What would you do if...

[Kulas1987]

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This is a story, my story... ^_^.. just like to share a bit.

My girlfriend in which I love the most and the mother of my 3 yrs old baby girl.
We both are still studying in different colleges. My baby is under his mother's hands in a far away land(just here in visayas).

The girls side are ambitious ganahan sila makagawas, itang mama ganahan aka abroad sila(maminyo ug G.I JO), etc..basta ambitious sila- iyang mother is a nursing graduate nya iyang papa is a retired military official.

Akong side simple lang -ky ganahan ra man magkabalay- mama ug papa nako are not professionals. ninda ra mi.

I guess you get the picture of our status..

now balik sa storya--

Kami sa akong girlfriend is over 5 years na with our relationship.. Ako set a ang mind na kami na gyud ang mag-kadayon ky 2tal nana gud me anak. Siya pud gusto na ako ang iya makadayun. Pero...... naay panahon na sige xa ug sol2x sa iya mama na mag-minyo na ug kano para ma salba na daw sila... so ang gibuhat sa akong girl para daw mahilom na ang ka alingug2x sa baba sa iyang mama- nangita xa ug Kano- na maka chat... ug sa dihang nakakita gyud xa.. Ako aware ko ani ky mo sulti man siya nako ug sugot lang pud ko ky wala man koy kwarta na ika paslak sa baba sa iyang mama para mahilom toh... so nag-ka-uyab sila sa kano.. nya mag-pa-dad-an na man pud ang kano niya ug kwarta... di-pwerting lipaya sa mama ky nakakita naman ug kano iyang anak nya mag-padad-an pa gyud ug kwarta...

So... naka decision ko na adto nalang xa sa kano ky nindot man ilang kahimtang didto- ky ako nag-study paman- Nag-huna2x pud ko sa future sa akong anak- mao na ako lang sa g-pili ang mas-maayong buhaton sa pagka-karon para nako ug para nila.... Pero I made a promise with the girl na ako kuha-on akong anak after nako maka-grad ug stable na akong life...

ask lang ko- What Would You DO, If you were in my position...

[azaleayve]

you already made your decision TS, whether sakto or sayup ka para sa amua, if kana ang makapahappy nimo then do it. Sometimes you need to be selfless para sa kaugmaon sa imong mga minahal.. basta make sure, nga kung unsa man ang consequence sa imong mga desisyon, kaya nimu nga atubangon og dawaton...weigh things first TS,...

[VinRex]

follow your dreams TS. kung maningkamot ka aw moasenso ka, nya inig asenso nimo ang ginikanan ang ganahan na pud na magkakamo sa ilang anak.

[uztadzmalek]

+1@ azaleayve make sure lng makaya nimu after effect pro kung if i were in your place lahi sigero akong buhaton...

[kemalzeppy]

before I answer, let me give you my own advice; uhm bro, before you make that choice bear in mind your letting her go, do you want your baby to grow without a mother? can you handle the emotional outbreak knowing she is with another man? I know I can't, but it's a choice both of you must make.

if I was on your shoes, I'll marry the mother of my baby, not only is it good for you but for the baby too. money is always there but a good mother is hard to find.

[butong101]

waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...... ganahan lang ko mo condemn sa mga parents na in-ana!!!!

murag gibaligya ang ila anak na girl sa mga americans!!!!

@TS: study and then find a stable source of income. prove to them you are someone..

[phattchoi]

TS imung lng gi sayangan ang gi kamatyan nila ka Andres! isa ang bandera. buhi-a imung pamilya.

[ulyssa_marie]

I respect your decision in putting your child first before yourself.

It may hurt, but you focused more on priority than ego and emotional satisfaction, which many people cannot do. All the credit there.

On the side of the parents, try to empathize. They only want what's best for the daughter. Nowadays where money is a critical element of life, they have gone through the hardship of raising a family, so they just want a better life for their daughter. Money cannot buy happiness, but it is the a component for happiness' foundation.

If i were you, i would continue to do the best that i can, put 110% in my studies to get good grades, go up the ladder of my career and earn the respect i deserve and not for the money in my pocket.

A quote to think upon:
" if our love destroys your family, then it will destroy itself in a long, slow degradation of guilt and regret and blame."

[yaj.em]

what would I do? I will definitely show to her mom na kaya nku cla buhion, though dili jd guro ing ana ka adunahan.

But since you already make your decision na adto na lang xa sa kano, then OK. But ask yourself first.
Is this really what you WANT?
So ibutang nato, mao na jd na, unsa kaha ang maging result ani sa bata ing kadaku niya? Your relationship with your baby?
Can you afford to watch your baby calling some other guy DADDY?
Can you really give up your GF to that kano without a figt? (you should have first make your move to show them what you can for your family)

If all is YES, then congratulations.... You may proceed with your decision.
But remember, the future depends on what you do today. I just hope, what ever your decision is, dili ka mgmahay and kaya nimo.

Goodluck

[luke0917]

hahay kalisod ug kasakit ani na sitwasyon..

if ako guro, ill get the baby, makabuhi raman pud guro ka sa bata dba. anyway if gusto sd jd sa imong GF na manindot ang future sa inyong baby ky pwede ra baya cya mgpadala ug kwarta pra tabang pa skwela or iya pabakasyonon ddto America inig dako sa bata.

naa sd jud uban parents na ambisyoso oi, pwera gaba lng. ila man unta na responsibilidad na maayo ilang pagpuyo pra maayo ug dli mglisod ang anak dli kay ang anak ang himuong solusyon pra mu-asenso sa pagpuyo!