Fake ''EFFORT''

[KDThunder]

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For ''GIRLS'' unsaon ninyo pag identify sa guy kung fake effort iyang gepakita sa pag panguyab ninyo?

For ''BOYS'' mubuhat ba ta ug fake effort para lang sugton ta sa babae?

[___iamjana]

makabantay jud if fake effort rah if nanguyab kay mg vega2 man sa lain nya makita pa jud nimu hehe... ngpasabot ra ana na dili sya sincere ug atik2 ra 2 niya.. basin giage2 ra niya ug panguyab unya lain diay ang purpose a2, silbi ang boys mangita mn jud na ug weakness sa girls cause they all know na ang girls dali ra jud ma develop gamay ra na "pagilok" something like sweet words sa tx or magpadungog mukagat mn jud daun ang girls ana.. syempre feel sad sa mga girls nga naay na admire nila haha...

ug ako na lng jud tubagun ni for boys kay bsag ang mga boys mureply dre, d na nila iadmit sa uban na buhatun mn jud na nila pero inside their minds kabuhat jud ni cla hehe...
ingun pa sa uban "kanya kanyang diskarte lng yan bro" hahaha
that's all....

[kageron]

basta fake effort kay namakak na or daghan og bot2x TS klaro au sa fatern...

[KDThunder]

murag in ani...

[ulyssa_marie]

I don't think there's such a thing as fake effort. The fact that a guy can get up, and do something for a girl, is "EFFORT". If there's energy and time put into that 'something', then it's considered as EFFORT in the end.

What matters here is not the 'effort'. but the INTENTION of the act. If fake intentions are involved. in this case, if he puts in effort just to get a girl to like him (for that reason only), then fake intentions = bad intentions.

There are many ways to identify this is. Example: if a guy follows up on his actions, such as; "do you love me more?" , "did i win your heart?" or such.

If true intentions of love are behind that effort, then the action is NOT to make a girl love/like him, but to simply make the girl happy. In a relationship, you dont consider your return of investment when you act. Your main focus is in making sure that what you do puts a smile on your partner's face rather than boosting your own ego.

[Latyo]

I'm a guy, and yes mobuhat jud ang boys ug fake effort labi na if makita nato sa girls nga mura ug play girl sad sila ba. Pero if tan-aw nato seryosohon ang girl, aw nganu ato pa man e fuuck. aw i mean fake

[KDThunder]

I don't think there's such a thing as fake effort. The fact that a guy can get up, and do something for a girl, is "EFFORT". If there's energy and time put into that 'something', then it's considered as EFFORT in the end.

What matters here is not the 'effort'. but the INTENTION of the act. If fake intentions are involved. in this case, if he puts in effort just to get a girl to like him (for that reason only), then fake intentions = bad intentions.

There are many ways to identify this is. Example: if a guy follows up on his actions, such as; "do you love me more?" , "did i win your heart?" or such.

If true intentions of love are behind that effort, then the action is NOT to make a girl love/like him, but to simply make the girl happy. In a relationship, you dont consider your return of investment when you act. Your main focus is in making sure that what you do puts a smile on your partner's face rather than boosting your own ego.

hehe... kana d i hatagan kag love letter sa usa ka guy na manguyab nimo for example lang nyah nalipay ka niya kay very sweet and romantic kuno iyang gepang sulat para nimo kay naa pay mga poem didto na gi kilig to the bone jud ka...so porte mang lipaya nimo kay ga effort pa jud sya ug huna-huna ato para masulat niya para sa imuha nyah tungod ato imo syang gesugot...nyah himan-himan dli d i to sya ang nagsulat iya d i tong amigo...kana na klase na effort unsa man d i tawag nimo ana?

That's one of the example na ''fake effort'' na akong pasabot dili pana mao daghan panang klase...gusto pakag example?

[KDThunder]

Ako sad mga bro i admit na nakabuhat sad ko ani... for me fake jud to akong effort ato, i still remember wen i was in high school kusog kaayo ko mu atik-atik sa mga girls ato nga time..naay kausa naa koy gepanguyaban sa pikas na campus muingon dayon ko niya na ''ikaw rabay hinungdan mao niari ko kapoi gani lakaw padulong ngari para lang kakita ko nimo'' pero bisan gasakay ko sa car sakong father gud nyah ang reason sad niadto me sa ilang school kay didto man sad ga study akong sister.. hehe.. katung tayma touch2 kuno sya ato sa simple effort kuno na gebuhat nako... there was a time pa na mag tx2 me muingon dayon ko niya na ''karon lang baya ko cgeg pa lod tungod lang jud nimo kay sa una kapuyan ko anang tx2 or tawag2'' pero bisan sa una pa gud always naay lod ang akong cp atik2 lang ba....well katung tayma sad dili pa kaayo matured akong huna-huna ato ug usa pa wala man jud ko naibog atong bayhana nahulog ratog lingaw2 pero karon lahi na jud akong mind ka realize ko sa tanang sayop na gebuhat nako sa una...hehe

[quirkychinita]

I think what we mean is the loss of SINCERITY...

I don't mean to sound like a perfectionist ha? It took me three times of reading all the comments above me so I could find that word... heheheh...

Us girls are very sensitive (most of us) and the slightest gesture could make us either happy or upset... sometimes both.

How to know if we can sense it? We either get vocal or ang uban magpa dungog dungog or sometimes, mukalit lang masuko.... And this is where the "shaky third year" starts.... kay common man ni sa ika tulo na tuig na gauban ang couples...

but it depends man sa couple how they deal with the loss of sincerity... In most cases, it begins when guys (or girls) go MAN-CAVING or getting so laid back lazy (it happens and it's normal!) ... and then things people do with PASSION turns into a CHORE. The "other half" notices, get silent and let it slip once... but it happens again, multiple times, then she/he gets bothered and can't help but ask.... later, extreme emotions come in and he/she reacts in a way that it irritates the "other half" and then it turns into an argument....it's either they compromise or IT ENDS....


How to avoid this? Just plain communication. Maybe if you could be honest as much as you can when you don't feel like doing what you used to do on your week ends, then say it, before different things runs into her mind. And do NOT underestimate the power of RATIONALIZATION/REASONING....

Example: "Honey, I know naanad ka na mag date ta kada Sunday, but is it okay na mag-puyo sa ta sa balay nato? It's nothing to do with anything bad ha? it's just that I feel lazy today. I just wanna lay in bed all day and do nothing. If you wanna come over, then that would be great. Pasensya na ha? mamawi ko ani next week."

However,it would really depend on your partner if she's the understanding type or the negative thinker type...



----Good Vibes!

[cebu.opportunities]

making effort in courting but with fake intention

mka-observe ra siguro ka conflicting words, action and non-verbal cues. pero lisud ni makit-an at times if na inlove nka sa guy or maybe the girl just chooses to be blinded by love.