what happen to love?

[WarLorD]

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what happen to love? when you have already "grown" with your husband/wife that everything is as if taken for granted especially if you already have a child, all attention is now focus on him/her that we started to "grow" apart. when one of the spouse is very workaholic that time is very scarce... no more bonding time between wife and husband together.

[ryeaka]

makarelate kaayo ko ani.... this is why me and my hubby separated... i believe it shouldn't be an excuse for you to have no time for each other... di jud ko modawat ana nga excuse... because i always believe in the saying, "if there's a will there's a way"....

[DigiBoy]

As what Mo twister said sa killer bee and i believe what he said. We should do check and balance sa relationship. Just like a car that needs maintenance monthly and quarterly, same ra sa relationship. I understand that it is way different to comment how one should react coz i havent been on your shoes. But as what i understand right now. QUALITY TIME and PRIDE is the factor that i would consider in making things happen.

Time management is important. Surprises is important too. TS, why not do the things you do when wala pa mo na married. Say visit her sa work, or maybe surprise your family with " Mangaon ta ug dinner sa gawas." Something that would remind her that, "hey, we need time too and hey, remember the good old days?"

Dont wait for her to do the move. Show it to her first and she will realize it. Try lang daw TS. Mga simple surprises lang and see if it works.

Like sa akong case. almost 3 yrs nami sa akong uyab. I believe that as time passes by, magka anam ka boring ang relationship. But wala ko nagpalupig, i give surprises. I make sure nga malingaw cya if kuyog mi. Mura kog nanguyab niya ug balik... lipay rapud cya.

Try it and let me know.

[patty]

It's in the bible that you still have to prioritize your wife even if you already have kids!

[bowee]

i agree.. the perks and thrills when you and your partner was still a gf/bf status should always still be there even if your married already...

I know for the fact that when a child or children comes to your lives already... the less time na you can devout to your partner and much even to yourself... BUT, it shouldn't be an excuse that you two (your wife or husband) cannot enjoy quality time each other nalang.. Just like when kamong duha mag uyab pa...

My uncle once said to me.. J.. when you get married.. don't let your moods dampen or change because you have a big responsibility na.. to make ends meet, all for the family... it's really a big responsibility to have a family of your own.. BUT never ever change the way you and your wife have done before just because of the responsibities you two have to take as providers to your children....

GO OUT casually.. date your wife... go and venture to some of the far out places you've been to (with your wife).. hell, treat your wife to a movie (just like kamo pang duha when your status was just the bf/gf thingie), and yeah.. bring her to a motel... (hehe just like what most lovers do)

The key here is consistency in love amidst the responsibility. (and the burdens of having a family)...

I don't have a family yet.. but the words uttered by my uncle... always sparks a smile on my face when the time he said those words above...

I hope I can share those to you sad TS...

God Bless...

[WarLorD]

dili sad jud ko ganahan nga moabot mi sa time nga mawala na gani ang "spark/flame" namo sa usag usa pero murag i feel nga ingon ana man gud ang nahitabo. ako i have lots of time to spare especially after office or pwede ra gani ko magleave para makaspend mi ug quality time sa akong wife, pero siya man gud iyaha work kay field (sales) nya province pa jud iyaha area mouli siya halos everyday mga past 7pm labing sayo. usahay weekends naa pa siya mga activities sa mga towns sa province labi na kung naay fiesta. im just very concerned lang jud sa iyaha safety kay gabii na baya siya nagbyahe pa ug kana jud wala na mi time mag-istorya.
@ryeaka: tinuod lagi sis... "if there's a will there's a way" hopefully makita lagi ang way before its too late.
@digiboy: :"QUALITY TIME and PRIDE is the factor that i would consider in making things happen." mao lagi na bro wala nay quality time pero naay daghan pride.
@patty: sis pwede mangayo sa passage ana about prioritizing wife.
@bowee: i would make baya effort to keep in touch sa amoang bonding sa akong wife pero pirme man gud moprevail ang iyaha mga activities sa iya work.

i pray that God will help me find a way through this.

[DigiBoy]

@Warlord. when i mean pride, i mean to lessen the pride. cge cya larga? so meaning no day-off? pwde man guro mukuyog niya sa lungsod, im sure she doesnt mind sir. ask her day. heart to heart talk rana cya sir. open up to her para maka plan mo.

[jumper_stage]

everything is fine when there's time, love, s3x . understanding for each other

[WarLorD]

@Warlord. when i mean pride, i mean to lessen the pride. cge cya larga? so meaning no day-off? pwde man guro mukuyog niya sa lungsod, im sure she doesnt mind sir. ask her day. heart to heart talk rana cya sir. open up to her para maka plan mo.

everyday siya mobyahe w/in cebu province ra hinoon unya gabii na sad siya maabot sa balay. pero usahay naay weekends nga moadto siya balik sa province kay naay activity ang town nya usually mga events sa mga fiesta kay gabii baya. we tried to talk from time to time naman pero mo end-up man lang gihapon nga defensive kaayo siya sa iyaha work unya "supposedly" i should understand her kay malipay siya sa iya work. so maka-ask sad ko... what about me?

[WarLorD]

everything is fine when there's time, love, s3x . understanding for each other

mao lagi na bro murag scarce na jud kaayo ang mga factors. time, halos puro na lang isya work. love, i dont know kung naa pa siya para sa akoa, kay love is reciprocal di ba, dili man pwede ikaw na lang sad pirme hatag dapat dawat sad ka. s3x, nah balik usa ta sa time hehehe.