Cooling Off

[jimmy128]

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just so everyone will know, the decision here as already been made just sharing the story and hope to get your views on the Cooling Off "Option" in relationships. so whatever you say wont change the decision

OK here is the story...

Me and the girl in my avatar pic have known each other for about 4 years now.. though wala jud mi nag himo ug official relationship or commitment, tabla ra gihapon ug kami.. when i visit her in davao, kami mag kuyog pirmi.. we hold hands... and other sweet stuff.. i've met her parents and siblings.. we go out on dates.. we go almost everywhere together, mura jud kami.. even our friends and family know that we are special to each other.. recently we talked about cooling off and giving each other space for us to grow separately for the time being.. so we can be ready when the time comes for me to "pop the question".

now a lot of people ask.. when is the "READY"? what do you mean by "READY"? well, the both of us both agreed that we would have to be ready in 3 particular aspects of our life.. Emotionally, Spiritually and of course, Financially.. though some of you may find it hard to understand. both of us are wanting to get married someday.. so let me put in some short explanations to the 3 aspects that i just mentioned.

1. Emotionally - both of us understand that if we want to have a happy and healthy relationship together or raise a family, we would have to be emotionally stable.. we cant deny it, most of us here rely a lot on our emotions in making everyday decisions.. if we feel like taking a bath we take a bath, if we feel lazy we dont work, if we FEEL that this a relationship isnt working we get out of it, if we feel like not doing our responsibilities and obligations we neglect them.. and that is no way to raise a family.

and most importantly, we have to learn to be independent from each other.. not the "you complete me" thing but "i can live on my own without you" why? what if something happens to either one of us? if we get to sad or depressed because of one of us dying or seriously getting hurt, then who would be left to take care of the family? if one of us may be out of the picture permanently or temporarily then the other will have to fill in... hope you get the point there >< kinda confusing lol

2. Spiritually - both of us are very religious people.. so as not to provoke any debates about religion or beliefs.. that will have to suffice :P

3. Financially - of course.. duh!! how do you expect to raise a happy family if you cant even support your own self financially? i mean, lets be rational and logical here people.. of course you want your wedding to be something that you will always remember, of course you want to live in a house big enough for the whole family, of course you want your own car so you can make sure your kids are safe when they go to school and back home. of course you want a stable income flow so you can put dinner on the table.. that should say enough

anyways those are the reasons for the cooling off thing.. we want to be ready in those aspects of life on our own 1st, before coming back together..

so.. your thoughts on cooling off or even maybe our decision? all comments and criticisms are welcome. and so i need not always post salamat everytime you post.. as mentioned earlier, our decision can not be altered anymore

thanks for your thoughts

[Su-Hae]

what if sa time sa inyong cool off you meet someone better? I thought mag cool off ra if naay something wrong sa mga feelings..pwede pud d i inani..

Kanang Financially sakto jud na imong gipanulti..dapat jud ready namong 2 ana in all that aspects you mentioned..

OT: wow! kadako sa pizza!!! gigutom noon ko gatan.aw..hmm..lami na ang pizza sa Calda Pizza?

[annerhexian]

mo react ko ha?
these phrase:
"Me and the girl in my avatar pic have known each other for about 4 years now.. though wala jud mi nag himo ug official relationship or commitment, tabla ra gihapon ug kami.."


Its like cooling off is no use but open relationship work things out for u in 4 years.
Base on ur tell type stories here.. Yes, Its good u talk samthing that must couple must do.
A good space and growing in each individuality is a good decision for the so called "situation".

I think.. ni mature mo brad.. pero u need more time jud kung unsa jud para ninyu for both future..

Mao cguru ni na left out sa uban and even I admitted to this kind of lacking.

Understanding the person u value most and as well the situation u are into.
Accept.
Decide.
ANd let time knows
when READY is okey to grab..

[jimmy128]

we already decided na kami in the end sis.. but you will never know what will happen..

OT:

uu lami jud kaayo as in lami! bwahahahah mu palit ko karon april 6 kay last pay nako from my last work ahahaha

@ annerhexian

lagi time lang jud.. only time will tell pero one thing is for sure.. dili pa ni ang time

[annerhexian]

OT: I like your thread.. naa ko na hbaw an duh.. hahahhahah thanks this one jim..!

[kiko]

priests do the same thing.. before they actually become priests.. they are given a few weeks to a few months to reevaluate their feelings and if they truly want to become priests..

not many couples are as brave and as mature as both of you.. i hope everthing turns out well for both of you..

[Su-Hae]

Jim, pwede ra jud d i na nga waly mo official statement na kamo pero murag kamo? kalisod sad ana oi..my gani ang girl nu ky wa sad ni ask unsa jud inyong status..aw..so nagsabot na jud d i mo na kamo na jud..hehe..maayo! ^^

bitaw, saludo ko ninyong 2 for being mature enough to make this decision..sundon nia ko ni..hehe.. God Bless to both of you!! ^^


OT: cge cge ako pud etry nako palit sa Calda Pizza..kalami na ikaon oi..hihi

[jimmy128]

OT: I like your thread.. naa ko na hbaw an duh.. hahahhahah thanks this one jim..!

well i hope this helped you out in a bit pud hihi

priests do the same thing.. before they actually become priests.. they are given a few weeks to a few months to reevaluate their feelings and if they truly want to become priests..

not many couples are as brave and as mature as both of you.. i hope everthing turns out well for both of you..

thank you kiko.. i hope the same thing too

Jim, pwede ra jud d i na nga waly mo official statement na kamo pero murag kamo? kalisod sad ana oi..my gani ang girl nu ky wa sad ni ask unsa jud inyong status..aw..so nagsabot na jud d i mo na kamo na jud..hehe..maayo! ^^

OT: cge cge ako pud etry nako palit sa Calda Pizza..kalami na ikaon oi..hihi

of course nag talk mi about "us" hehe... basically wala na siya lain pangitaonon sa guy and ako wala na koy pangitaonon sa girl :P

OT: go go lami jud.. basi librehan tka heheh

OT : lakaw sa ko kadali.. date with my manghod lol ad2 mi SM mu canvas ug laptop haha

[mhaw]

Jim, pwede ra jud d i na nga waly mo official statement na kamo pero murag kamo? kalisod sad ana oi..my gani ang girl nu ky wa sad ni ask unsa jud inyong status..aw..so nagsabot na jud d i mo na kamo na jud..hehe..maayo! ^^

bitaw, saludo ko ninyong 2 for being mature enough to make this decision..sundon nia ko ni..hehe.. God Bless to both of you!! ^^


OT: cge cge ako pud etry nako palit sa Calda Pizza..kalami na ikaon oi..hihi

bangas ka..ni simang napod ni! kuyog ko kaon sa calda ha? hehehe

whuoo taas2x jd...paminaw nimo bro unsa kha?MU?

[Su-Hae]

manglibre ka Jimmy? cge cge..kuyoga na si mhaw ai..hahahah.. adto mog SM? my pa mo..boring ky diri sa house..molakaw pud nia ko oi..

IT: Thanks ani imong thread..naa pud koi na learn..!