Emotional Breakdown. Please help. :((

[laxxx]

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Hi istoryans..

Wala ra jd ko mo sturya karon.. And I dont know where to start. First and foremost, I dont speak and understand Bisaya very well so please bare with me.. All I know is sakit2 kaau. My boyfriend and I, well we're both not from Cebu. Ng move mi d about 7 months ago para mu start over.. New job, new people around us, most esp, new environment and new start para namo. Mo 2 yrs na mi sa Sep26.. But lately, wa jud sya gana. He always hurts my feelings. He tells me one thing, like sorry jud sya for hurting my feelings and he wants to make things right na then after pila ka hours gusto nya akong palayasin.. this has been repeatedly happening for the past weeks.. dili ko man kaya mo halin ky palangga2 ko sya kaau. He also tells asks me "are u sure about us? Ky ako sure jud ko.. i want to marry you and spend the rest of my life with u.." then after naman like katong ginising ko sya 30mins earlier than scheduled because I told him I had high fever and asked him if pwde niya ko palitan tambal sa pharmacy, he got mad at me. He didnt give a sh*t about me being sick. Then he didnt even say goodbye before he left for work. Before kay grabe man sya mag alaga sa akon and grbe ka lambing. I dont know whats happening. What i dont understand is why can he say things then just end up breaking my heart again?? In less than 24 hours. why? Ba't nya nakakayanang masaktan ako?? Why can he promise me things like marry me and MAKE THINGS RIGHT but then he cant do it naman?? Wala syang idea gaano kasakit. Ilang beses na namin napag usapan to and ngiging ok naman pero cycle lang eh, masasaktan lng naman ako ulit. Wala pa akong mpuntahan ksi wla naman akong kakilala o kamag anak dito sa Cebu. Help ((((((

[Passport]

it hurts Laxx .. i know the feeling. i am sorry to hear about your situation.. i am sorry but the situation calls for a break-up.

[beyee]

Sad to hear that sis.

Simple.. He's fallen out of love. That explains how he easily gets
ticked off from simple things. He's not even worried that you're sick.

So please stop rationalizing that he's not sis because from your story
alone, it's so apparent that he's not into the relationship anymore.
Truth hurts but you have to face that, sis.

You need to talk to your close friends from home or even anyone in
your family whom is close to you. That will ease your worries a bit, I
know it won't erase everything or even change your partner's jerk-ass
ways, at least you have some support system to comfort you.

Be strong sis and do take care of yourself.

Then leave the stupid a$$ because he's not worth your tears.

[laxxx]

Sakit2 kaau @Passport.. i dont even know where to start. I know it calls for one but I tend to deny to myself. I just wish he told me nalang if thats what he really wanted coz it would be much easier for me kesa naman we're still together, promises things, says things, but still hurts me. ( thanks for your time Passport..

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@lifeisbeyeeutiful OMG thank u sa words. Helped me alot. But my Gad sakit2 ra kaau. Esp when I think of the times na grabe sya kaau ka caring and now its like this.. to be honest the pabili ng gamot just happened earlier.. and im sick now. As in really sick. I ended up going out and buying meds for myself. I just wish I had friends here, maybe it would be easier.. i took this huge leap sis.. to move here.. to be away from my family coz my family didnt like him because he used to physically hurt me(which was only once and he never did it again). But I took a risk.. i chose to be here with him so we can be free. And this is what I get. ( why sis?? Ba't nya to ginagawa sa akin?

[Passport]

@laxx... you will be stronger after the storm..

[emailroy2002]

Hi TS,

I had this thing before , I always get irritated because simple stuff.. sudden surge of adrenaline because I feel I am the one who needs to control the relationship, not the other way around...

I guess I was like somewhat immature, but things changed now... I try to do my best to handle things the mature way.

I guess this is what's happening to your fiance/boyfriend.



Maybe, at least maybe you can help him ease out some things out, like financially and sime task at home since you living together.

Take care of him and make him happy.

If that won't work, maybe you should sort things out and find out if going separate ways will be the best.

[starcatch]

weee...sakita pd ani ts oi...but from my point of view...best thing nga dapat buhaton is mgtalk mo ug claro kanang tarong jd bahala ug sakit....basin naa lang xai problema nga iyang gdala2...if ikaw ang iyang problema nga mglisod xa ug prangka nimo, ikaw una prangka niya..mo abot mn gd ang puol sa usa ka relasyon ts mao kinahanglan jd i work ninyong duha...if dili na jd madala then separate lives na jd ang solution ts..bati mn pd nga mgpadayun mo sa usa ka relasyon nga dili malipayon..lisod jd xa but kaya ra lagi na

[beyee]

There you go. He had hurt you physically before. And I can't blame your family
for not liking him sis because they're only protecting you from more harm. Who
in the right mind would want their daughter/sibling to be hurt by other people?

You're even justifying that he didn't hit you again yet what is he doing now?
What he's doing is EMOTIONAL BATTERY. Since he's got a record for hitting you
once, so he changed his strategy in causing you pain. Have you realized that?
That's no longer LOVE sis, that's CRUELTY.

Now you tell me, do you want to live like that? Pack your things and leave.
Much better you go home to your family who truly loves you. Easy thing for us to
tell you to leave sis but that's the sane thing to do before it gets out of hand.

He's not the last person you'll ever love, sis. Remember that.

[reino]

let him go mao ra na ang solution.. battery sus luoya nimo ana sis

[laxxx]

Maybe I'm just too scared and not ready to accept the fact that he really isn't interested in this anymore. And that was my mistake. It has been countless times that I tried leaving but ended up going back in just a few hours. He doesn't give value to me anymore. Why?

As for going home to my family, I'm afraid they might get mad when I do coz they know I'm working here and I might just end up telling them that I was with him here all along.

Im scared. I'm really2 scared. I'm not yet ready to face the truth. I never saw this coming. Dito pa, dito pa talaga sa Cebu where I doubled all my efforts to make this work. He did in the beginning, but lately wala na jud sya ga effort. Maybe for like a few minutes nalang. Like when he comes home from work and I'm still asleep, he would wake me up and tell me how sorry he was for hurting me.. See, thats why Im confused.

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Im not yet ready to. ;( sakit2 kaau oi.. sorry for being stubborn.. i know mao jud na dapat ko himuon pero scared ra ko basin dili ko makayanan. Or basin ma regret ko.. i dont know..

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@reino Im not yet ready to. ;( sakit2 kaau oi.. sorry for being stubborn.. i know mao jud na dapat ko himuon pero scared ra ko basin dili ko makayanan. Or basin ma regret ko.. i dont know..