dear john/jane letters

[juan_carlos]

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For those of you who dont know: A "Dear John letter" is a letter written to a husband or boyfriend by his wife or girlfriend to inform him their relationship is over, usually because the author has found another lover. Dear John Letters are often written out of an inability or unwillingness to inform the person face to face.The reverse situation, in which someone writes to his wife or girlfriend to break off the relationship, is referred to as a "Dear Jane letter." - wikipedia

so sa bisaya pa gibuwagan sa letter/email/or text message

I just got one and it so happens that my name is also john. my gf broke communication with me last week (long distance relationship), despite my efforts to call her every day she would not answer me. after countless rejected calls, i sent her a message on fb telling me to explain to me whats goin on. and these are her responses:

LOve man tika..wala nlng jud ko kasabot nimu..../.buwag na lng ta..para wala nakay kasakit mahuman naneh kay gkapoy napud ko kahibaw baya ka d jud ko nahan cgeg awawy,total if kita kita man jud if dili aw naa pay mas deserving nimu....Wala man koy lain ge entrtaim ug lain love pa baya tika,,,basta uyyy....daghan jud ko ghuna2x nya naa paka mabuang naku aneh john...sabta sa ko..ayaw nlng...

i asked if there is any chance we can still work things out, her next reply is:

sori naglibog jud ko as in..gve me tym.i dnt wnt 2 lose u pero fel nku d q dserving para nemu gud as in. mao pud na aq g huna2x.

just this morning, i found out by talking to her cousin that shes had another bf since 2 months ago..

long story short i am in pain and was thinking maybe others here have the same experiences or have recieved similiar messages, maybe if u can post them and say a little bout how u got thru it it would make me feel better.

[Scott Bernard]

I can't fully remember na... but some of my past relationships dili man dear jane akong mga letters na hatag...

"To whom it may concern" man, para pwede pa ma recycle in the future...

[THE KID]

in short wa nitug an sa tinuod....og ganahan paka makig storya niya...talk to her for the last time as his bf....nya ask her if tinuod ba ang naa siyay lain nya hugot naba jud iyang decision nga mag buwag mo..f yes...let go....

[sparkolboi]

brad pareha jud ta ng situation, long distance gehapon kami. sakit kaayo pero wala nay choice kng nka decide na cla. maski saun na2 cge tawag na makig balik, ganse man ta ky naa nman mas doul did2 sa iya.
dawaton nlng nato ni brad. maski sakit kaayo, my tana ma happy cla..

dli man pud na2 cla mabasol ky ing.ana ang nahitabo, kasagaran ing.ana ang resulta pag LDR.
ang kamingaw sa uyab sahay mabalhin sa lain.

[juan_carlos]

@ the kid: i did that already and that was her reply. tho i didnt ask her about the other party kay at the time i didnt know about it pa. in any case nagduda man gyud ko na naa na cya lain and i felt it wen nausab cya. also theres no point in confronting her about it. shes made her decision and i dont want to listen to any more lies.

@ sparkolboi: sakto gyud ka bay, im not mad at her kay kakita cya ug lain. i know lisud gyud ang LDR but dra lan ko nalain na dugay na diay cya naa uyab and wla nln gyud cya naki formally break up nako. mahulog man gud na gipaasa pako niya. for two months she was telling me she loved me and naa na diay cya lain on the side.

[azaleayve]

i've never been into LDR, the way you say it, it's painful.. Yes, tanan nga mainlove masakitan especially if their love one left them because of someone else.... I cannot say move on TS coz i cant even tell that to myself now.. I'd be lying to you if i'll tell you to stop and move forward, that it's easy because its actually HARD to do.,But i'd rather say do what your heart tells you to do and let yourself express all the emotions you wanted to express. Win her back if you like, but if she refuses then at least you've done your part. You will cry, definitely be out of color for how many months or a year. But you'll realize, you actually did something to fight for what you think is right, it was her who never see your worth and effort. Someday, somehow, you will find her, someone who will acknowledge all that you do, someone who will make you smile without exerting effort...Goodluck TS.

[sparkolboi]

dawaton nlng jud na2 bai..
move on nlng ta maski sakit kaayo..

[juan_carlos]

@ azaleayve: thanks for your sound advice. but ive done everything that can be done. mu move on naln gyud ko ani. hahay sakit gyud ni mailad ta.

mushare lan ko gamay sa what really makes it worse: on her birthday also our "monthsary" pag june, she was quite depressed kay she was experiencing major problems sa iya family, so being a good boyfriend, i thot of what i cud do to make her feel better so i gave her money to buy a new fone kay naguba man iya fone and some money pra makacelebrate cya sa iya bday and treat her mom kay sad man sad iya mom. she got her fone and took her mom out, ang problema lang. i found out from her cousin ganina that nagkuyg diay cla sa iya other bf pagkagabii adto..
that revelation really really hurt me.

[azaleayve]

@ azaleayve: thanks for your sound advice. but ive done everything that can be done. mu move on naln gyud ko ani. hahay sakit gyud ni mailad ta.

mushare lan ko gamay sa what really makes it worse: on her birthday also our "monthsary" pag june, she was quite depressed kay she was experiencing major problems sa iya family, so being a good boyfriend, i thot of what i cud do to make her feel better so i gave her money to buy a new fone kay naguba man iya fone and some money pra makacelebrate cya sa iya bday and treat her mom kay sad man sad iya mom. she got her fone and took her mom out, ang problema lang. i found out from her cousin ganina that nagkuyg diay cla sa iya other bf pagkagabii adto..
that revelation really really hurt me.

Ka ouch jud d aie TS...hala oie..biyae nalng na siya...its not you lost.. it's her's..she'll regret it lage...hahah..mao jud na pirmi naku buhaton, to make them regret that they left me, DUMP me,kay aku man ihatag tanan nga kutob sa makaya...hahahah... They'll enjoy pa what they have right now, pero nig makarealize sila sa kuwang, which is ikaw maoy nakahatag, magpangita jud na TS..hahah(evil laugh keu ku).. Pero sa tinarung, just pray nga dili sila mabinuangan sa ilaha gilove.... that they'll find what they've been searching for.... And hopefully dili na mubalik sa imo once you're so DONE with them...

[yiennahs]

@ azaleayve: thanks for your sound advice. but ive done everything that can be done. mu move on naln gyud ko ani. hahay sakit gyud ni mailad ta.

mushare lan ko gamay sa what really makes it worse: on her birthday also our "monthsary" pag june, she was quite depressed kay she was experiencing major problems sa iya family, so being a good boyfriend, i thot of what i cud do to make her feel better so i gave her money to buy a new fone kay naguba man iya fone and some money pra makacelebrate cya sa iya bday and treat her mom kay sad man sad iya mom. she got her fone and took her mom out, ang problema lang. i found out from her cousin ganina that nagkuyg diay cla sa iya other bf pagkagabii adto..
that revelation really really hurt me.

you should not have spoiled her
one thing i learned in a rel is not to spoil my partner cause they always end up magsalig na
tsk tsk tsk
don't worry, the right one will come at the right time