CHEATING on your partner: Pwede bang majustify?

[PAPALICIOUS1984]

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Hi guys. My name is Jude. 28, living with my future wife and next year, we plan to marry.


However, even before ko misulod sa serious relationship, naa koy bisyo nga until now, dili jud nako mabiyaan. Although as compared a few years ago, mejo na-lessen na siya and I only do it once in a while. Ang bisyo, is picking up girls for s#x. I also had flings with two of my ex-officemates, but both are short lived.


Even nagpuyo na mi sa akong partner, I am very confident that we have a healthy relationship (including the s#xual aspects). The only reason why I hook up with girls/prostitutes, is to feel the excitement and satisfy the "sawa" factor. I am just being honest guys, but you should agree with me on this. No matter how loyal you are to your partner, you will always have that "demon" at the back your head, urging you to "taste" another delicacy, if you know what I mean.

Like I mentioned above, I only do this once in a while. Pinakamadalas, is every 2-3 months; and there was one point, miabot ug halos 1 year hiatus. And most importantly, I believe I am fulfilling my main responsibilities to my partner as well as to my family. I am not defending and trying to insist that what I am doing is right (which obviously is incorrect); gusto lang ko mangayo sa inyo ideas guys; nga what if imo nabuhat imong main responsibilities (e.g. if pamilyado ka, nakasupport ka sa imo anak education, needs/wants of your wife and family, provide entertainment/recreation like family vacation, etc), will doing such (being able to satisfy the urge) be somewhat acceptable?

[<SMILE>]

You should refrain for the sake
of your future wife.

Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) Treatments

[Passport]

ts, you need some serious corrections up there between your ears... if you know what i mean. my advise is simple - stay faithful and committed!

[PAPALICIOUS1984]

You should refrain for the sake
of your future wife.

i follow safety precautions bro... so the link you provided (about STDs) might not really be a significant factor...

my concern is, will i be justified, if i am sure that i have fulfilled my other responsibilities. though commitment not much, though confident ko nga muabot ang panahon nga mawala ra ning bisyoha; pero imposible sa pagka-karon.

thanks bro sa reply.

[PAPALICIOUS1984]

ts, you need some serious corrections up there between your ears... if you know what i mean. my advise is simple - stay faithful and committed!

thanks for the advise. i am totally aware bro, that what i am doing is morally incorrect. my point is, will there be a very slight chance, that doing such is something that is justifiable if i have fulfilled my other main responsibilities?

say for example, a rookie analogy, if i am the President of the Philippines, and for some reason, ako gitangtang sa akong priority list ang health care... but i have improved significantly ang ubang sectors/services... will that make me a bad president?

i am pretty sure there are other men here in Istorya who has the same story as mine; as few my friends (married people) who are also doing the same. which means, i am not alone with this kind of dilemma (if it really is a dilemma ).

[<SMILE>]

i follow safety precautions bro... so the link you provided (about STDs) might not really be a significant factor...

my concern is, will i be justified, if i am sure that i have fulfilled my other responsibilities. though commitment not much, though confident ko nga muabot ang panahon nga mawala ra ning bisyoha; pero imposible sa pagka-karon.

thanks bro sa reply.

I just cited what will happen if you would continue what you are doing now,
you are the very person responsible for your wife's health,
please don't place her into risks by just satisfying your lust,
otherwise you can marry her when you are able enough
to have a grip of your pleasures.

[SPRINGFIELD_XD_40]

@ PAPALICIOUS 1984 ...

After the act , do you feel guilty of your actions ?

[dearlabe]

No, your cheating is not justified by simply providing what you are supposed to be responsible (your wife, kids/family) of in the first place.

Anyway, the fact that you acknowledge your guilt stricken vice (picking up girls for s#x) is a good indication that you still have chance to change if and when you do have the willpower to do so. Why don't you go and seek expert's advice to save your ass before getting married? You should be fair to your soon-to-be-wife and to yourself. It would not be healthy, physically and emotionally, if you would get into this marriage with this kind of sickness in you. Just my thoughts here.

[PAPALICIOUS1984]

@ PAPALICIOUS 1984 ...

After the act , do you feel guilty of your actions ?

guilty, surely yes... that is why i am sharing you guys this story...
but at the same time, i also have the feeling of fulfillment, satisfaction, manliness, and invincibility... on top of the fantasies being realized... which i believe compensates the guilt... call me evil bro, but i am just being honest...

[manoyyani]

guilty, surely yes... that is why i am sharing you guys this story...
but at the same time, i also have the feeling of fulfillment, satisfaction, manliness, and invincibility... on top of the fantasies being realized... which i believe compensates the guilt... call me evil bro, but i am just being honest...

Dude, do your girlfriend a big favor. If you really love her, be a man and leave her. She deserves someone better than you.

Your relationship is NOT healthy. No amount of rationalization can ever make your actions right.

If having *** with many girls is your cup of tea, then stay single forever. No rules, no commitments, exactly how you like it.