trust issues

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guys unsaon mani f inyu bf naay trust issues? as n i did everythng na para mka salig xa nko and till now wa ghapon xay salig. i know i don't have the cleanest past,actually very bati jud (from flings and stuff). he's my bestfriend back then and i told him about my kabuangs sa una (well not all pa). but pag uyab na namu i told him najud tanan as n tanan nya he said he's willing to accept me man kay past s past na lagi.

so after a year mag away rami because of his insecurities and grabe pagkaseloso. mag cge xa ingon nagtan aw daw ko ani na laki (which is so not true kay gatanga ra jd q atu nya tymingan lang na panan aw nya nagtan aw q atu nya!) and naa sad na cge daw q tan.aw sa iya bestfriend (which naa sad mi past bfor nya) nya wa pa daw q ka get over atu nya (which is so not true kay as n super get over najud ko and ga tan aw ko nya kay nagsturya man xa).. so ka get mo sa aq point unsa xa ka paranoid??

kasabot man q na maglisod xag salig because he knows wat im capable of doing pero ever since nagkakami kay as n super loyal jd ko nya d na gani q ka huna2 ug lain laki. kana ganing gkapoi nakag lingaw2 and ur ready to settle down na feeling. heck, im even ready to get married and have a baby with him! i even told him that and adtu pa jd mi ug OB para mg family planning! ing ana ko ka serioso nya. d nko mulaag, work rko permi den after kuyog dayun nya..f nagthnk xa d xa kasalig nq unsa paman aq mabuhat na wa nmn gani q tym para kuyog sa mga laki dha kay cge rami kuyog. d point is i want him to trust me kay gkapoi nako cge ingon nya na xa ra jd akoa. its really frustratng wen ikaw nagtinuod ka pero imu uyab mag cge gihapon duda nmu.. hhaayy guys i need ur point of view.. wat should i do para mka get over xa sa iya trust issues regarding my past?

[jury]

TRUST... is something that you need to gain...
Ones you break it.. Lisod na ibalik.. As what you've made mentioned...
He knows what you're capable of doing.. And you can't blame him kung mag lisod siya salig nimo balik...
It's easy to forgive but hard to forget...

[hans josefina]

kani jud bitaw past maoy makaingon sad...pero if he really loves mo trust jud naxa nimo...mo accept jud cya kung unsa ka..db?just do everything nalang girl para musalig jud cya nimo... bsta dili lang jud nang mga binuang... just dont quit! ipakita jud nimo nga past is past.

[palanggako123]

jury is right. trust is something u need to gain specially ani nga situation nmu. just don't give up, continue showing him that you've changed. everybody deserves a second chance.

[yvonne6]

kung nanay incident in the past nga nakahimo kag binuang, dali ra kaau ka ma dudahan. just like a criminal known for doing drugs, dali ra kaau na sila puniton ug pasanginlan ug the same, even if its not true. it will have to take time before imong bf ma convince nga truly nagbag o raka. for others out there, it pays jud nga serious ta sa atong mga relasyon ug dili ta player because eventually, mag suffer lang mo later on, just look at the case of the ts, its hard to convince someone that u can just easily change for the better

[rodznickz]

sakto jud ilang gi ingon!! just show your BF that you've completely changed nga dli naka pareha sauna nga kusog mag binuang, and im very sure sooner or later he'll totally believe in you!! good luck ^_______^

[Sol_Itaire]

just continue doing the right things. syempre nag ani pa ka sa consequences sa imo choices before so just let him be. natural ra na di kaayu siya kasalig nimo. don't dwell on that. focus nalang on behaving right day by day.

[schizophrenicpanic]

Love is a lifetime of proving your loyalty, your faithfulness and your worth.
It may be double as hard for you to gain trust from a guy who has seen your darkest side.
You should always be understanding and always think of why is he asking too many questions,
why this, why that, why not, why don't, coz especially in your situation, trust will be hard to gain and certainly trust would not be enough to hang on for that guy. so just understand, am-ami gamay, paraygi lang gamay, mubigay rana...
and if you keep on doing what is right! be loyal, be faithful and always put your relationship first.
good things are going to come... in time...

[tisayishot]

Positive side is you have to prove to him to gain his trust back.. But sometimes you have to see the reality that this issue will keep on coming back. And he will always try to use this against you. It is up to you on how your approach with him on certain situations to make him realize that past is past. Mura ug "gulat factor" ba especially that you even told him everything. Which means you're willing to work on your relationship.. For instance, naa mi neighbor whose got a not so nice past with guys. And her husband , everytime they have an argument ky mao dyun ipanawong nya which I hope won't happen to you... In short, be brave to speak and voice out what you feel. Not in the sense pud na mag- away mo.

[KASAAC]

mao padayon lang sa pangadlaw nmung buhaton... tagbawa sya sa imung gugma