Help! : Family Affair

[jivabernardo]

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Mga istoryans,

my situation is this: ama2 ko sa mga anak sa akng future wife karon and kaning duha (boy and girl) naa jud mga apan...

Girl: grabe ka in love sa kwarta, first love daw niya na.... second, she talks, text, and even PM her boyfriend sa facebook kana btaw murag wala nay ugma...

Boy: grabe ka adik sa online games or offline games; tig alas 3 - 4 na sa kadlawn na matog nya klase pa ugma...

Akong partner pud, pwerteng taphawa ra kung mamadlong... storya lang daw iya ky igo sa huna-huna (which I find it not effective)

Unsa man nko ni na gusto man jd nko ni sila disiplanahon aron inig dako well disciplined... I only fear that if I scold them they would tell their real father na mao na ni mangasaba nko nila... and dli pa baya sila legally seperated... na hulog jd ko ug kabit ani..hehhe... I admit, but I want to straighten them up jud... please advice lang pd dha...

[nitwit]

dont do it let your partner do it but you must tell her how it should be done.since they're not really legally separated man diay wala gyud kay right nga mangasaba sa mga bata unless kamo na gyud sa inahan (married) kay naa kay gamay nga right but still when it comes to those kids,lisud kaayo na sir kay di man gud imoha unya basin magsumbagay unya mo sa amahan ana. same here,my husband has a illegitimate son, although as much as i want to straighten him up,i dont tell him directly i let his dad do it for me.ive done it and the mum was just a total nutcase,rang us both and started whinging and blah blah blah.it'll make your life a living hell so if i were you,your already in a complicated situation dont make it more complicated by getting in between. do it in a right way. that means, fix up your relationship first with you future wife make sure theyre gonna be legally separated with the kid's dad otherwise mangasaba ka masumbagan ka sa amahan ana and not to mention,muana ra nang mga bataa "your not my father!"

[cardo]

Why discipline them? IMO...your still an outsider unless both your partner and kids would be living in one house and legal na inyo relationship meaning separated na cla with her ex-hubby.

[jivabernardo]

dont do it let your partner do it but you must tell her how it should be done.since they're not really legally separated man diay wala gyud kay right nga mangasaba sa mga bata unless kamo na gyud sa inahan (married) kay naa kay gamay nga right but still when it comes to those kids,lisud kaayo na sir kay di man gud imoha unya basin magsumbagay unya mo sa amahan ana. same here,my husband has a illegitimate son, although as much as i want to straighten him up,i dont tell him directly i let his dad do it for me.ive done it and the mum was just a total nutcase,rang us both and started whinging and blah blah blah.it'll make your life a living hell so if i were you,your already in a complicated situation dont make it more complicated by getting in between. do it in a right way. that means, fix up your relationship first with you future wife make sure theyre gonna be legally separated with the kid's dad otherwise mangasaba ka masumbagan ka sa amahan ana and not to mention,muana ra nang mga bataa "your not my father!"

Yup lisud jud ning ingani na situation sis... but thanks sa imng advice

[jivabernardo]

Why discipline them? IMO...your still an outsider unless both your partner and kids would be living in the one house and legal na inyo relationship meaning separated na cla with her ex-hubby.

Mao pd lage sir... its complicated thing

[jumper_stage]

in other words" GUGMANG GI-ATAY"..dont stick to a thing(s) which can give u lots of problem !

[Reunin]

Sacrifice ka sa imo part bro. Ipakta nimo nila as of now nga willing ka mahimong parent nila. Suodon nimo ang iya anak. ayaw lang pag 1 sided. tan.awa pod ang ilang mga good side. and if close na mo. hinayhinayi ug pasabot. e guide sila sa matarung. ayaw lang kalita bro. di baya na parehas sa sili na mo epekto daun. otong sa ginagmay. ky ikaw man ang makig minyo na sa naa nay family. hope it helps...

[jivabernardo]

Sacrifice ka sa imo part bro. Ipakta nimo nila as of now nga willing ka mahimong parent nila. Suodon nimo ang iya anak. ayaw lang pag 1 sided. tan.awa pod ang ilang mga good side. and if close na mo. hinayhinayi ug pasabot. e guide sila sa matarung. ayaw lang kalita bro. di baya na parehas sa sili na mo epekto daun. otong sa ginagmay. ky ikaw man ang makig minyo na sa naa nay family. hope it helps...

Ingana jd na bro... bsag unsaon nko ug bali2 anak lang japon sila...

[ace_82]

basin ma misinterpret nila imo pagka concern sa ilaha brod. . .lisod jud kaayo imo sitwasyon,libog kaayo kon asa ka mo lugar. But as long as ok inyo relationship sa mga anak sa imo partner ok na na brod.

[Pillow]

boss....ma minyo diay mo ana? kung di pa siya legally separated? and leave the disciplining to them sa boss.. although your intentions are good. pero murag ma bati man gud kas pananaw sa mga bata. pero noun dapat man sad jud sila mka learn.. ingna lang na imong nobya karon nga badlonga na sila.. unsa sad nang inaha kung taphaw ra kaayo.. niya kaw boss..kung mag minyo namo ana niya.. unsaon nlng kanang anak jud ninyo.. ay ko ingna kaw nlng cgeg pangasaba ana? sure najud kang imo na siyang minyoan? nga murag irresponsible pamana siya.. di gani xa kabadlong ut tarung ana yang anak unsa nlng kung nanapud moi inyo.

Just my thoughts boss.