i need your advice..i have a stepmom.

[christinetinetineo6]

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i have a broken family since pag 4 yrs old lang naku. im with my dad and he had many relationships with other girls ero naa na jud xai na pili an. pag 16 yrs old i had my first half sister..ang naka apan lang... dli na kaayu ku ganahan sa akung "stepmom".unlike before na sweet kaayu siya naku.karun nga naa na siyay iyang anak jud nawala jud. after a year i had another half sister na pud. 3 na mi and it breaks my heart nga wala na kaayu attention akung dad naku..and it's getting really unfair kay whenever naa kui pangayu on niya masuko siya pero kung akung stepmom naai pangayu on niya, dli siya masuko...it's really different back when kami rang duha kay grabe kaayu mi ka close.. karun dli na kaayu... maka ingun na lang gani ku nga mas maayu pa nga mag puyo na lang kug aku just to get away from them kay dili na jud madala ang kasakit usahay.. pero i can't kay minor pa man ku. HEELP..what should i do?

[trex654@yahoo.com]

just focus your ambitions and a lot of prayers....always be positive

[Soul Doctor]

be thankful of what you have.
you still have your father.
he still supports you.

drop the teenage drama and be thankful for being alive.

[wenlove24]

try to do something nice for your family esp. your dad. something that you wouldn't normally do under the circumstances. when he notices it, try to talk to him about how you feel. Make sure he's not doing anything else so he could have full attention. You could also write him a letter if you like. If this doesn't work, look on the bright side. As long as he still provides for you like school and your needs, just keep on praying. God will provide an opportunity for you to channel your feelings.

[christinetinetineo6]

thanks a lot istoryanss!
i'll keep that in mind. i think it's time for me to think maturely and be optimistic. anyway, i know God is there for all of us and he has plans for me too. God bless!

[viktor_frankl]

I'm not really sure there's something wrong with them or maybe you're just insecure sa imo half family...but you know what, i believe your father still loves you...If that is how you feel, then try to challenge yourself by challenging them as well. Let them see you bloom and shine like never before. Excel in your academic classes! Join a theater group or a social civic organization...Red Cross, etc... When you don't have classes, clean the home, wash some dishes, learn to cook for them, etc...instead of going out with your "barkadas" for nonsense "laag" nga wala kay makuha...Learn a lot of things! Read books! Make a difference! Gain their trust! Make your father proud of you... Show him how much you love him when he is still around..... I used to have a father. When he is still alive, i ignored him and i never had the courage to tell him how much i love him. And i'm gonna regret that for the rest of my life.

[Muerte]

istoryahe na lang na imong amahan.

[nitesky]

Try talking to your papa daw... Lisod man gud nga ikaw rang usa kay as u said minor pa ka and u need guidance...

This is the reason why dili ko ganahan nga ako baby maadto sa iyang papa kay mapasagdan lagi.

BTW, asa man diay imong mama if u dont mind me asking...

[iwantmyboyfriend]

sis exactly same jud ta ug story. ang ako gani, kay bata pman ko ato nag minyo usab akong dad, pag una wa jud ko musugut as in nag tantrums jud kos akong dad pero gi istoryahan ko niya like an adult katong grade 2 pa ko na siya mu tiguwang daw wala siyay kuyug, then gi bribe ko niya ug mga bag ong duwaan so ni sugut jud ko.. hehehe

Anyway sis, my relationship with my stepmom was never great. batan-on man gud akong stepmom (kini jud akong papa..hihihii) pero we got along just because we needed to.. but like you,
magkig compete jud siya sa attention sa akong papa..
then naa napud ko mga half siblings, like u, duha pd kabuok.
maglagot jud ko paminawon kay sauna kato kami pa duha sa akong dad, iyang attention ug kwarta ari ra tanan nako.. hehe as in akong gamit kay mga nindot jud nya skwela jud kos mahalon na private school. pero since growing man ang family, tihikan nakos akong apaps kay of course naa na silay importante na gastohan.. to the point na gi pabalhin nlng ko ug public school kay ang usa ka half igsoon naay sakit nya kinahanglan ug series of operations.. ngadto giud ko na hagba kay (highschool pa jud ko gi balhin) as a teenager, imo ra baya life kay imong friends..
mao to didto nag sugod akong issues ug insecurities.. mura pa jud ko naka develop ug
superiority complex kay mag lagot kos akong mga classmate kay bogo-an jud ko..
lahi man jud tong private school ta kay advance na ang lesson then bright pa jd akong mga classmate..
basta na usab akong life jd.. wala kaau ko mga friends.. naa ra ko sa balay pirmi..
then wala napd koy mahalon na gamit.. basta miski mabaw kaau, lagot jd kaau ko..
so mao to sugod dayun rebelde.. dugay uli, ma buntagan, inom2x pero walay drugs hehe
dli man sad ko ka istorya sa akong papa gud kay na usab siya tungod ni daghan iyang problema.

until ato nasakit akong papa, wala nag dugay namatay.. gagmay pa ilang anak sa akong madrasta...
akong madrasta walay kwarta ni pauli nlng sa ilang probinsya GI BIYAAN KO SA SYUDAD NA AKO RA..
mao to.. diskarte sd ko ug ako.. call center2x aron mabuhi.. buhi jud ko paycheck by paycheck..
wala pa jud koy relatives dri.. so if magkasakit ko, ako ra jud usa..
hayyyyyy.. lisod giud na imong life TS..

I don't think ma pareho imong life sa akoa... but importante jud na ma kat-on ka ug imo..
ug naa kay chance, tiwasa jud imong skwela.. ingna imong papa na kinahanglan jud i secure niya imong pag skwela hantod maka human kag college then kinahanglan mag ipon kay kwarta..
kay although sad, ikaw man gud ang dli kaau super part sa ilang family..
you're the odd one out.. of course, imong madrasta unahon jud ang iyang mga anak..
it's a sad reality but I really hope na ma kat-on kag diskarte na imo..
love ur Dad while he's still with you.. talk to him about how you feel na usahay u feel neglected..
inga siya na ug mag rebelde man gani ka, there's a reason.. and that you need his attention more than ever kay wala gud kay mama.. make him understand jud..
hayyyyyyyyyyy.. maka hilak man pd ta hehehe..
although drama ka kaau, i hope TS na u will have a happy and succesful family life albeit the complications... pasagdehe na imong madrasta.. kay ikaw anak man jd ka..

[iwantmyboyfriend]

be thankful of what you have.
you still have your father.
he still supports you.

drop the teenage drama and be thankful for being alive.

a teenager will never understand the drama. ang batan-on, batan-on jud na..
I know because I was once a teenager... we all were..
everything is always easier said than done..