Torn Between Motherhood and Career, pls. advise!!!

[flamingo]

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Hello! I would like to hear your thoughts... am a working mom of 2yr. old boy. Currently I'm already 8yrs. of doing the same job. The pay is okay lng but no other benefits except what's mandated by labor however, okay na lng kay di mn jd stressful ang job to the extent nga dugay na jd ko ganahang mo-resign for career advancement but sige lng ug ka-postpone. Anyway, I'm torn if mo-antos na lng ko ug stay sa akong current job even if totally bored nako ky wa na jy challenge and growth sa akong career but if mag-formal schooling na akong boy I would still have the time to focus on tutoring him in his studies. On the other hand, I'm torn if I go for career advancement, problem lng is most of the jobs now are shifting. Wa mn jd ni demand akong bana nga mo-work ko for higher pay jd, he's contented of my present job ky lagi di pressure and okay if mag-school na akng baby. My hubby can still financially provide us. But again, everytime mo work ko mura'g wa na jd koy gana. My heart goes out there in IT Park companies hehehhe. My situation now is like, thinking for the welfare of my boy or thinking for my welfare/career's welfare.... share your thoughts plss...

[catzukie88]

If your looking for advancement sa imung career why not apply for higher position sa imung current company sis? Kung adto kag callcenter man gud lisud kaau imanage ang time like you said schedule is shifting. Stay lang sa imung job karun gud. Serve it as inspiration nga your working not becuase of yourself but for your family esp. sa imung baby.

[Biscuitoy]

unsa diay imo job description karon? murag di maayo kung call center padung ang imo career advancement.

[havaianatic01]

sis, kung gusto ka mag atiman sa imuha bata at the same makaearn ghapon ka para sa imuha self, pagbusiness nalang sis.lahe ra man jud sab ning naa tay kwarta nga siningtan jud nato bisan pag adunahan ang bana. balik nalang kag work kung mag elementary na sugod imuha anak aron dungan mo lakaw balay, dungan sab uli. di naman sab kaha ka happy sa imuha work karn. so the best cguro nmu buhaton ky moundang ka taz mgbantay bata dayon magtry og business. or kaha hinay2 na kag pangita og work karn para naa dayon ky kabalhinan.

[MaInEvEnT]

Until dako2x na imong bata, just stay where you are nlng usa.. at least naa ka work and at the same time naa ka saktong time sa imong anak... if pwede na mabyaan imong bata, then pwede nka mu adventure ug career advancement.

[imyourninja]

Id rather you choose what's right for your family. You already mentioned the job you have right now is benefit para sa imung kid, try staying in the company first but if being in that job affects your family then venture sa another companies. Think about what's right at the moment in all aspects of your life including your family.

[Inbesebul]

TS weigh things first.

1. Resign ka and mag fulltime mom unya magbake2 ka pra ibaligya for extra income.

-kung mo resign ka TS kay napul-an naka unya magfocus nlng ka as a mother. basin later on magmahay napud ka kay laayan ka sa daily routine nmo sa balay plus wla ka imong own income na pwd mka tabang2 sa inyong family.
-pero kung magfulltime mom ka unya mangita kag extra income kana dli siguro ka magmaoy pud ana sa imong life sa balay kay malingaw raman ka.

2. Resign ka unya apply for another job?
-kng mo apply ka lain co TS yaw lng pagcall center ky basin magmahay gihapon ka. karon gikpoi ka kay wla ka work pero advantage sa part sa imong family ky naa ka enough time para nila unya dli pajud kaayo ka hago sa imong company. wat if makawork nka pero naglisod ka adjust kay kapoi pa ang work unya bati pa ang time. magmahay ka jud ky maka ana raka maypa to sauna wla pko hago unya makalingaw2 pka sa imong family.

[lescraman]

I'm feeling thesame way. Naa pod ko sa position ron between my devotion with my company and my mother. My mother wants me to work abroad, financial reasons which is opposite ra kaayu sa akong gusto. 1 year napod nakong na delay ang akong resignation. Naka retract jud kos akong resignation last year kai di ko ready mo biya sa work place. It's my first job jud and lahi pod ang envi compared sa other call center's sa IT Park. Slack ra kaayu then dili jud pressure. Bisan dili kay n ana ka dako ang salary, naantos ra nako.

After over 2 years nga sigi ug pamogus akong inahan na mo switch nakong career, naka decide najud ko na tumanon cya. I'm leaving out of the country this summer arun mangitag mas dakong sweldo. Naabut napod ko sa time sa pag huna2x nga bisan tiguwang na akong inahan, dili pasabut na dili nlng pod cya hatagan ug kahayahay sa kinabuhi. Dili ra ang mga bata ang kinahanglan tagaan ug kagawasan sa kalisod. Mas ipalabi jud ang mga taw nga nagpadako nako.

Over ra ka drama pero tinood jud. Bless u and your baby!

[Inbesebul]

I'm feeling thesame way. Naa pod ko sa position ron between my devotion with my company and my mother. My mother wants me to work abroad, financial reasons which is opposite ra kaayu sa akong gusto. 1 year napod nakong na delay ang akong resignation. Naka retract jud kos akong resignation last year kai di ko ready mo biya sa work place. It's my first job jud and lahi pod ang envi compared sa other call center's sa IT Park. Slack ra kaayu then dili jud pressure. Bisan dili kay n ana ka dako ang salary, naantos ra nako.

After over 2 years nga sigi ug pamogus akong inahan na mo switch nakong career, naka decide najud ko na tumanon cya. I'm leaving out of the country this summer arun mangitag mas dakong sweldo. Naabut napod ko sa time sa pag huna2x nga bisan tiguwang na akong inahan, dili pasabut na dili nlng pod cya hatagan ug kahayahay sa kinabuhi. Dili ra ang mga bata ang kinahanglan tagaan ug kagawasan sa kalisod. Mas ipalabi jud ang mga taw nga nagpadako nako.

Over ra ka drama pero tinood jud. Bless u and your baby!

asa ka SG? naa nka work ngadto o mo risk ka? iklaro lang na kay basin mag mahay2 ka inig abot nimog 2mos ngadto sa abroad.

[jdane]

TS, bali diay ta. I gave up my job in one of the "IT Park companies" para maka spend more time with my son. Not to mention akong salary ni gamay ug more than 50%..pero I didn't care basta maka survive pa mi and at the same time maka guide sa akong son sa iyang pagdako.

Akong advice nimo TS, just stay where you are. Focus on motherhood..it's the best career you'll ever have! Walay sweldo or promotion nga maka tupong ana..labi na makit-an nimo nga nagdako nga tarong imo anak.
And of course, i.pray nga ma wala na imong ka laay sa work. God is the source of everything man,. HE will give you inspiration to continue doing what you've been doing for the past 8 years.