am i selfish?

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hi fellow istoryans. i need your advice. my gf want to leave and work abroad. she said that she's doing it because she can't find work here. she'\s an RN actually and it's true that opportunities for nurses here are very rare.

she wanted to find any work abroad as a caregiver or even a therapist. ako siya ingnan nga diri lang sa ta wait lang ta nga mag boom balik ang nursing opportunities abroad. mag volunteer lang sa diri. ako lang sa bahala iya tanan expenses. ahem not to brag makaya ra man sad naku nga i support siya.

she said nga selfish daw ko kay di ko sugot mo abroad siya. ang akoa kay sayangan ko sa iya course nga mo abroad siya doing another work. basin mawala na iya pagka "nurse". i know deep inside nga if i let her go there's a 70% chance that i will lose her and i can't afford that. you see i've been with a similar situation before with an ex. morag dejavu na sa akoa.

what do u think fellow istoryans? am i really selfish? kung kamo sa inyo nga part can you risk it?

needless to say, i do love her very much. i can't afford to lose her.

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i say pamabdusi na imung gf para ma imuha mao rana para di sya ka larga... ug maka buhi ka niya aw shes all yours...

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i say pamabdusi na imung gf para ma imuha mao rana para di sya ka larga... ug maka buhi ka niya aw shes all yours...

di pa puede bro for the next 10 years. nagka baby na man gud siya before nga naay birth defects ug bag-o lang ni passed away gani. her doctor said that it's very possible nga sunod niya baby will have the same condition again so give it an allowance of 10 years daw. can't blame her, na traumatized jud siya including me coz i was also there when her baby was dying in the hospital bed.

[clidim]

same here, i would not like it if my partner would be away for a long time..i would also do the same thing. i dont believe in long distance relationship, and i dont like it... been there and it failed! disperada na jud cya nga maka work? why man? naa cya gi buhi lain? naa mo mga anak or what?

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wala man sis kay wala na man iya sickly baby. iya lang jud dream mo asenso and she felt that she can't find it here in our country.

[Cory1986]

That's so selfish of u! Sorry to say that bro. Let her go. It's really up to her if mag effort xa sa inyung relationship. Don't trap her. Ikaw ray mag mahay.

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That's so selfish of u! Sorry to say that bro. Let her go. It's really up to her if mag effort xa sa inyung relationship. Don't trap her. Ikaw ray mag mahay.

ouch ok sis. i am selfish. been there man sad gud sis, different girl in my distant past and now murag mausab na sad. ambot mao jud siguro ni ako fate. pero just want to let you know sis nga kung wa jud ko mahimo to keep her here then help na lang ko niya iya gastos in going there and i don't expect anything in return.

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lisura ani ui. sakto ka bro dako ang chances na magka buwag mo or magka wamoy klaru if
naa na cya sa states. ngano diay if ikaw mo work sad kas states bro para kamo duha didto?

[Cory1986]

ouch ok sis. i am selfish. been there man sad gud sis, different girl in my distant past and now murag mausab na sad. ambot mao jud siguro ni ako fate.

The worst thing u can do is trapping her. What if it won't work out? Ikaw iblame nia all her life! Let her spread her wings and fly. It's really up to her if she would include u in her world. Goodluck.

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lisura ani ui. sakto ka bro dako ang chances na magka buwag mo or magka wamoy klaru if
naa na cya sa states. ngano diay if ikaw mo work sad kas states bro para kamo duha didto?

mao ta na ako gusto bro but she can't wait. lisud man sad pag adto sa states karon. daghan karon jobless didto. ang madali dali lang mag caregiver pero ako nga IT murag hanap kaau makakuha ko ug visa unless mag H1B ko nga pana (indian companies) nga incidentally gagmay kaau manghatag ug sueldo. actually naa nay koy offer ani sa una but it's only $3,700/a month di jud paigo sa mga expenses didto bisan ako pa usa ra didto.