On family roles.

[ReikoChan]

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Anyway, I was at home barbecuing our lunch when my brother came up to me and started a short conversation about household roles. After a brief exchange of points, it appears that my 19 year old brother still believes in that ageless GMRC lesson about household females being responsible for cooking, cleaning, washing laundry, hanging and ironing clothes, basically doing most (if not all) of the chores in la casa, while the household men are in charge of the harder stuff (mowing the lawn, washing the cars, chopping firewood for the fireplace during the winter season sound pretty good but, well, not for this country). You get the idea.

It’s how our familias have always been. It’s how our familias are supposed to be. It’s purportedly the “ideal” roles of each family member should embrace, as predetermined by his or her s3x.

So how much of this rule is still applied (or applicable) nowadays? I’m asking the single working ladies, the married working ladies AND their husbands, and husbands-to-be of working ladies.

Personally, I come from a family with the same said role structure, and it’s not always as harmonious as you’d think. I don’t always agree with this kind of assumption. Sometimes it … disgusts me.

[yiennahs]

my brother does not have any role nor does my sister.

one time I was so mad by their laziness i made a list of their tasks

it was fine at first but then they become lazy again

so my mom does most of the work especially on weekdays cause i tend to sleep early

i do some stuff but not as heavy as those times when i'm a bum

anyways, being the eldest is really frustrating sometimes.

what i do is scold them when they don't do those stuffs that are suppose to be theirs like keeping their stuffs out of my sight since i really hate things out of place

my mother is really hard working so there is no reason for them to be lazy.

[THE KID]

dapat all around ng taw ron....either laki or babaye......

[mikoy32]

@yiennahs
I think we're the same.
And i'm sick of it.

[hamtaro.jan]

Explain ug tarong nya igna na naa kay mas gustong buhaton kesa mag buhat ug pang babaeng buhalatonon XD.
Or puwede pud nimo ingnon imong brother na ilis lng ta ug buhat bro..

[petite fleur]

Hala di mada na sa akoa. Kay may nila noh. Mga nawng lag basketball!! Akong manghud ing ana sauna, muna nag dako nga dili suhito og trabaho, si mama pd pasadgdan kay na anad pd siya nga sauna sa 8 nila mag igsoon siya ang 2nd n babay pa jd, ang trabaho sa ilaha lang..sa ako?? no way, para nku sila mismo ang muhilok kay mas may silag pang kusug kay sa babay. asa kag kusug nga mag laba og ga bundok2x? pwede pd untag mag tinabangay mas maau. karon naa na siya sa Army, dah maka feel na jd siya sa pag antos.

hehehe duha ra me ako babay siya laki n sapoton man gud ko na ako pirme suguon. haha

[FAQ]

When I was still living with my parents , they would ask me and my 2 brothers to do laundry , dishes , cleaning our room , and cook for breakfast (sometimes) . That's our main work . Then my parents would do the lawn , gardening , cleaning the house , and provide food on the table and money too . They usually drive me to my basketball and hockey games , and same thing for their 2 other sons .

So I guess we're the only few Filipino families aren't doing that "ideal roles" of family members .

There are certain things that only our parents have to do a very specific task . I mean , I don't think at 16 I could drive them to work and my bros to school/games/their friend's house - especially on a G1 licence . Not only on driving , picking-up report cards for the kids as well . When I was in high-school and below the age of 16 , my parents had to accompany me when I have to pick-up my classes before September because I was under the age of consent .

[ad_dur]

If married that applies. Men working while Women stay at home to take care of kids and chores, pero if working and wife of course dili na na mo apply coz ang work benefits all, Pero for singles depende ra na if gi unsa nimo ug anad ang imo brother sa inyo. Na-andan na siguro sa na imo brother mao confident siya to say it coz he was raised that way. Pero karon panahona dapat practical na then equal na tanan sa tanan trabaho-on ...

[nitwit]

when i was still living at my mums,my younger siblings (younger brother and sister) though my mum has a helpers and a cook, they are trained to do the chores eg. they're not allowed to leave their bedrooms if they havent made their beds, they have to clean their bedrooms (cleaners are not allowed to clean it for them ),the cleaners do the laundry and ironing but they'll be the one to put their clothes in their cupboard and they have to help clean the house during weekends. they're pretty trained i must say im proud of them

[ReikoChan]

Pero karon panahona dapat practical na then equal na tanan sa tanan trabaho-on ...

This. Exactly my point.

I'd like to hear from the career-driven woman's point of view now since there are plenty of opinions her about being the "children" in the family. I mean I bet it must suck big time to choose between work or domestication.