Can college life not be for everyone, especially for women?

[hellaburke]

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This seems like an appropriate place to post it. If not, sorry Mods. Please close and tell me where I should post it.

Anyway, here's my story so far...

I graduated high school in 2009 from a notable all girl's school and enrolled myself in a Fine Arts course in USC. I was sort-of pressured by my mother to enroll in fine arts since "drawing is the only thing I'm good at" (according to her) I realized it was a mistake at first but I went on with it, saying what's the worst that could happen? Dumbsh*t move.

I didn't feel welcomed in school. My classmates and "friends", super plastic and the pressure got to me in second year. Good enough, my Mum FINALLY agreed to have me shift..... into a Linguistics course.

I'm not complaining so far, but school is definitely hard now that I'm slightly older than my current batch. I was told by my Dean that i must pass all of my subject and not fail either once since that could mean the end and what doesn't make it any better is that I will definitely fail in Math. I tried to reason out with the teacher, hell, I even tried to reason out in behalf of my class but there seems to be no hope for her.

Sometimes, I even think I was born too late since there's only one thing I'm really good at, and that's just being a Homemaker (with years being stuck only with girls, I think we can infer WHERE I learned that from) and I recently discovered I have a gift for selling food and home-crafted items. Right now, I'm even planning to open up a store in USC TC just to have a little extra income for me and my parents...

Believe me when I say that I have an interest to finish college and have a degree in my hand. But that the rate it's going, I feel like the "college life" might not be for me. That maybe there are really some people who aren't meant to go to college and what really sucks is that I was raised to be a somewhat housewife, but end up getting thrown into the world to become more than that.

I admit, I am sheltered. But a sheltered girl in a cut-throat society is a really bad combo.

But there has to be some people who are feeling the same thing as I am feeling right now, right? That you don't fit in, that you feel awkward being in work that you do not love and wish you were somewhere, still making a difference but with less pressure?

Despite my earlier gibe about TESDA, I am now open to the idea of actually enrolling myself in any of their courses. But the catch is, will my parents, more importantly, my mother approve? I am always told my father that I can do whatever I want, as long as a.) its not drugs and; b.) it's not hurting anyone, most especially myself.

I know the title seems very sexist, but I am inclined to realize that something is afoot and it seems rather suspicious.

Ugh, I don't know, I feel really lost right now.
Guys and girls, what is your opinion on this and how do you think this can be remedied?


If you guys don't have anything help/constructive to say and just troll me, please don't bother posting at all. You're a menace to society.

[ace101]

I am a Carolinian too. when i was just a freshman in USC-TC as a CompE student, I felt the peer pressure also because most of my classmates are good in our major math subjects while i have always consistenly failing. I decided to shift to management accounting in the same school but in the Main Campus for the second time around.. I am happy that i did shift because i felt i finally fitted in. Just follow what makes us happy. That's my advise.

[kemalzeppy]

me too, I'm a carolinian niya 4th year napud sa CE, I know sa pressure sa TC specially sa mga early years, like having the most expensive phone, the car, the better DSLR, the gadgets, etc.. but when you reach 3rd year those so called "peer pressure" kay ma out grow na, if you feel uncomfortable with your friends, just stay away from them and find new friends all you have to do is keep an open mind, bahala na na sila plastic as long as your honest to others and yourself, remember, your college friends are not like your highschool friends, so dont ever forget your high school friends, they watched you grow when you were still high school so if di ka uyonan sa imu college friends just go with your HS friends

about your current course, just stay firm, just go to tesda after you graduate, anyway tesda also offers summer classes, sayang imu years spent on college if you stop now. others would say that you should choose what makes you happy and thats good but I believe that you should make a little sacrifice along the way, hehehe

hope my advice helps

[THE KID]

I did not feel any pressure in college..y? i have no peers in school....ahhaaha..my peers are people outside the school..i don't even have a celphone in that time.(gikan lagi sa pobre nga pamilya)..i don't even have a single gadget..y so worry?..u can survive without being in....TS u better transfer....to the course that you really like.....

[ambotani21]

i did survive on my college days... its just how you cope up with stuffs.
in the end ikaw raman gihapon mag decide unsay gusto nimu buhaton

@tk
murag ikaw man cguru to mag sigi tambay sa library.. heheh

[xinevirtucio]

I graduated highschool from a virtually unknown all girl's school in cebu.

I am basically a probinsyana...I have no idea how city girls my age act...talk....or whatever...

My fashion sense is hardly notable....I am an only child...I do not socialize well...My interpersonal relationships sucks...

I am partly an introvert...I keep to myself....

But guess what....My parents made me take up nursing.....and the sent me to CDU..or CEBU DOLLARS...

the environment is new to me....

I met people I cannot understand...i met people with different personalities....

I met b*tches....I met manipulators....I met...all sorts of people...I met jerks....I met fools....

add to that the pressure to pass nursing....it wasn't easy because I do not like studying....

i'm like a weird plant sticking out...

The people I once knew changed for the worse...and I am left standing alone....

but i toughened it up...because I had to get the freakin' degree....no amount of social pressure...stereotyping...discrimination can keep me from getting that freakin' diploma...

you see.....the society is not built to suit what you want...or what we want....we cannot expect the society to please us...nor can we expect to please the society with what we have or what we do...

what you can do is to accept the fact...that people around you may not be what they seem.....

but this should not keep you from finishing your degree...completing your course....

if you skip college that feeling will not leave you...even at work..or whatever..that kind of feeling will still follow you...

I myself am working...and I still feel different among my co-workers...I jive with them....but I do not allow myself to get really close with them....I still feel that I do not fit in....


that is college life....there is no perfect college life...in fact..college life can be full of sh*t...and if you have to step on that to get your degree..then by all means do so...

do not be squeamish...do not be afraid to be different....do not feel bad because people around you are plastic....at the end of the day...you still have yourself..

different is not bad.....regardless of how the rest of the world sees it...

do not rely too much on friends...rely on yourself...keep in mind that friends come and go...

you have your family....rant to them..tell them how school is treating you...

sometimes when we feel like quitting...what we actually need is a half an hour of ranting....and we will feel fine after....

to sum it up....toughen up..who says a sheltered girl..cannot make it through college....i did....surely you can...

[crazy_monkey]

at first ingon ana jud TS. wala pa ka kahibaw kinsa jud imong mga friends. but madugayan makit-an na nimo ang imong kapareho ug trip didto nlng ka nila stick until ka mograduate. kapoy pa plastic2x sa uban.. naa jud bitaw na.. sa ako-a dido pag 1st year lng kay wala pa ko ka meet sa katong ako na jung nabarkada and kasabot sd unsa imong gibati. ehehehe

and adto sa course na imong ganahan jud TS. y waste time sa course na di nimo ganahan. d man ghpn ka makatrabaho sa kana na field kay d man ka ganahan.. just my opinion. hehehehe

[THE KID]

i did survive on my college days... its just how you cope up with stuffs.
in the end ikaw raman gihapon mag decide unsay gusto nimu buhaton

@tk
murag ikaw man cguru to mag sigi tambay sa library.. heheh

uu ako to.....hahahah