Father and Son Issue

[LeeLeePot]

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my guy bestfriend had this loooooonnnnnggg conflict with his dad. ani man gud ni, iyang papa, taas ug expectations sa tanan niang anak since the dad was an engineer. kani xa, eldest kaso rebellious. hilig xag banda and 2year course rai nahuman nia. this had disappointed his dad. however, he tried to make up for it by getting a job and paying out all the debts his mother secretly loaned para makapaskwela sa 5 nia ka igsoon kai ang ginakita sa father kai d man enough to provide for the siblings so ang mama, pasecret xa nagloan for fear nga kung mahibaw-an sa papa, insulto sa ego, masuko pa nuon ang padre de pamilia sa madre de pamilia..heheh...so ani ni, nagkalisod na tawon ug bayad akong male friend sa tanaaaannn utang sa mama mao d xa kapadala sa ilahang province WHICH caused a great war between the father and son kai tuo sa papa nagcge rag lingaw2x sa ciudad ang anak porket nkatungtong lang ug ciudad. the mom is soooo recessive nga d man lan mutingog para ingnon ang tinuod why d kapadala ang maguwang! pffft! ako katubagon na jud sa papa ba! bahalag magsinumbagay nami kai lami na musukol. kani man gud ako friend dli xa gusto mukastorya na sa iyang papa kai d man japun maminaw nia so useless daw. angay bako makialam? basi man gud dli maresolve ang father and son issue nila ba. wiiiw!



note: kaning father sa akong guy friend kai ginabun-og ang mother sa una. kita ani akong guy friend which is prolly the reason why d nlan nia tingugan ug explainan iyang papa for fear na basi pasakitan nexad ang mama...


ako bata pa man ko, tiguwang na ang papa...d ko muatras kung manumbag ni. ako na kahay muexplain in behalf nila nuh? kai naluoy na jud ko bah sa kablind sa tanan members sa pamilya sa nahitabo except for the mother and my bestfriend.

[MoonGlow]

The father seems to be so insulated with his thick ego, therefore he becomes insensitive to what goes on around him. The only thing that matters to him is his feelings and his emotions.

If there is a way that you can break through that thick insulation, without hurting his pride, I think you should.

[emow]

wa man kay labot....hehehe it wont solve anything kung mukalit kag apil2x... let your friend solve it...just be there to support.... though your intentions may be good, you might just complicate things....let them resolve their conflict...

[LeeLeePot]

^^ hasta naman gud aning dugaya oi...waa jud sila'y tingganay unya akong friend d kauli sa ila kai d na xa welcome sa balay tungod sa papa...unya ang mga manghod nagtuo jud tawon nga bad ilang kuya kai d na manghatag...ang mama ra jud nakabalo..

makalagot lan ui! paunder ug lake kai porket lake dpat mudominate sa usa ka pamilya. duh?!

[burikoy12]

Sounds familiar ning sitwasyona(Dili sa akoa ha kay buotan kaay ko'g tatay). Dapat open silang magpamilya. Nganong mahadlok man imong friend sa iyang amahan. Tigulang na man kaha. Pakasuk-a lang. Nya dapat baharan niya nga ug sakitan iyang mama, suklan niya. Usahay ang atong amahan mas immature pa nato ug kinahanglang pahinumduman.

[LeeLeePot]

^ di pud nia kaya buhaton dala respeto sa papa...hasta lageng buotana...wiiiw! ana gne ko ako nlan mubuhat ug sukol kai nagasukol man ko sakong mama ug papa so anad nako..heheh..makasapot lan oi!

[farmboy]

I dont understand why - "wla kay labot" is stronger than letting out the truth?

I would let the father know, perhaps it will change him and give him time to correct his mistakes and become worthy of the name - father.

[epoaxlan]

I don't think u need to meddle in, what u can do is to convince ur friend to talk to his dad. have him also talk to the siblings bacn makatabang cla ug explain sa papa.

[LeeLeePot]

haay! i actually suggested to be the one nga mutalk sa papa or atleast explain sa siblings ang real situation sa ilang kuya however, as i've witnessed it myself, the father's words in the family are the last words. patriarchal kaayo... haay nlan! ana pa gne akong friend nga it was a good chance nga nagkawork xa sa city atleast nakatakas na xa sa ilang balay...kaso lan i know jud nga d xa happy nga iyang mga manghod lain na ang tan-aw sa iya....wiiiw!

[emow]

TS, you dont interfere in family problems of your friends.....unless its a life and death situation.... i know nindot gyud na itanggol ang tao na kabaw ka nagtinarong sa kinabuhi...but still... its their business.... the most aggressive you can do is to be indirect in your approach in letting the family know....confrontation will absolutely make things worst.... you let your friend fight his battles, its the only way to grow up....dont rob him of that opportunity, okay?