- from my blog

I always question myself like: “Does True Love really exist?” Hindi lang ako, kundi pati kayo, diba?


So, ano ba talaga ang totoong love? naranasan niyo na bang tunay na umibig? Hindi pa or Perhaps?


Ang True Love kase.. hindi mo lang yan maibibigay o matatanggap sa iyong special someone kundi pati sa family and friends. But let’s talk about Real Love for your lover or someone whom you have feelings for (or one sided love.) If you’d ask me, I believe that True Love exists. But sadly speaking, it is RARE. Yeah, ang True Love ay bihira lang yan dumating sa ating buhay.



So, let’s answer to the 2nd question, “Ano ba ang True Love? or how do you know if it is real?”


Honestly, dati hindi talaga ako naniniwala sa True Love. Kase never ko pa na-experience yon! Until I’ve witnessed someone who experiences True Love. Yeah, believe it or not. I really know someone who is truly in love with a girl. Oh yeah, lalaki siya! Unbelievable right? Actually some people think that this guy is a player or babaero. Kumbaga maraming na-lilink sa kanya (showbiz na showbiz lol) actually he’s the type of guy kase na napaka-friendly pero kung ako ang tatanungin niyo.. Yeah! he’s kind of like babaero nga! Lol. But once, I asked him like: “Na-in love ka na ba?” he answered “Yeah.” And then I looked at him in disbelief. He just laughed. I was like: “Seryoso?” He smiled: “Oo nga! Na-in love na ako.. once.” So ayun, na-convince na ako! Na-gets ko na siya. Actually naputol yung usapan namin. May pinuntahan kase siya nung time na yon. So yun, last week. Online siya sa FB at dun ko tinuloy ang aking interview. “Talaga? para kaseng mahirap paniwalaan eh” Ba’t ba, eh napaka cynical kong tao! Lol. So yun.. yung conversation namin umabot talaga sa heart to heart talk. Haha. I couldn’t believe I was having a love discussion with a babaero. Lol. Of course I was curious and interested. I asked him so many questions. But he was nice enough naman to answer. He’s a friend din naman. So walang kaso yun (Actually, he's from Manila. Nagbabakasyon lang siya dito sa Cebu. Friend siya ng cousin ko at friends din kami.)

Eto yung conversation namin.

“We’re good friends. I’ve known her for more than 10 years. We remained friends after all that happened.”


Nagkaproblema daw kase sila before. Marami daw kase talagang hadlang sa pag-iibigan nila dati.


“Actually, naging bestfriend ko na siya ngayon. Pinagtibay kami ng panahon.”


“May BF ba siya?”


“Yeah..”


“So, hindi ka ba nasasaktan o nahihirapan?”


Based on my experience. Sobrang hirap kaya maging friends lang sa taong mahal mo. Ang sakit kaya na pinapanood mo siyang may ibang minamahal.


“Shempre, masakit. Pero hindi mahalaga sa akin yung sakit. I want her to be happy at alam ko na masayang-masaya siya sa BF niya.”


“That’s really nice. Ayaw mo ba siyang ligawan ulit if ever?”


“Alam mo, di kase dapat minamadali ang ganyang bagay.”


.. straight from the mouth of a babaero. I just couldn’t believe it.

"Pano kung sila yung magkatuluyan ng BF niya.."

"Kung kami, kami talaga. Pero kung hindi, okay lang din. Basta masaya siya. Ayun naman kase talaga ang importante sa akin, yung maging masaya siya."


“Basta, I’m always here for her. Isang text lang niya o tawag, andun na agad ako.”


“I don’t know, I just want to give.. I want to make her feel that I’m always here for her. I don’t expect anything in return. Masaya na kase ako na pinapakita ko sa kanya na mahal ko siya.”


“… and she wants a perfect relationship.. hindi ko kase maibibigay yun sa kanya. Takot akong masaktan siya ulit. She deserves someone better.”


I quoted: “Takot akong masaktan siya ulit.” Do you think this guy is just being coward?


“Shempre, I want to be with her.. but I prefer na mapunta nalang siya sa iba; yung taong hindi siya sasaktan at paiiyakin.”


“That’s so selfless of you. ”


“Basta, I’m always here for her. Willing akong ibigay ang lahat. Hindi ko siya iiwan kahit pa nasasaktan na ako. But at the same time, I'm not asking anything.."


Letting go for the sake of other person or sacrificing your own happiness for the sake of other person. I wonder how many people could ever done this self-sacrifice kind of love? It would take a great love to have the courage of doing such action. — TRUE LOVE.


Actually, kinilig ako. At na-speechless. Haha. Seriously, akala ko kase sa pelikula o fairy tales ko lang yun makikita. Well, I thought wrong! It happens pala in reality too!
Usually kase, ang mga tao lahat ay gagawin para lang makuha nila yung mahal nila. Well, sad to say, that is NOT true love. That is infatuation.

True Love and Infatuation are most often confused by many people

The difference between infatuation and love.

Infatuation: Wants the same feeling in return.
True Love: Not expecting anything in return and desiring the best and is willing to sacrifice for the sake of other person.


Source: diffen.com


Sobrang napabilib niya ako. I mean, he’s known to be a player/babaero. Tapos ibang klase palang magmahal.


“So, pano yung mga niligawan at nililigawan mo? hindi mo ba sila mahal?”


“I told you already, isang beses lang ako na-in love.”


“Ay hehe sorry naman. Curious lang ako masyado. Haha.”


Pero hindi naman sa nangingialam ako ha. I JUST WANT TO LEARN. Lalo na when it comes to love. Haha. Pero kita niyo yan? Akalain mong mangayari yun sa isang babaero? Hindi diba? Pero mula non, nagbago talaga yung tingin ko sa kanya. Kung dati naiinis ako eh ngayon idol ko na siya!

So yun, from that conversation na inspire ako. True Love does exist pala. Haaay. But yeah, that is something that will happen to you at least once in your life. At suuuuper lucky ang nakakaranas neto. Really really lucky! Ako kaya? Kailan pa?


“Ikaw, have you ever been in love?”
“No, I haven’t”
“Really?”
“Oohh, yun.. that was only infatuation. That wasn’t real.”