How to let go ? :'(

[xienyl]

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- Hello mqa gwapa uq gwapo .. Bag o pa d i cu dri .. Ask lng cu sa n ung comments and advice about love² and relationship ..

- Kana ganinq mkigbuwaq ca pero d ca ganahan maqbuwaq mo , ganahan pa kaau ca e fiqht n u relationship , pero wala cai choice kung dli anq e qive up nlng cai lagi sayop in the eyes of God .

- Unsaon pag let qo anah f u yourself d ca qanahan maqbuwaq mo pero kinahanglan for the better ?

- How to get through it ? How to have that conviction to stand for what is right ? First time man gud .. dont know how to act and dont know what to do ..

- Help beh .

- Thanks in advance ..

[Alexander L. Gelacio Jr.]

Hi there, first, welcome to the forums.

Based on what you have shared you are in a relationship with a committed to another, you have been raised in a socially proper and moral manner but have made a mistake or have been lead to commit such mistake and now it is consuming you with guilt from the inside, and some advice of close friends or relatives perhaps who are affected one way or another with your liaison.

I am not here to judge, only to give my two cents. You have said it yourself, you believe that what you have is wrong in the eyes of your deity, therefore you also believe to be wrong for you. The guilt that has been festering is nothing but a sign that you still hold to that belief of moral code and want uphold it. on the flip side of the coin is your emotions which I will not question, that you may indeed love him, and having invested so much you feel that you need to protect your relationship even if you had very well went against your belief and up bringing.

How to get through this, no one can tell but you yourself, what I can offer is that you ask yourself some questions, questions simple enough people tend to dismiss.
1. How well do you know yourself? we do what we do because it is how we think who we are.
2. Is it worth it? your relationship that is, to destroy another regardless of their current situation.
3. Can you make the sacrifice? losing respect and even dignity not as a person but as a woman, thus may result to you becoming an outcast from your friends and family.
4. Can you bare the burden? this could be a life long stigma.
5. Last, can he do 3 & 4 for you?

That's all what I can think of with the glimpse you have given us to your life, I sure do hope that you would find your way and stand by it.

[SnowPH]

Yet I'm still on the process of letting go, I believe that the best est thing you need to do first is to 'Cut all strings'.. I know the memories will still be there. You cannot just throw it away whether you want it or not but it's the least thing you need if you really want to move on. Sometimes you get paranoid because almost everything reminds you of that person but you have to getaway from it. The first step is always the hardest but you have to realize that there's no other way but to move forward and live your life free from the feelings and memories that are dragging you down. And one last thing is to 'Cry until the last drop'. Cry whenever you want to until there's nothing left. It'll eventually loosen up the burden within you. Good luck!

[cherrybabe21]

everything starts with ACCEPTANCE. kung makadawat naka sa reality nga wala najud mo.. everything will just follow. acceptance is the most important part jud. it will be your foundation to letting go and moving on..

[THE KID]

loslosa anang naay letter G nya Q gyud ang gamiton....

[botyokoi]

hahay... jejemon man dli man unta ni cellphone tarunga sa na imu post oy.. mag lisud mi ug sabot...

[SnowPH]

loslosa anang naay letter G nya Q gyud ang gamiton....

Hahahaha! Very honest and straight-forward. I feel you with this.

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@TS You're quite artistic but I hope you don't mind using G and Q properly.

[engrkarlneal]

sorry TS pero nag nganga man ko nagbasa sa imu post uy. tsk. guba ang letter "G" sa keyboard?

[zHun]

sorry ts pero apil sad ko nag nganga og nag dugo ang ilong nag basa..
dli man guro guba ang keyboard ni ts kay naka type man cya og "G" sa itang title thread.

btw ts lisod jud kaayo imung problema..ang imo lang jud buhaton ana is ACCEPTANCE lang gyud..
makadawat ra lage ka ana ts kadugayan nga dli jud kamo..
kabalo naman ka kung unsay sakto or dli so kabalo nasad ka kung unsay dapat buhaton..
always pray ts Good Luck..

[cuteboy_kahoy]

mao d.i nag buwag alam na .... TS first thing to do is fix your post and make it more like everyone can understand and read....mao tingalig nag buwag mo kay dli ka kahibalo mo gamit sa G og Q ....bitaw2x seriously taronga lang imong post its not so hard to replace "C" to "K" = Ko..kaya mo yan TS !


Let Go first that jejemon thing...wahaha