Stage of Confusion

[meltd0wn]

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hello guys..ask na pd ko ug inputs (sige ra ko pangayug inputs..hehe..sorry kaayo)

anyway, mao ni ang situation:

me and my gf are currently in a long distance relationship..and just last week mn ata, nagpost sad ko dire asking for opinions on your partner na di magparamdam..well luckily that was solved after i called her and told her about the problem..at least now mu-text na siya and magparamdam..now the problem is, somebody else entered the picture..

now, new girl is an officemate and a close friend of mine..and during that time na wala nagparamdam akng gf, she was there to make me laugh..in short, murag nabaling akng attention niya..we hang out almost everyday after work..she shares her problems with me, and i do the same to her..

now the problem is, kahibaw ko i have no feelings for new girl..we never talk about "us"..at least not seriously..but lately, na-notice mn gd na sa amng mga officemates na close ra jd mi kaayu..even i, if i look from a different person's POV, murag di gyud siya angay for a guy currently in a relationship to get this close with another person..

now na-konsensya ko because my feelings for my GF are already fading because of that communication barrier she created before..and i don't want to break up with her thinking that new girl will most likely be blamed for it..pero i feel so unfair to my gf kay she doesnt know that my feelings are starting to fade..i'm trying to revive those feelings though coz i felt bad before when my ex broke up with me saying the same reason (fell out of love)..

naunsa nman ni oi.. T_____T if kamu naa sa akng position, what would you do?

[Cory1986]

for me, i would talk to my gf about it. be open to her. ingna xa nga while wa ka nag paramdam, naa girl nga na balingan sa akong atensyon, pangayu sa iyang help para ma save 100 percent ang relationship.

OT: i did the same sa akong xbf. katong nanguyab pa xa nako, I told him nga naa pa ko feeling sa ako past and nag ask ko nia to save me kay ang laki man gud kay pala
chiks au. mao to, in the end, na inlove jd ko nia. ingon xa nga it hurts daw but at least kabaw xa sa truth

[meltd0wn]

hopefully mao sad jd na akng masulti niya..ang ako lng gi-worry pd kay layu mn mi gd..then basin bag naa siyay buhaton na later iyang i-regret..i want to say it to her in a way na di siya ma-hurt kaayu..hayyy..what im afraid of is the possibility na nag-deny lng ko na ganahan ko ni new girl just to respect the relationship im in now.. T____T

[organ_nic]

sakto si cory brod, sometimes to solve the problem is to ask sa parties involve, although mahimong bias ang iyang advice nimo, remember involved sad siya but at least ma aware siya and who knows maka kita ka sa bigger picture sa problema, just a thought.

[icon_king]

og ako ang nasa position nimu bay anha ko sa duol. At least if ever naa kay irason sa imung uyab nga naa sa layo. Alangan layo man tong imung uyab and do you really also think she is 100% honest with you... Normal rana sa tao ang malipay so if feeling nimu lipay ka you go ahead. di paman mo minyo so pwede pa.

[meltd0wn]

@icon king, as i said, i am not romantically in it with new girl..we're just friends, though i'm not so sure if friend rba jd akng na-feel pra niya or i'm just denying to myself that reality..gave myself some time to think last night and i thought ani mn sad ko before with other female workmates pero wala mn to nagka-issue pd..and yeah, wa sad koy gipanguyaban sa mga previously close female workmates naku..

also, a part of me wants to go on with the relationship i'm having now..ang ako lng ba kay basin nakalitan lng bitaw ko na LDR mi sa akng uyab then na-divert lng ang akng attention sa kung kinsay naa sa duol..

[jonz]

its just like you are being defensive of your feeling coz you have an official GF... lets say we will do the numbers.. you dont have to post it here...

rate 1-10 (10highest) and answer yes or no..
sa imong friend kron
gwapahan bka sa imong amiga?
comfortable bka kung mg kuyog mo?
do you think of her when you sleep.. more than your GF?
how often do you think in a week?
do you see yourself and her in a romantic date?

saimong uyab
do you miss her?
do you have plans marrying her?
ok rba nimo if mka uyab cya ug lain?

and the love is still there but naa mn gd question mark....... TIME and PRESENCE is very essential in a relationhip.. guidelines rana nga question.. para ma aware ka saimong gbati

[yiennahs]

you need space

[kimleeKINO_choi]

think about it 100X.
I really can't tell nga na fade na...sometyms gd mg transfer of affection lang tah coz we feel that the person we love dsnt give a damn tym.
Pero brod ayw jud intawn drsto2 og decide ha.
Pg talk mo sa u GF.
E-resolve sa inyo matters before ka mo go sa lain napod prob.
Ur GF deserves to know everything.
After the talk huna2 na kong what imo next move.
Decide wisely coz u myt end up with nothing.

[Sol_Itaire]

feelings fluctuate, so if you depend on your feelings you'll have different girlfriends everytime. nice way to live.