Is it ok to live away from husband and kids bec. of work?

[catnip23]

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Hi all.... I would like to ask your opinions about this... is it alright to live away from yuor family bec of your work.... I am actually working here in the city and my family is in the province.... my kids are also going to skul there..... I would go home every weekend...

But sometimes, in the middle of the week, I would miss them terribly and would want to go home... though, I have all the advantages in living alone here in the city but I still could feel that our decision to live this way might be wrong.....

pls help.... need some of your insights....

[d`monyita]

ay ok lang yung sa iyo kay duol ra man ka....within Cebu....

ako opinion ko kay lisod na basta another country.

[captpoloy]

Should also think that you are working because of them. Sometimes we have to sacrifice being away from our dear ones just to put food on the table. Well, if you can make your way working with the same earnings you have in the province where your family is there, then why not?

[klavel]

Though it requires a lot of sacrifice like the mere fact that you are away from your kids & husband except for weekends, just remember that you are doing it for them. Work nowadays is hard to find and being picky won't get people anywhere. At least in your case, you get to see them on weekends how much more those working overseas. Besides miss, love and motherhood sees no distance. Like i said, the main reason you took a job in the city is for them. 

[d`monyita]

just a thought here....naa na naman kaha here in cebu....dalhin na lang sa city....o di ba mas masaya?

how much do you spend in transpo every week-end?

[n`gel]

If there's no other choice don't feel guilty. Everybody's right, what's more important is food on the table and giving kids their education. But a working mom should make sure and make up for her absence especially with the kids when she's not working. Balance lang, dili lang pud palabi sa career. Kana nga worry ka love gyud nimo imo pamilya sakripisyo lang usa. Kung dili feasible nga imo dad-on diha kay magrent na pud ka puy-anan, sige lang bawia nalang imong kamingaw. May gani ka kay duol ra, samot na nang wala gyud sa pilipinas ang parent.

[purple]

iIt is okay if you work away from your kids if you also have a support group like your mother or someone who can take your place as a mother. Lisod gyud pag wala ang mother sa house. The responsibility of rearing kids and family rests more on the wife than the husband. Look at your financial status as a family, kung kaya sa husband lang to provide,it's better if gamay lang imo sweldo sa province. As a mother, dako gyud ang trade off if layo ka sa imong anak but then ok ra if you give quality time to them every visit.Find ways when you could be together as a family.Spend time with your kids while they are young. No amount of success can compensate for the failure in the home. God bless.

[twalalyn]

ako 1 nakos away sa akong husband for the last 3 years na hapit... pinaka lisud sa tanan labi na kn naa nay baby... i feel lyk a single mom sometyms kay ako man tanan pero ok raman ghapon coz we're helping each other out in other ways... lahi lang amo situation...dili 2ngod sa work kay kabw naman mi daan nga eng-ani mi 2ngod sa akong status pero antos lang kay maabot ra ang adlaw completo nami... ampo lang tanan and i jst tell myself that this is only a test to make myself and family a lot stronger...

[catnip23]

thanks for the inspiring messages guyz

those words really will keep me going....

lipay na sad ko kay uli na sad ko karon.... thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Kclan]

i'm also a family man away from home to make money for my family. actually, my wife has also an opportunity to go abroad, but it's harder if both parents are away from their children. i think it's ok as long as there is one parent looking for their children. you trust your husband to look for your kids, right?