badly need some piece of advice :(

[jaylovespiercings]

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My dad passed away 2 years ago, after few months. Mom started to drink and hang out with some friends which she doesn't usually do. I have 6 siblings and life was really miserable after my dad left us. Mom met again her childhood sweetheart back in highschool.I don't know if they see each other frequently but sure is, they never miss a single day talking over the phone. It's quiet odd for me but i tried to understand her coz she's my mom. We currently live in the city, but my mom was raised in the province. Every weekend, she goes to the province and would just tell us that she's visiting dad's grave. My 15 yr old sister is also studying there in the province..It's always her excuse..

We're big family in one house. The eldest lives with us with her 3 kids plus the boyfriend. I'm the second (the breadwinner). next is my brother (a nurse who only earns like 3k a month or less.) then my sister whose already working as well but not earning that much, then my 19 yr old sister who just gave birth last january (stopped schooling coz got pregnant to a baby without a dad) then the one in highschool which is currently in the province and our youngest turning 7 this end of may.

Wait.. theres more!

My aunt who used to stay in manila which is my mom's elder sister (4 hard to walk. (got confined this year due to highblood and diabetes) also depending on us coz she has no job and wont ever have due to health issues plus his partner around 57 and their grandson around 13.

I just found out that my sister that has 3 kids just got pregnant which gave me a huge disappointment.


I pay the bills and most of the time our everyday meals. I attempted to just leave them and live on my own. But I couldn't

I can't just express to them that I'm pretty much tired

[epoy73]

grabeiha gubuta ani oi pariha2 rasad sa ako kahimtang

[Wynna]

lisura ani oi.. wat da!.. bitaw TS, it's up for you to decide..
although kapoy sad jud kaayo sa imong part, but until when man pud ka mag cge og ingana??

dagko naman sad imo mga igsoon and they could stand on their own na without depending on you, and at the same time, your mom might come back to her senses.. 2 yrs ago naman sad to, it's time to move on..

[babypig]

I don't know if unsa akong buhaton TS if aku naa sa imuha situation. For me, family firsts man gyud ko. Maybe makahunahuna ta na mubiya, but di ko kakaya. D nako ma take maghunahuna na nibiya lang ko kay mao ni mao na.

Ni open up ka nila? Try daw ug storya. Basin ga salig sila na ok ra nimo kay wa ka ni storya or react man lang.

Lastly, I am proud of you gyud. Dili tanan maka stand ug in ana na situation.

[wenlove24]

bitaw sakto pud TS you better open up your concerns to your family basin they're aware but just turning a blind eye on the problems ky nag think sila nga ok ra pud ka nga mobuhi nila. I believe it's best nga ma aware sila sa imong na feel para pud motabang sila maski in their own way ba para ma gaan2x ang sitwasyon. Your mom will eventually come to her senses especially if mo open pud ka niya nga affected ka sa iyang gipangbuhat although di pud sya reason nga wa syay right mo himo ug iyang mga decisions 'coz after all raising you and your siblings before your dad passed away would've been tough on her part. I could only imagine. Just keep doing what you do best for your family while at the same time keep an open channel of communication amongst everyone. I'm sure maminaw na sila nimo nya e reinforce lang ang matter every now and then ky tingalig mobalik napud sa dating gawi ang sitwasyon. God bless TS. Hope everything turns out better for all of you.

[iwantmyboyfriend]

What happened to your mom? hehe abi kog ang story about niya.. Anyway, kidding aside, you really need to be strong.

Kanang mga igsoon nimo na naay mga anak, aba!, kinahanglan na sila manarbaho para sa ilang anak. kung walay bana, mag work siya para naa siyay yaya na mag bantay sa iyang anak. If they are above 18, they need to work even if they are still in school. Life is hard-they should know. They need to make ends meet for them dli kay mag salig sa imo.

For your aunt na nag salig sa inyo with her husband and grandchild, maybe you can help them set up a BBQ-han sa gawas sa inyong house. anything na naay income because they shouldn't rely on you. Asa diay ilang anak? why do they have a grandchild?

About your mom, pasagdan nalang na nimo but you have to impose on her that she has to support your family because it is her family as well.

I know it's always easier said than done, and you may even say that I'm judgmental but that kind of environment isn't conducive to living. Did you finish college? Did you do your share and stand up on your own? It's good that you are helping your family but you shouldn't always neglect yourself kay ma stress jud ka ana and you will miss out on your life. It's not like the other people in your family are always working hard for themselves. If that were the case, mas sayun giud mu tabang.

I was in your shoes not too long back, and ako giud ang ni hawa. Na konsensya ko but knowing na dli sila maka salig nako na, they stood up on their own whatever means they had which is important. Karon mag tabang2x nlng ko ug ginagmay. I hope you find the strength and the spiritual guidance you need to make the right decision. Good luck!

[fred1981]

My dad passed away 2 years ago, after few months. Mom started to drink and hang out with some friends which she doesn't usually do. I have 6 siblings and life was really miserable after my dad left us. Mom met again her childhood sweetheart back in highschool.I don't know if they see each other frequently but sure is, they never miss a single day talking over the phone. It's quiet odd for me but i tried to understand her coz she's my mom. We currently live in the city, but my mom was raised in the province. Every weekend, she goes to the province and would just tell us that she's visiting dad's grave. My 15 yr old sister is also studying there in the province..It's always her excuse..

We're big family in one house. The eldest lives with us with her 3 kids plus the boyfriend. I'm the second (the breadwinner). next is my brother (a nurse who only earns like 3k a month or less.) then my sister whose already working as well but not earning that much, then my 19 yr old sister who just gave birth last january (stopped schooling coz got pregnant to a baby without a dad) then the one in highschool which is currently in the province and our youngest turning 7 this end of may.

Wait.. theres more!

My aunt who used to stay in manila which is my mom's elder sister (4 hard to walk. (got confined this year due to highblood and diabetes) also depending on us coz she has no job and wont ever have due to health issues plus his partner around 57 and their grandson around 13.

I just found out that my sister that has 3 kids just got pregnant which gave me a huge disappointment.


I pay the bills and most of the time our everyday meals. I attempted to just leave them and live on my own. But I couldn't

I can't just express to them that I'm pretty much tired

God does not put us in places which has no specific reason. We may have different obstacles in life, but one thing's for sure...We are placed there for a special reason...

A painting can't be well appreciated if you focus in only one portion of it as well as our LIVES!

paint the picture...write your own life story...

pray for strength and guidance...

[jaylovespiercings]

I don't know if unsa akong buhaton TS if aku naa sa imuha situation. For me, family firsts man gyud ko. Maybe makahunahuna ta na mubiya, but di ko kakaya. D nako ma take maghunahuna na nibiya lang ko kay mao ni mao na.

Ni open up ka nila? Try daw ug storya. Basin ga salig sila na ok ra nimo kay wa ka ni storya or react man lang.

Lastly, I am proud of you gyud. Dili tanan maka stand ug in ana na situation.

there was one time nag bikil mi sa ako ate after i knew na shes pregnant.. but after a while nag ka uli rasad. same pud sa akong mama kay wala na jud ko ka agwanta.. mao to nag pagawas kos akong kahiubos. niingon raman to akong mama nga dili na daw xa mo adto sa province namo.. pero mao raman gihapon.. wala ramay kausaban.. nahulog ra nga gipalapos pikas dunggan akong storya.. kapoy kaayo.. as en.. i dunno kung unsa pa angay nko buhaton.. ganahan ko moingon nila nga maglahi nalang nang naay pamilya pero dili pud ko kabuhat kay dili pud ko gusto makasakit ug storya sa akong mga igsuon..

[cardo]

What tough and tight situation u have there TS, saludo ko nimo TS. As what u said, murag ikaw raman naa sa maturity level sa tanan, since you are the breadwinner then you should set the rules. Kung dili nila ma take imong gusto then its time they have to leave and make a life on their own. As for your mom, let it be nalang kung unsa siya karon, shes still grieving for ur father's loss, time will tell when she'll be back to reality. Good luck

[Passport]

Pagkabuotan nimo TS.. nakaya nimo ug support na tanan?

saludo ako sa u boss.. im speechless, di nako na kaya if ako..

be strong lang... keep it up.. muabot ra imo reward gikan ni Lord..

kung naay family get together.. ipaagi lang ug humor.. sultihi sila nga bug-at na imo burden..