

Hinoon, my son is still a yr & 8 months. A long way to go. :mrgreen:

Hinoon, basin we have sis's and bro's here nga naay high school or college kids na. :mrgreen:

Gamit jud ni nila. :mrgreen:

[khaliver]

depende sa maturity sa child.. dapat responsible xa if gusto xa magfrat.. kabalo asa ang sayop sa dli... lisud bya naa frat ky madamay ka usahay... mawala pud imo attention sa studies... naa pud benefits pero mas daghan disadvantages!