Unsa inyong buhaton ani?

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Guys need advice for this..Buntis akong Gf karon for almost 2 months na nya nkahibaw na iyang mama ug papa ug akong mama pud...then gusto sa iyang papa na pakaslan nko akong Gf ,,but im stil not ready pa kay nag skwela pako im 22 yrs old my Gf is 21 ..ako unta plano kay kng mkahuman na ug mka trbaho..kay wa tay ikabuhi pero ang bata supportaran man namo mo tabang akong mama..need ba jud na pakaslan dayon guys even di pka ready kay nka buntis na?

pls give your comment on this...thanks

[bowee]

NO need for you to go on with marrying the girl... I understand though the point of the girls' father... its really bringing shame to their family especially their reputation.. and the last thing he can make an effort with, is to have you tie the knot with his daughter.. for 'Security of tenure' so to speak...

but in marriages there are no fool proof guarantee at all that if kamo ba jud (bsan makasal pa mo). I've seen couples who had a lifelong journey together.. but their destination didnt end as they would expect it to be... life offers no assurances and guarantees at all...

My take on your case? assure the father of you GF that you will stick in your responsibility nga panagutan nimo ang imong nabuhat sa ilang anak. Also talk to him man to man... that though your as much as willing to stand for the responsibility you are in.. you are are still shaky in the finances that might involve bringing a life to this world... Assure him that as soon as you can find a job AFTER school, you would support your child and if the case maybe(that is, if your decided still) to marry their daughter. Tell all this plans first to your mom and bring her also when your going to tell it to the father of your GF. Your mom can back you out with your plans.

Tell her dad again, pahumana sa ko sa akong studies, then I can support your daughter. Marriage is not the end to the means.. and surely not the means to the end... there are a lot of solutions that can be done, other than concluding dayon nga pakasal dayon mo.

You just need the guts and the conviction to tell your plans to her dad. It is up to the dad to say otherwise.

Again, ayaw pag duha2x do nga basin d nimo makaya.. kay dili lang ikaw ang nahitaboan ani.. many had experience this problems of yours.. and many have come out unscathed...

Be strong, be a man of your words. (Makita na sa amahan unsa ka nga type nga laki through your words and actions)

Good luck!!!

[aLohaBby]

luoya pud sa girl... syempre mu insist jud na ang family sa girl kay ang ka uwaw adto man gud hapak sa ila.... well, compromise lang mo both parties siguro.... sabot2x lang ba..

[KizoneC]

ayaw pagdali ang inyo dapat huna-on ang bata usa ayaw sa og huna2x anang kasal kai lisod pa man kaha..! kung magpakasal ka daghan pa kaau huna2x-on..! i prior lang usa ang bata brad

[mc23]

Thats what happen to me also but i was separated by her parent to her and my baby.. if i wer u,, just do it at panagutan mo.. anyway, GOD ALWAYS PROVIDE as long as ur with HIM..

[Dickiesss]

luoya pud sa girl... syempre mu insist jud na ang family sa girl kay ang ka uwaw adto man gud hapak sa ila.... well, compromise lang mo both parties siguro.... sabot2x lang ba..

Mao gyud, mag dependi gyud na.

[jakobe_04]

unsa mn puy say sa imopng girlfriend?ganahan na pud xa magpakasal?

d man kinahanglan mgpakasal mo tungod lng kay na nay bata...talk mos imong gf then try daun ninyog explain sa iyang amahan kung unsa inyong plano...mksabot r jud cguro na sila..lisod man kaayo ug ahaton nang kasal2x...

pro kung d jud amda ang fadir ug explain and all...nga ipakasal mn jud mo diya...pak!tuara!adto jud mo ana padong!

[clickstart]

This girl was my 1st love but nka uyab ko ug lain coz nag buwag me for a year but nag balik meh karon kay 1 yr ug 7 months meh sauna kay 2yrs...i love the girl and she do love me buotan cya ug nka graduate na cya ako wla pa...gusto cya pakasal meh kay para wa nadaw ug samok ug storya para mag puyo nalang meh...but di pako handa financially kay gusto nka if mkasal di dinalian insist cla na bisag huwis lng daw said sa iyang father..but di ko ganahan pa kay nag skul pako ug magsalig gihapon sa ginikanan..my plan is ang baby lng sa unahon pagawson then after na mo decide palipason sa tanan ipa kalma sah..but ako gf sge hilak kay sge cya sultian pakasal kay basin daw bayaan nako...libog kaau..I do love her but im not ready to all but 100% will support the baby..

[monroy]

Wow how the heck did this happen.. did you use protection?

Now you say you will support the baby 100% but we all know that is subject to change in 1, 5 or 10 years. I totally understand the girl's family point of view, your stand is a half-in half-out situation and they want absolute security. They can always go to court to force you to support the baby if you somehow change your mind down the road, but who wants to go through that trouble knowing how long our courts take to make the simplest decisions.

We once had an employee at our company who was sued by his ex-wife to provide support to their kids, when the court ordered him to pay and have automatic deductions from his wages at our company, he immediately resigned and went to work for another company. So you see it's not so simple anymore after you crossed the threshold so to speak. Let this be a warning to all the guys who think it might be fun to have *** without a condom. I'm not saying that's what you did, but it is the most likely explanation for why this happened...

[sugbuana]

pursue your studies first before you get married.