guys lang please....

[yvonne6]

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guys, men ha, i need your comment on this particular situation. please lang, walay mag bugal2. i dont know what to do on this particular situation. almost 3 months now, nag break mi sa akong exbf who i was with for almost 6 years, naa mi 4 year old son nga among gi share sa usag usa. karon, naa nakoy new special someone. this new guy knows everything about me and my ex. i mentioned na pud sa akong ex nga naay ga court nako. wala nuon pako mag sulti sa ako ex nga naa nakoy someone new. si new guy dili pud gusto nga directly mo tell ko ni exbf about niya (new) kay basin kuno mag think ug negative si ex. si new guy man gud thinks nga 3 months (almost) is too soon. but for me personally, dugay na gyud kaau gusto makigbuwag ni ex nako, years ago pa but i was the one who always begs nga di mi mag break kay tungod sa baby. few days ago, hapit sila nag abot sa hauz, si ex ug si new. na tense ko. mau lang gani kay wala na lang nako pa adtua si new sa hauz. i have not been in a situation like this. si ex man gud, di gyud puede na dili nami mag communicate ever because we have a son. si new guy wala may problema. ang among concern karon kay basin ma shock, ma surprise ba or worst, mag selos si ex ug unsa nya iyang mahimo. lain man sad kaau ug dili nako pa adtuon si new guy sa among hauz. i dont think naa pay right masuko si ex, diba. but mao lagi, dili ta ka tell sa huna2 sa guy. guys, kamo, natabo naba ninyo nga ma meet ang current sa inyong exgf? unsay feeling? naa ba gyud na sa inyong mind nga kalaming sumbagon aning tawhana or maka tell mo sa inyo self, wala na gyud koy labut kay break naman mi....please share naman. thanks

[sago]

if buwag namo sis sa imu ex, wa na cyay labot nmu ui but sa inyu anak, dapat d japon cya mo.undang sa iya support...

[jntio]

wla ky angay i hadlok ky wla namn mo sa imng ex, sa tan.aw ko lng noh ky my feelings kapa sa ex mo

[manjie]

depende rana sa panghuna2x sa imo ex.. pero para nako kung ako ang ex, mas mau kung imo ko sultian kay bati jud kau ng makalitan bitaw ka...in person pa jud nimo makita nga naa na diay kay bag-o.... bisan pag ex mo, naa gud moy past + naa pa jud moy anak.. in short naa moy pinagsamahan though dli cya fairytale kay bati ang ending sa karon pero who knows... if nahan jud ka ni new, mas mau kung imo personalon ug pasabot si ex na mao ni ang imong gusto, gusto ka malipay kay dli lang ang imong ex ang makapalipay nimo but naay uban tao willing to make you happy.. sugod ray lisud ana pero once masugdan ug istorya, ma ok rana tanan.. ayaw anang sigeg tago2x kay insulto kau nah.. sama rana sa nanikas.. =) way problima nga di masulbad sa maayong pag-istorya. GOOd LuCK sis..

[rAiNe_]

sis wala nay labot si ex sa imong personal na life..sa baby naa pa cguro but nmo, wala nah.. it's none of his business na if naa ka new..you need to be happy too..

[organizedchaos]

tell your ex sis.. don't wait nga inyong anak ang mosulti nga naay lain laki tig anha sa inyoha kay basin lainon na nuon og sabot sa iyang father.

[Klave]

You are giving him the best of both worlds that way (sort of lang), I've kept track of your threads and I truly believe your ex is a loser. Why do I say he has the best of both worlds?....Firstly, he is living under the feeling nga single siya kay buwag mo... Plus he still feels he is a good father because he is still able to make his presence felt with both you and your child. Let him face the consequences of his actions. People like your ex find pleasure in knowing that till now he is still an influence in your life, so you shouldn't give him the benefit. Are you going to wait for the new guy get tired with your indecision? You are truly lucky that there is still someone willing to take care of you and your child.

Point is.

You don't have to mind what your ex thinks...mahimo nya ka pareho sa akong mama na sobra na ka under sa akong papa...maski akong papa sayop dili ka barog akong mama sa iyang mga prisipyo.
Diri gyud ko muingon nga love is blind. Maski na klaro na kaayo...ang self-destructive nga behavior sa akong papa nag pull down na sa tibuok family uyonan gihapon sa akong mama.

[aozora]

Your ex shouldn't be in your house. You should not be seeing your ex or even talk to your ex about what's going on in your life. Most of all your love life. What the heck he cares about you and your new guy? Naa ba? Are you thinking straight? Murag you still need the comfort of your ex.

Have you completely moved on yvonne? Six years was a long time, I don't think you've moved on completely kay murag close pman gihapon mo. Like there was no huge thing that happened, like everything in the past is just okay so lets continue just like it is.

You have a son I know, but I think it's better to set some restrictions. Get your acts straight. Set boundaries between you and your son's father in order for your new guy to come in and be happy with him. If you truly love your new guy, you have to make your new guy the only guy in the world, even if it takes separating your son from his father. I think that's the best thing you can do.

No one except you is at fault in the situation.

On the other hand, it seems to me you're making this new guy a test dummy to see if it works or not. Poor guys. Or maybe I'm just wrong.

Anyway, I hope I've enlightened you somehow.

[medwarc]

kasal mo sa imo ex?

[yvonne6]

Your ex shouldn't be in your house. You should not be seeing your ex or even talk to your ex about what's going on in your life. Most of all your love life. What the heck he cares about you and your new guy? Naa ba? Are you thinking straight? Murag you still need the comfort of your ex.

Have you completely moved on yvonne? Six years was a long time, I don't think you've moved on completely kay murag close pman gihapon mo. Like there was no huge thing that happened, like everything in the past is just okay so lets continue just like it is.

You have a son I know, but I think it's better to set some restrictions. Get your acts straight. Set boundaries between you and your son's father in order for your new guy to come in and be happy with him. If you truly love your new guy, you have to make your new guy the only guy in the world, even if it takes separating your son from his father. I think that's the best thing you can do.

No one except you is at fault in the situation.

On the other hand, it seems to me you're making this new guy a test dummy to see if it works or not. Poor guys. Or maybe I'm just wrong.

Anyway, I hope I've enlightened you somehow.

oi, dili sad tawn dummy test ako new bf oi. he knows. dili baya diha dayun nagka kami, i took the time to think about what i really wanted. its just that the time is right. kabalo si new guy what happened that brought us closer. its just that i dont want to be unfair pud sa among anak sa akong ex. yes, i have set boundaries, although i have not told my ex nga naa nay bag o but i eventually will tell him. i am very happy with my new guy and we see each other almost everyday. we keep a constant communication and im trying all my best na ma feel niya kung unsa nako siya ka love. wala nako mag hope or mag expect na magkabalik pami sa akong ex. dili na pud jud ko. i know for a fact nga basin ma challenge siya i test ko kung kinsay mas bug at nila sa new guy. and he will just laugh if i take him back. so, dili naman siya magmahay sa time and chances akong gihatag niya sa sulod sa 6 years. unta makakita siya sa girl nga makapalipay niya truly because im happy na karon