Husband cheating, should you tell wife.

[captpoloy]

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They are both my friend, and I dont want any of them to get hurt.
If you were on my shoe what would you do?

[wicked_b]

maybe ill take my steps first:
= mkig.bonding sa wife (ask related situational questions, as in related jud)
= if i figure out nga naa wrong sa bsan isa nila..give advices to settle them up
= confront the cheater y he done it..
= try to fix things sa cheater nga side..
= if m.convince xa to stop, much better..
if iya no.un ko awayon, well, ila nana..atleast
ive done my part
= if grabeh ang cheater dli papugong
= and i let the time tell the truth nlang sad
= basta depende man gud sa situation on
how both parties react s ako help nila...
= OPTIONAL: maybe, i will act as a stalker s wife nga mo hatag
ug message nya nga her husband is in this place
doing milagros wit sum1, give details sa time and place..

mao ra jud ako idea..hehehe

[jamire]

hmmmm...talk ang kailangan jd.. were all human bya.. if masuku ka una? it wnt solve a thing. dba?

[baruto]

hhhmmmm....i know a husband whose been cheating on his wife for a million times!!! but we're not friends with his wife (i mean, "i know her and she knows me" level ra)...amigo pa jud mi sa husband...i opted not to tell the wife...

[tahbiapo]

how many times have you caught the husband cheating on his wife with another person? naa bay pattern? i mean, kun naay pattern, you might try videotaping his illicit activities. puede sad nimo picture-ran. secretly of course. kanang di ka makit-an, ikaw ra ang makakita nila, para naa kay proof. nya ipakita dayun sa wife ang proof.

[purple]

Yes you should tell the wife it's very unfair to her. If you were in her shoes would you want to be blinded by what's happening?Eventually mugawas ra man gyud na.Nothing secret will not be uncovered. Naa gyud na sa bible. Whatever is the reason sayop gyud nang mag cheat even if muingon ang bana nga love nia ang usa. In the first place he has a commitment. Para que na pakasal kung mangita pa ug lain.Whatever is the consequences of your action, it's still the two parties who will sort out their differences. Unya pa ka musulti when the relationship can not be repaired like magkaaanak na sa lain? as a friend your responsibility is to keep them together...God bless.

[captpoloy]

Thank you all for your replies, however, here are some of my fears. Since both of them are my friends. If I'm going to tell the wife, what would the husband fell for me? Murag, hilabtanon ra kaayo ko, diba? And if I'm not going to tell her, basin ingnon nya ko sa wife "you're not a true freind, pareho lang mo duha maayo pakongon inyong ulo!"

[purple]

ambot nimo uy...Just wait na lang nga masakpan sa wife..The wife is always the last to know.Cge lang, naa man sad karma.Having an affair is rampant nowadays, naa pa ba faithful karon panahona? Kani sad mga bayhana mupatol ug minyo maayo gyud mapreso unta. Unfair kaayo laws nato about ani. pabor sa mga laki. di ra ba na muundang ug dili masakpan bro, dili sad na muangkon kung way proof...Hay i pray na lang na cya nga makarealize.

[titaniumbox]

for me, yes. it would be your obligation db? its the right thing to do.. i know the truth hurts. but it would set them free.

masakpan raman pod na kadugayan db?

[Namnori]

It of course is up to you. Apparently, it bothers you enough to ask for opinions. Can you live with yourself if you don't tell her? Can you deal with the possibility of not only losing one friend, but maybe two? Do you feel that if you don't tell her, that you are in effect... lying to her?

You cannot put yourself in her shoes because you have no idea how she will react to this information, so I would not base my action or inaction on that.

It's your personal decision. What you do should be based upon your own personal values and beliefs.