Getting Married... Kalabad sa ulo (Here's the story)

[wilx]

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I think naka dungog namu aning pag ka hasol sa pag minyo. Daghan kaayo kag huna2x.on. Labi na sa mga in-laws, ug sa imung pamilya. Anyways, mao ning estorya.

We've already decided a date for our wedding day, and both our families already agreed. Everything's going according to plan, then the problem arises when her older brother just decided that they are planning to get married only weeks before our wedding day. (Emergency daw if you know what I mean) We already paid down-payments to all our suppliers, nakuyawan gani ko nga ma TY. It's not about money, but all about emotional damage. Anyways, Gahi gyud kaayo ug ulo, bisan unsaon ug pasabot by his parents and siblings, this guy and his girl kay mu supak gyud gahi gyud ug mga ulo! It also caused problems with my family cause they believe in Sukob/Bad luck (in chinese), I tried to fight for our wedding, but my family is already uneasy with our special day. Mahulog nuon nga gahi na nuon mi ug ulo if we continue with our wedding cause I don't believe in Sukob. I just want a peaceful wedding and blessings from both our parents.

Nag cge nami ug away sa iyaha igso-on, gi hagad pako ug SUMBAGAY (imagine.a unsa ka isog) kai samok daw kaayo mi. Kami pa ang nahulog ug bati kai cge mi ug hatag ug lain options para ma okay pud ang akong side sa family. Unsaon mani nga dili man gyud sila mu back down. Gi bali pa nga kami ang bati... Okay raman unta toh bah kung nag pa huwis lang unta sa sila then after they have their own church wedding. But it's all about dignity and a respectable marriage.

It's so sad that people are sometimes very selfish, even someone that you know for a long time. Para ninyo, sakto ba ilang gi buhat? For me it's very unfair. Me and my fiance can't do anything thing about it. We're trapped with this... It should be the happiest day of our lives, they made it very memorable.

Thanks for reading and I hope you'll get something out of this.

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By the way, We are married now, and currently very happy. Marriage is a gift, it helps you grow more, do things you think was impossible. We reconciled with my brother in-law and his wife. There will always be trials in our way, I'm happy that we surrived this. If you're about to get married and you went through this similar situation, then embrace it. It's something you'll look back and makes both of you stronger. Stay strong, stand-up for what you want, and be patient. We had a wonderful wedding after all. Everything was perfect.

*it's been two years now since I finalized this thread. Go for gold.

[chinchan004]

it's either you take the risk bro or just leave it without a fight.. and eventually the "Sukob" pamahiin is just a belief ... naa man sad cgru cla point bro.. and on their side wala sad clay choice... pero ambot lisoda oi haha

[wilx]

if we take the risk, bati napd kai wala nay parent's blessing sa akong side bro.

[jivabernardo]

Sus bro, lisod jd kaau nang situation nmo labi na ang pikas ky my pgka materialistic ug kwarta lang ang nawng... ive been there and i know you can surpass that...

[jivabernardo]

if we take the risk, bati napd kai wala nay parent's blessing sa akong side bro.

I suggest lang bro noh, kay ingani man pd akng situation before... igather ang both parties sah so that all of you can settle down... talk will lead to something...

[p26]

hasola ani oi..ang makasapot ani kay gihagad pa ka ug sumbagay sa igsoon nga ikaw man ta ang agrabyado kay imo kwarta ang ma TY---mayo pa ani magstorya mo ug tarung, kung mahimo ipa refund nalang ang imo ma TY nga downpayment.

[pat_gracie07]

Life isn't fair at all times.. Lisod jud kaau inyoha case karon... But everything happens for a reason.. Dili man cguro accident lang.. naa cguro purpose.. this is just another trial God made for you, to test you and your fiance.. This will make and keep your relationship stronger..

[wilx]

Sus bro, lisod jd kaau nang situation nmo labi na ang pikas ky my pgka materialistic ug kwarta lang ang nawng... ive been there and i know you can surpass that...

I don't know if materialistic toh sila ha, I think not. But I just know that they just take whatever they want without considering who they'll hurt.

[chinchan004]

sak2 bro why don't you think for a solution para tanan ma peace.. or forget sa mga threat ato gbuhat ato imo bro... pede gani ninyo i double wedding or idungan nalng inyo ang kasal ninyo..


sak2 si jiver bro... before everthing else goes into more chaotic situation.. maybe its ur part to gather them all ... mag sturya mo about... and imo cla sultian daan nga dili ddapat init ang ulo,. just talk with ease para walay conflict mahitabo... i know every problem has a solution.. XD

[chinchan004]

sak2 bro why don't you think for a solution para tanan ma peace.. or forget sa mga threat ato gbuhat ato imo bro... pede gani ninyo i double wedding or idungan nalng inyo ang kasal ninyo..


sak2 si jiver bro... before everthing else goes into more chaotic situation.. maybe its ur part to gather them all ... mag sturya mo about... and imo cla sultian daan nga dili ddapat init ang ulo,. just talk with ease para walay conflict mahitabo... i know every problem has a solution.. XD