M.U. is everything but Committed

[kaytee]

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Fear to commitment used to be a guy thing– the bane of a woman’s Happy Ever After. Couples would date regularly, share the same beliefs and even possess a deep connection in many ways — yet hesitate to acknowledge their loved ones and avoid leaving the Dating Mart. Lately, however, women seem to have conceded to this way of thinking. And the Mutual Understanding (M.U.) relationship has become socially acceptable.

So what makes an M.U. different from a real boyfriend-girlfriend relationship? One word: Commitment. Ironically, while it’s commitment that defines relationships and bonds people till they’re old and gray, to one argument comes different sides. If we ask some people, "Is it advisable to stay in a Mutual Understanding Relationship?"
some would say,…

"You get to know the person well..No strings attached. There’s enjoyment in dating while entertaining other suitors."

"Two people can get to know each other and build a deeper friendship. The realizaion of each other’s similarities and differences leads to better acceptance."

However, not all people accept this kind of relationship. According to some, "This kind of relationship generates an instant feeling of being loved and cared by someone. Instant, not necessarily lasting or eternal." While an M.U. relationship may give the longed for head-in-the-clouds and can’t-live-without-you feelings, it doesn’t necessarily lead to wedding vows and I do’s. If a person is after someone to hold during Valentine’s, then maybe they’re looking for this kind of relationship.

I think inability to decide about your level of commitment is immaturity. It only drains you because you don’t know how to proceed with the relationship. M.U. relationships keep you guessing, which probably gives the initial adrenaline rush. But also, you can’t be too sure if he’s serious . Exclusivity is out of the question. There are probably as different opinions as there are people. In the end, it’s entirely up to those involved if they wish to remain in the twilight zone of M.U. or if they would be brave (andserious) enough to be enveloped by the commitment of Real Thing.

Yet as for me, it came to the point when I realized to move forth and take risk.. but how can I move forth if the other half decides to stay and remain in the twilight zone of M.U?.



How about you istoryans? what's your say to this?

[cptn_star]

the MU stage shouldn't linger on too long as it is the precursor to the actual, official relationship. if ever the MU stage drags on too far, i doubt that the relationship will have a solid future.

[sugbuana]

MU may apply for those individuals who are not yet ready for a commitment.for me, it's a good thing because you'll be able to have plenty of time to know the person very well before deciding to end up to a relationship. It's a case to case basis.

[FranZeno]

^^ mao sd bitaw na..been there anang MU, it dragged on for too long, but fortunately nlng sd for me I can't handle a relationship with her, kung sa trabaho pa na, under probation pa..hehehe..no commitments, so no luggage, no strings attached, no contracts..

[bowee]

MU is okay.. as long as there are no emotional attachments involve....

but as the MU progresses.. the one on the losing side is the one who falls in love first to his or her partner...

when the emotional feelings comes in.. the one who has the feeling often ends on the losing side......

[nilbud]

i like m u no comitment hehe

[davidsky]

na lisud ni hehe

[icon_king]

murag maayo man ang M.U kay both of you wont get hurt. i mean you can do whatever you want. alangan man ug emu pugson ang imu other half if he choses nga M.U ramu. pero para nako ang M.U dili kay ni labad sa ulo... M.U is a mind game... if both of you know how to play this game then good for both of you. Pero naa gani mausab ninyo aw luoy kaayo

[lintanks]

In secular societies, MU is the trend.

[lintanks]

MU equals lesser expectations.